does she know that this is a date?

[Jenkins]

hey mates, so basically was wondering if anyone has had this experience before and can let me know how to work through this.

we are up late (studying for finals) and texting each other and such and I bring up if she is doing anything for the weekend to relax from finals, she replies saying no so I bring it up if she wants to hang out Saturday night, movies and dinner my treat to which she said sounded great and would check up on her parents to see if it was okay with them.


now my question is, I wonder if she see's this as a date or will it get kinda awkward later on?


P.S tell me if this sounds incoherent..... I am sleep depraved...

 

[Erana]

How old are yall? (not meaning to dismiss you as a kid or anything, but highschool and college are different, from what I hear.)
Really, I can't tell from that; depending on the girl, it may be better to ask her if it is, tell her that it is, or say something about it that indicates that it is a date, as if she knew about it.

 

[Super_Nintendo_Chalmers]

She probably just thinks it's a time to chill out.
That's basically the same way I ask my girl friends to hang out.

 

[Jenkins]

17 mate.

 

[TheNamlessGuy]

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[Jenkins]

It does sound like a date just because of the dinner and cinema.

You should have said just to chill out, then you wouldn't be in the perdicament!

Oh well if she wants a it do be a date let it be one.

oh no, I WANT it to be a date heh

 

[EgoDeusEst]

If all she knows is what you wrote here, I don't see how she could possibly be aware of it.

If you want her to know you have feelings for her and shit, stop dicking around with subtle hints and tell her.

 

[xDarc]

It's a date. Bring your A-game. Keep it flexible though. Do dinner. Movie... maybe not. If things go well over dinner take her on a little adventure after. She'll be yours.

 

[Dark Knifer]

Well your best bet either way, is just act normally. If she comes on to you then go with it, if not then act natural. This is the only advice I could think of.

 

[HandfulofWolf]

In my experience, she damn well knows it's a date. But you've given her room to wriggle with your wording. So if worse comes to worse she can always deny it being a date. It's all about how you play it during.

 

[Cowabungaa]

I don't think she thinks that you want it to be a 'date-date', if you know what I mean.

However, whatever she thinks, it is a good opportunity to make a move. Give it your best shot tiger.

 

[Batfred]

I remember this so well. You think it's a date and she thinks that you are great friends hanging out. The evening goes really well and you are both having a fantastic time in each others company.
It's now time to go home and you lean in for a goodnight kiss only to see a look of surprise on her face and her backing away "what are you doing?!"

Shit is now awkward and the friendship/ relationship is never what it could have been.

The moral of this time honoured tradition/ story is to let her make the first move or to tell you that she is having a really good date. That way you know exactly where you stand. If she does neither, then wait until you speak a day or two later and she if she drops any hints then.

Like xDarc says, bring your A-Game just in case.

Man I wish that someone had told me all of this when I was 17.

 

[StriderShinryu]

Sounds like a date to me, especially with her noting that she had to ask her parents if it was okay. *shrug* There is some wiggle room, I suppose, but I'd go in with the mindset of it being a date. It's a first date though, so whether it's a "date" or not there's always the potential of it being ackward. Sounds like you two already get along well enough so you should let her know you're definitely interested without jumping all over her. Open doors, treat her like a lady but let her control the general flow of things... and as one of the other posters suggested, don't be afraid to be spontaneous. "Dinner and a movie" is best used as a starting point instead of a hard and fast itinerary of what you have to do.

 

[1nsignia]

sounds like just friends.

 

[D64nz]

It's now time to go home and you lean in for a goodnight kiss only to see a look of surprise on her face and her backing away "what are you doing?!"

Specifically about that, you go 90%, let her come the other 10% in regard to that first kiss, if it happens.

Second of all it doesn't need a label so stop worrying if it's officially a date or not. If
you both go out, both have a good time, then there's a good chance you'll both want to do it again some time, and go on from there. Just go out, be yourself (the fun interesting part of you at least) and have a good time together.

As for dating in general theres far too much to say to type here. Lets just say David D is the man, and check out doubleyourdating.com sometime.

 

[Gethsemani_v1legacy]

The whole idea behind not openly saying "This is a date" is so that both parties get some wriggle room. If you don't manage to connect romantically you were just two friends hanging out, but if things go well then it is a date.

Basically, you don't want to be stuck on a date if you realize halfway through that the person sitting opposite of you is fun and all, but you have all the emotional affection for him/her as a dead carp would.

I would say that taking the first step is never a bad thing if you can muster up the courage for it (yes, it is hard as all of us who've done it knows). If she doesn't follow suit, it would never have worked either way, but if she follows through you are suddenly halfway into a relationship. If you wait for too long, she will put you in the "friends" compartment, and from there on out you have virtually no chances of getting into a romantic relationship with her.

As a closing note, when did we start believing 17 year old girls are idiots? She's probably just as nervous/psyched as you are about this. If you want it to be a date, she probably knows it is a date.

 

[Unholykrumpet]

Who isn't sleep depraved these days.

OT: If she's normal, I'd say she's aware it's a date. However, I've had experiences with really, really friendly/prude girls that have invited me over to their places or vice versa for movies or some other form of entertainment, just me and them, and making a small advance only to find that they don't see it as a date. Best of luck to ya though.

 

[SantoUno]

hey mates, so basically was wondering if anyone has had this experience before and can let me know how to work through this.

we are up late (studying for finals) and texting each other and such and I bring up if she is doing anything for the weekend to relax from finals, she replies saying no so I bring it up if she wants to hang out Saturday night, movies and dinner my treat to which she said sounded great and would check up on her parents to see if it was okay with them.


now my question is, I wonder if she see's this as a date or will it get kinda awkward later on?


P.S tell me if this sounds incoherent..... I am sleep depraved...

Good luck with that mate, I might find myself in the same boat 3 weeks from now, planning to take this girl out once I get my license to drive.

 

[twistedshadows]

If you told her that it was your treat, I don't see how she wouldn't get that it's a date. Most guys don't just up and pay for girls they are only interested in being friends with and most girls are highly aware of that.

 

[Mozza444]

In my experience, she damn well knows it's a date. But you've given her room to wriggle with your wording. So if worse comes to worse she can always deny it being a date. It's all about how you play it during.

Exactly this, she knows it. The thing being, you've not said that it is directly to her.. so she could always deny it if she is in an akward situation.

Be yourself, don't rush things seriously.. if all your thinking about is getting in her pants it wont go well..

If you just have a laff become FREINDS first, she's yours.

And make her laugh, she'll be putty in your hands

Off Topic: To the dude who i quoted, welcome to the escapist