Dumped.

[JIst00]

Yeah and it sickens me. It's also costing the NHS (and thus me) a huge amount of money each year in STD treatment because these fucking little whores (I mean that as a slight against both the boys and girls) don't understand self-control.

Are you sure you dont mean contrception?

 

[JIst00]

Bringing this back up made my head hurt and my chest get heavy.

I can't say I would forget about her, I have strong feelings for her, even though she's married now, I'd do it ALL OVER AGAIN.

If she was that important (and by what you were saying I'm pretty sure she was), you wont ever forget, you just learn to live with it. It's hard, it hurts and I don't know if it will ever go away, but you live and you learn. Just don't let it define who you are as a person.

 

[The Man With the Soap]

After a friends wedding back on the 21st Aug. We came home, got ready for bed then the dreading words 'we need to talk'. Apparently he had been having doubts for a few months, never told me anything but thought it a good idea to tell his friend...who told his wife (who was my best friend)...and all the while neither of them thought it a good idea to let me know anything. The first week of the break up he spent almost all of his spare time over their place, while I was trying to deal with things without involving my friends too much. In the end, both of my best friends decided I was making them uncomfortable with the way I was (emotionally driven and generally not myself) to the point where one of them actually told me she felt like she was gonna have to choose sides...guess who's?

Now, I do not talk to one of these friends while I'm on speaking terms with the other. But I never at any point during our break up tried to involve them to the point that my ex did, nor did I expect anyone to choose sides. But these girls were my friends since high school and he had only known them roughly 2 years. He has come up with every excuse under the sun to justify his behaviour which pisses me off. Even telling me that during our entire relationship that he never felt he could be truly open with me...there's goes my trust completely.

So yeah, there is a lot more to that. But it would take me far too long to go through it all.

Everything you love will either reject you or die.

I have had a few relationships, but they were all meaningless. There was no passion in any of them, and two ended with her cheating on me. I haven't considered a relationship since freshman year because all of the girls at my school are hypocritic, stuck-up bitches. I have given up on the whole idea of love. Every couple either ends up resenting each other and divorcing, or one of the partners will never be home. I'm just going to focus on my plans for the future.

 

[Aux]

I have been dumped over the phone twice, which was alright with me at the time. I find as I get older women grow balls and actually want to end things face to face. This is the way I have ended any relationship I have been in so I am glad that the people I date a least can do things face to face.

The worst was being dumped for some random guy online. I pretty much lost all respect for that girl.

 

[TriggerHappyAngel]

I had a relationship for a month, with the first love of my life.
But she was an Emo who never told me anything about her personal problems, rejected my help and she even cut herself ... so I had no other choice then to just break up with her ... still miss her though.

 

[Macgyvercas]

I broke up with my girlfriend of two years because I could tell she had feelings for her friend, and I didn't want anyone to end up getting more hurt than necessary. She assured me for about a month beforehand that she didn't have any feelings for him in the slightest, but two weeks after we broke up they were together and having sex.

Needless to say, I haven't talked to her since.

Dude...that's rough. I wouldn't even know how to react to that.

OT: I've only been in two relationships. The first I ended because we lived kinda far apart and I couldn't drive yet. The second one she ended because she didn't feel the connection anymore.

I'm still good friends with both of them.

 

[technoted]

Hooray for Facebooks relationship status, let that do all the dumping for you!

 

[AlwySumwherElse]

My woe is me story begins with a three year relationship with its ups and downs and ends with not hearing from him for a day and a half. He cheats on me with a girl he just met at college orientation, calls me over and dumps me cause he knows he can do better then me. Needless to say it was pretty brutal, but up until then i had always done the dumping. At least now i know i can handle it.

 

[Serenegoose]

Have you ever felt things were going good, only to be left behind one day? Tell me your cringe-worthy stories of relationship woe.

Personally, I've never been the one to end a relationship, and I've almost never been dumped anywhere but online. Seriously, is leaving someone online the new norm?

Face to face relationship ending is hard for some people. They either can't handle it or don't want to see/deal with the other person, etc. Actual paid services for this exist in my area, for people to pay someone to call their BF/GF and announce they're broken up. I've done both of my breakups face to face, and it's very tough to be on either end. Seeing their reactions, their expressions and just how they react afterwords can make a big difference.

In this notion, internet breaking up seems to be an easy way out of a direct face to face breaking up. :/

You keep saying stuff I want to respond to. Did you volunteer to take up some of Outright Villainy's workload?

