does she know that this is a date?

[imperialwar]

leave your hand on the arm rest the whole movie, that way if she wants put her hand in yours you know you are in.
i used to go the movies with the same girl at least once a fortnight. I wanted us to be more then friends but she didn't see it that way. ALl her friends kept saying she should take me a little more seriously.
Oh well, now i am happily married to another woman, and i lost contact with the girl some years ago.

I would go with no she doesn't think of it as a date, but i would drop enough hints that you like her where you can.

 

[DracoSuave]

It's a date.

And if it's not awkward, you fucked up somehow.

 

[SmartIdiot]

Sounds highly likely it could be either of the two. Good luck with that.

But really, that's one of the oldest lines in the book, she must know it's a date. So, good luck with that.

 

[HandfulofWolf]

O.T- Cheers.

 

[DemonicVixen]

hey mates, so basically was wondering if anyone has had this experience before and can let me know how to work through this.

we are up late (studying for finals) and texting each other and such and I bring up if she is doing anything for the weekend to relax from finals, she replies saying no so I bring it up if she wants to hang out Saturday night, movies and dinner my treat to which she said sounded great and would check up on her parents to see if it was okay with them.


now my question is, I wonder if she see's this as a date or will it get kinda awkward later on?


P.S tell me if this sounds incoherent..... I am sleep depraved...

Erm, uncertain. On one hand she might get the gist and think your being flirty. On the other she might just think your being nice. Belive me, its hard for girls to work out what lads want even when they are making it blatently clear. I thought my lad was flirting with me, and at the time i fancied him but didnt dare ask him out. It continued and he was constantly acting flirty but making no move to ask me out. In the end i decided to find out. And sure enough, he had been trying to work out if i wanted to go out with him... weird huh?

Yeah, be careful, dont be pushy and just keep things subtle.

 

[havass]

Chill. Act normal and all. Then see if she attempts any advances. If she doesn't, congratulations! You've found a girl to hang out with without it getting all awkward. Unless you like her...then..GG.

 

[Eclectic Dreck]

She probably just thinks it's a time to chill out.
That's basically the same way I ask my girl friends to hang out.

I'd suspect this is the case. In most cases, unless it is explicitly stated from the outset, the best assumption one CAN make is that you are going to hang out as friends. I had a girlfriend at one point that constantly asked ME to hang out and whatnot for several months (and I would return the favor) and we constantly met in utterly ambiguous circumstances - doing homework, eating dinner etc. Eventually, annoyed with not truly undestanding what the relationship was, I simply asked for clarification in a joking fashion. Specifically, I was asked to attend dinner and a movie on a friday night after mid-terms and I laughed and said "Are you asking me on a date". After a moment's hesitation I was informed "of course silly". I had been "dating" for three months at this point and didn't have a clue.

This happens surprisingly often in my life, thanks to the fact that I have absolutely no capacity to tell if I'm being hit on or if someone is just being friendly.

 

[Wilbot666]

In my experience, she damn well knows it's a date. But you've given her room to wriggle with your wording. So if worse comes to worse she can always deny it being a date. It's all about how you play it during.

Exactly. This way she has room to bail. If you can afford it, insist on paying for dinner. If she agrees readily then that's often (but not always) an indication that she views it as a date and is letting you "take her out".
If however she insists on splitting the bill it can mean one of two things:

A) She wants it to be just hanging out with a friend with no hassles.

or

B) She's one of these feminists who see this as an insult instead of a nice gesture.

Also (and I stole this one from Scrubs but it happens to work) after dinner ask her if she'd like to get coffee, see a movie or call it a night. If it's one of the first two then you're in with a chance. If you're lucky then she'll say "Neither" and you're in. Worse case scenario then she says she has to get up early and at least all you've lost is the price of dinner and hopefully no pride.

PS: My gf just walked in and said "Generally dinner and a movie is a date. No question."
Hope this helps mate.

 

[leighjet]

just go with the flow of it if your not sure
dinner and a movie your treat sounds like a date to me..
just act casual though not over the top

 

[Zersy]

Girls Can be friends to the oppisite sex.

Men can't....

 

[ma55ter_fett]

hey mates, so basically was wondering if anyone has had this experience before and can let me know how to work through this.

we are up late (studying for finals) and texting each other and such and I bring up if she is doing anything for the weekend to relax from finals, she replies saying no so I bring it up if she wants to hang out Saturday night, movies and dinner my treat to which she said sounded great and would check up on her parents to see if it was okay with them.


now my question is, I wonder if she see's this as a date or will it get kinda awkward later on?


P.S tell me if this sounds incoherent..... I am sleep depraved...

Well, go out and do your thing, have loads of fun (make sure she has fun too, this will only work if she is in a good mood) and at the end of the evening say,

"This was alot of fun, how about we do this again sometime?"

She says, "sure anytime." (or something like that)

and you say, "How about again next saturday?"

she says, "yea, that sounds fun."

If the conversation goes like that then you know you have a good thing going, and you can rachet up the relationship ("Do you wanna be my girl?") anytime after the second "friend date."

Of course if she refuses the second "friend" date then you know that she didn't have that much fun with you and it's best to leave things be.

So... go get her tiger!

 

[BonsaiK]

hey mates, so basically was wondering if anyone has had this experience before and can let me know how to work through this.

we are up late (studying for finals) and texting each other and such and I bring up if she is doing anything for the weekend to relax from finals, she replies saying no so I bring it up if she wants to hang out Saturday night, movies and dinner my treat to which she said sounded great and would check up on her parents to see if it was okay with them.


now my question is, I wonder if she see's this as a date or will it get kinda awkward later on?


P.S tell me if this sounds incoherent..... I am sleep depraved...

Short answer: yes. Long answer: ----> http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161?page=23#4728667

 

[DazZ.]

What difference does it make if you call it a date or not?

If the opportunity arises to say you like her or whatever, go for it, otherwise just make her like you more.
Flirt.

 

[D64nz]

Surely it must hae been the weekend by now.. so how did it all go down?

 

[Omikron009]

You're "sleep depraved"? That made me laugh a lot. Thank you for making my day.

 

[Kamaitachi]

hey mates, so basically was wondering if anyone has had this experience before and can let me know how to work through this.

we are up late (studying for finals) and texting each other and such and I bring up if she is doing anything for the weekend to relax from finals, she replies saying no so I bring it up if she wants to hang out Saturday night, movies and dinner my treat to which she said sounded great and would check up on her parents to see if it was okay with them.


now my question is, I wonder if she see's this as a date or will it get kinda awkward later on?


P.S tell me if this sounds incoherent..... I am sleep depraved...

It depends really, is it just a casual meeting or are you aiming to get a little more out of it?

 

[Sleekgiant]

Isn't this for Bonsalk and his thread, just saying

 

[Good morning blues]

She should be pretty clear that it is, but it's each of your behaviour when you're out and about that will decide it.

 

[Deadlydorito]

Grow some balls and INFORM her its a date

There is nothing more annoying than not knowing whats going on, so just be direct about it.