Dumped.

[The Man With the Soap]

I'm in my 20s and I've never dated. People have asked but I've never accepted. As an asexual, I know it wouldn't work out. How to tell someone you like that the thought of them touching you makes you feel like throwing up a little? They get all offended and stuff for some reason.

I'll just chill here in the corner alone.

You have truly risen above. People are over-rated. We all cling to our pitiful lives, prisoners of our material possessions. Nothing is static. Everything is falling apart.

 

[thom_cat_]

My last GF figured out she didn't really want a boyfreind, and now, many months later, she still doesn't have one. So I'm moderately happy that she didn't lie, but I'm still feeling like shit because I still like her.

So yeah, she kept shrugging me off at the end of the relationship and I had to confront her to find out what she wanted, so yeah. I made the move, but she broke it off. Complicated, yes?

 

[TheSteeleStrap]

No, it's just something people do when they don't have the stones to do it in person.

 

[Peteron]

Never been in a relationship unfortunately. I was going to, but things just didn't work out between us. Now we don't talk to each other.

 

[Underground Man]

I'm in my 20s and I've never dated. People have asked but I've never accepted. As an asexual, I know it wouldn't work out. How to tell someone you like that the thought of them touching you makes you feel like throwing up a little? They get all offended and stuff for some reason.

I'll just chill here in the corner alone.

You have truly risen above. People are over-rated. We all cling to our pitiful lives, prisoners of our material possessions. Nothing is static. Everything is falling apart.

I don't know if I'd call it rising above. It's more just embracing apathy. Every problem in life can be solved if you just say, "You know what? I don't care."

Of course, everyone else thinks I'm a loser but, well, I don't care.

 

[MelziGurl]

After a friends wedding back on the 21st Aug. We came home, got ready for bed then the dreading words 'we need to talk'. Apparently he had been having doubts for a few months, never told me anything but thought it a good idea to tell his friend...who told his wife (who was my best friend)...and all the while neither of them thought it a good idea to let me know anything. The first week of the break up he spent almost all of his spare time over their place, while I was trying to deal with things without involving my friends too much. In the end, both of my best friends decided I was making them uncomfortable with the way I was (emotionally driven and generally not myself) to the point where one of them actually told me she felt like she was gonna have to choose sides...guess who's?

Now, I do not talk to one of these friends while I'm on speaking terms with the other. But I never at any point during our break up tried to involve them to the point that my ex did, nor did I expect anyone to choose sides. But these girls were my friends since high school and he had only known them roughly 2 years. He has come up with every excuse under the sun to justify his behaviour which pisses me off. Even telling me that during our entire relationship that he never felt he could be truly open with me...there's goes my trust completely.

So yeah, there is a lot more to that. But it would take me far too long to go through it all.

Everything you love will either reject you or die.

I have had a few relationships, but they were all meaningless. There was no passion in any of them, and two ended with her cheating on me. I haven't considered a relationship since freshman year because all of the girls at my school are hypocritic, stuck-up bitches. I have given up on the whole idea of love. Every couple either ends up resenting each other and divorcing, or one of the partners will never be home. I'm just going to focus on my plans for the future.

I forgot to mention that this was a 4.5 yr relationship...10 months of which we were engaged, the wedding was next October.

 

[FamoFunk]

I've only been the one to dump people, always done to their face, I could never do it over the internet or text/phone... gutless.

I'm now in a happy relationship of 3years so far.

 

[DC_Josh]

Teens in London don't date, they copulate. It repulses me.

This is true in Scotland as well; we have more teen mums than adult ones.

Scotland is such a brilliant country. Our scumbags reproduce at a terrifying rate.


on topic:
I was at his house on the saturday, saw my favourite band on the sunday. I was beyond happy. Then on the Monday night I got dumped for no apparent reason, blocked on msn/facebook/xbox live and that was that. fun times, mate! :')

This recently happened to a girl-mate of mine. Only advice I can give you is try not to sweat it, tends to just he the fool of a lad pushing his massive insecurities on you. Did he give a reason?

That or he wants be a a dick and have you chase him.

 

[Gurk]

Ahh well my ex boyfriend cheated on me, then proceeded me to tell me that I'm a horrible person. I discovered that he cheated on me because the twat decided to do it at the party we attended together! He was far too generic for me, though.

 

[Talon_Skywarp]

Man the fuck up and take the bullet I say.