I think the whole act of 'breaking up' with someone is fraught with problems. We have the idea that a face to face break up is better than phone/text/email/IM - it's certainly braver than them, but there's factors. For example, if you have a long distance relationship, travelling to someone to break up with them is pretty much out of the picture. Either you do it right at the end of your visit or you do it right at the start but the whole prospect either way is going to totally colour the experience. Phone or whatever is the only remotely sensible way to do it.

As far as other relationship types go, there's always the possibility that 'easy ways' to break up with people actually limit heartbreak in the long run. How many people stay together because breaking up is just too hard? How much unhappiness is caused because the idea of just taking that step is so... big in that persons mind they can't do it? It certainly sucks for the recipient - the stigma of being 'dumped by text' is considerable. But is it worse than being lead on for months in a loveless relationship you actually think is going somewhere? I'm not so sure about that.

 

[nofear220]

I broke up with my girlfriend of two years because I could tell she had feelings for her friend, and I didn't want anyone to end up getting more hurt than necessary. She assured me for about a month beforehand that she didn't have any feelings for him in the slightest, but two weeks after we broke up they were together and having sex.

Needless to say, I haven't talked to her since.

Ive been in a similar situation, but there was cheating involved. The only thing that makes me angry is that those types of people are too full of themselves to look back at how badly they fucked up and think that they should apologize, hell I bet Ill never cross her mind again which bothers me a bit, but at the same time I couldn't care less.

 

[IsraelRocks]

Best thing to do when dumped is wait a while, make her want you again and then dump her fat ass.

 

[Bobsonnn]

Generally when the girls ended it they've at least done it in person and we remain on decent terms.

Although one did end during a texting argument, that one was just fairly amusing.

 

[7moreDead_v1legacy]

My wife ran off with a the main tank...Do I win the internet for that one? (100% Truth)

 

[CarpathianMuffin]

My ex just broke up with me one day to get back with her ex boyfriend. Made it somewhat satisfying when he cheated on her.

 

[Bobsonnn]

Untrue, between the end of the renaissance to the start of the 1960's chastity was the norm. Now I'm not arguing that this situation is good either because it was largely due to religious and social oppression, but neither situation is great.

Actually, that's untrue. At least since Victorian times, sex was incredibly common, hence the fact that there was approximately one prostitute on the streets of Britain for every 12 men. That doesn't really imply that there wasn't a whole lot of demand. It was pretty much the same in youth culture at the time.

 

[Pandalisk]

I was dumped in a graveyard....a suitable location no?

"Here lie my hopes and dreams" *Sniff*

 

[triggrhappy94]

i've only been dumped once, and it was online, which was kinda symettrical because it started online too. I say it coming, and was i probably would have ended it if it got any worse then what it was on the last couple days

 

[Underground Man]

I'm in my 20s and I've never dated. People have asked but I've never accepted. As an asexual, I know it wouldn't work out. How to tell someone you like that the thought of them touching you makes you feel like throwing up a little? They get all offended and stuff for some reason.

I'll just chill here in the corner alone.

 

[Asturiel]

I broke up with my girlfriend of two years because I could tell she had feelings for her friend, and I didn't want anyone to end up getting more hurt than necessary. She assured me for about a month beforehand that she didn't have any feelings for him in the slightest, but two weeks after we broke up they were together and having sex.

Needless to say, I haven't talked to her since.

I believe it was Ramona Flowers who said "Everybody in this town is bitches". Sorry to hear about that mate, but it's for the best.

*Hugs*

OT: I have been exclusively the dumpee and while it does hurt each time, I do find myself refusing to show any emotion when it happens. Instead just leaving there with the straight face, and often enough it stays there throughout human contact time, only coming out when I'm alone at home, and even then it's in small spurts of sheer loneliness.

However there was this one time with a girl where I was going to break up with her because I wasn't emotionally invested in it and I didn't want to hurt her anymore than I had to. Low and behold she had the same idea and dumped me, seemed very hard for her and I sympathized and got the fuck away from her and kept my distance. So when on an alternate route out of class and home I run into her doing the same thing and feeling like a total ass. That one was unpleasant, more so than the others because of what I had done, not what happened to me.

Anyway, online breakups are pathetic and nobody with any dignity should do it.

 

[Aureli]

I got dumped by a guy over the phone, through a friend. (He told our friend to call me and let me know it was over. Our friend has no spine, and did as he was told) And he was cheating on me with a girl two years younger through our entire short-lived relationship(3 months).