 

[RabbidKuriboh]

At least most of you had the chance to be dumped or dump someone I've just turned 18 and the closest thing i've had to a relationship was a girl in school that liked talking to me because i was "interesting", not that she thought i was witty/handsome but she liked seeing the weird way i see the world.Needless to say i had chance after chance to tell her how i felt but my cowardice prevented me now i am convinced i am doomed to live life without knowing a proper relationship.


Que female readers to go "D'aaaaww" which ironically i hear a lot from the oposite sex

 

[Timmehexas]

I was dumped by my girlfriends best friend in a text message, but its okay I was 14 and trying to compensate for being gay so I deserved it. Girls are icky anyway.

 

[EgoDeusEst]

A relationship can end in two ways: A tragic breakup, or death.

Optimism is a good thing sometimes.

Also, I don't remember where I got the quote from.

 

[Zer_]

Untrue, between the end of the renaissance to the start of the 1960's chastity was the norm. Now I'm not arguing that this situation is good either because it was largely due to religious and social oppression, but neither situation is great.

Actually, that's untrue. At least since Victorian times, sex was incredibly common, hence the fact that there was approximately one prostitute on the streets of Britain for every 12 men. That doesn't really imply that there wasn't a whole lot of demand. It was pretty much the same in youth culture at the time.

And furthermore, chastity is totally useless when hooking up and marrying a 14 year old was rather common too. The same shit happened then, it was just viewed in a different light and more socially acceptable through things like "marriage" and etc...

 

[BGH122]

Oh, please. That has been a leading phenomenom in youth culture ever since there WAS youth culture. Don't pull the 'the world is going to shit' card on me, it's been shit all along.

Untrue, between the end of the renaissance to the start of the 1960's chastity was the norm. Now I'm not arguing that this situation is good either because it was largely due to religious and social oppression, but neither situation is great.

Massive Citation Needed as the evidence is to the contrary.

You've got the oppression right, but not the chastity that is for sure.

Cite your point too please. Furthermore, showing that phenomena like prostitution were rampant doesn't prove that 'young people have always been at it' because sex due to necessity isn't equivalent to promiscuity by choice. Here's a citation for increasing pro-promiscuity norms (only wikipedia, I'm afraid):

[...] before the 1920s the Victorian era was much more conservative than even the 1930s and 1950s. Due to the invention of TV and the increasingly wide use of it in the 1950s, a vast majority of Americans had television by the 1960s.

This mass communication device, along with other media outlets such as radio and magazines, could broadcast information in a matter of seconds to millions of people, while only a few wealthy people would control what millions of people would watch. Some have now theorised that perhaps these media outlets helped spread new ideas among the masses.

Yeah and it sickens me. It's also costing the NHS (and thus me) a huge amount of money each year in STD treatment because these fucking little whores (I mean that as a slight against both the boys and girls) don't understand self-control.

Are you sure you dont mean contrception?

It's equivalent: contraception isn't always available and when it isn't they just have sex anyway because they have no self control. Furthermore, a lot of teenagers in the UK underclass don't even use contraception, presumably because it makes sex significantly worse for the male so instead of having the self control to just have a worse experience they just do it without.

Untrue, between the end of the renaissance to the start of the 1960's chastity was the norm. Now I'm not arguing that this situation is good either because it was largely due to religious and social oppression, but neither situation is great.

Actually, that's untrue. At least since Victorian times, sex was incredibly common, hence the fact that there was approximately one prostitute on the streets of Britain for every 12 men. That doesn't really imply that there wasn't a whole lot of demand. It was pretty much the same in youth culture at the time.

You're first point (prostitution) I've heard before so I won't ask for citations, but it's an irrelevant point: having promiscuous sex for money out of poverty is a completely unrelated issue to having promiscuous sex by choice for pleasure. The prostitution argument doesn't work.

Please cite your source(s) for the statement that the non-poverty stricken teenagers were having promiscuous sex.

 

[Darth_Dude]

Teens in London don't date, they copulate. It repulses me.

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Whats's copulate?

 

[FallenJellyDoughnut]

I have never been in a relationship I have had multiple casual encounters but in the end I am still incredibly lonely and angry with myself for not having/being in a relationship. My repressive anger causes me many physical problems such as skin irritation and on one occasion a peptic ulcer.

I hate it when I see happy couples together (and happy people in general), one time on the bus home I saw a couple just being happy in each others company; one arm around the other all that malarky and I had to more seats so I didnt have to look at them it honestly made my blood boil just seeing what seems so out of reach for me.

I have had anger management in school and it helped alot but now I have just gone back to square one. I have gotten back into that habit of repressing the majority of my emotions and now I fear that it might end up killing me (in one way or the other).

tl;dr: My troubled childhood causes me to feel anger and hostility against happy people (and couples) and my repression of that anger will probably kill me.

If it makes you feel any better I am incredibly lonely and unhappy.

I'm in my 20s and I've never dated. People have asked but I've never accepted. As an asexual, I know it wouldn't work out. How to tell someone you like that the thought of them touching you makes you feel like throwing up a little? They get all offended and stuff for some reason.

I'll just chill here in the corner alone.

You have truly risen above. People are over-rated. We all cling to our pitiful lives, prisoners of our material possessions. Nothing is static. Everything is falling apart.

Cool Story Bro. Do you really live by this? Honestly? Enjoy it while you can, you're not here long.

 

[Nvv]

Untrue, between the end of the renaissance to the start of the 1960's chastity was the norm. Now I'm not arguing that this situation is good either because it was largely due to religious and social oppression, but neither situation is great.

Well, you could say that the ideal virtue was chastity, but I highly doubt it was the norm in the lower social classes.
Other than that I agree with you.

OT: I have never been dumped, and I've never dumped anyone. Mostly due to my shy nature and one succesful (so far) relationship.

 

[Smokescreen]

Oh, please. That has been a leading phenomenom in youth culture ever since there WAS youth culture. Don't pull the 'the world is going to shit' card on me, it's been shit all along.

Untrue, between the end of the renaissance to the start of the 1960's chastity was the norm. Now I'm not arguing that this situation is good either because it was largely due to religious and social oppression, but neither situation is great.

Massive Citation Needed as the evidence is to the contrary.

You've got the oppression right, but not the chastity that is for sure.

Cite your point too please. Furthermore, showing that phenomena like prostitution were rampant doesn't prove that 'young people have always been at it' because sex due to necessity isn't equivalent to promiscuity by choice. Here's a citation for increasing pro-promiscuity norms (only wikipedia, I'm afraid):

[...] before the 1920s the Victorian era was much more conservative than even the 1930s and 1950s. Due to the invention of TV and the increasingly wide use of it in the 1950s, a vast majority of Americans had television by the 1960s.

This mass communication device, along with other media outlets such as radio and magazines, could broadcast information in a matter of seconds to millions of people, while only a few wealthy people would control what millions of people would watch. Some have now theorised that perhaps these media outlets helped spread new ideas among the masses.

You're going to 1) make a claim about human sexuality stretching for about 500 years and then insist that I prove my point--when I ain't making the claim and then 2) back it up with a WIKI link that discusses the /Victorian/ era (early 1800's) and specifically is talking about attitude shift in the 1960-70's?

Ha. Ha.

Just because there was an oppressive view of sex doesn't mean people didn't have it. Hell, arranged marriages were set up for children as young as 12.

Just because there was an oppressive view of sex didn't mean people weren't having rampant amounts of it from young to old ages. I cite the 8 billion people on the planet.
/ha

If you want to argue that things are more sexualized than they were 100 years ago, you got it; I'll support that argument. However, that isn't your argument. Your argument is that 'young people can't keep it in their pants now and it's pissing me off!'

Well, they NEVER could.

However, I'm not here to convince you; I'm here to demonstrate your argument doesn't hold water. I'll leave that to the forum to weigh. If you're looking for thought on the idea that human beings are far more sexual than most other species on the planet, then I'd recommend Sex at Dawn (which I have to confess I have not finished yet). Or just look at our species behavior vs everything except bonobos. We like to fuck. A lot. It's our nature and I figure there are two options:

1) THOSE DARN KIDS! Whhhhhhhhaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrgggbl!

2) Educate them so they know what they're getting into. Societies that do this tend to have lower teen pregnancy rates than societies that don't. Which means more of your hard earned money stays with you and that seems to be something you care about.

/edited to seem less snarky; apologies for that

 

[TimbukTurnip]

Only had 2 girlfriends, both asked me out and both dumped me, however at both dumps I was close to dumping them as it just wasn't working.
The first dumped me by text and when I didn't have my phone, the other over Bebo mail (old social network no one uses anymore)