Ender's Game Author Asks For Tolerance After Boycott Threat

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You pay for a ticket to see the movie. Part of your payment goes into his pocket. He uses part of that money to make donations to anti-LGBT organizations. Regardless of how you feel about him or his work, any money you give him he partially gives away to support certain agendas. That's just the way money moves. Now, if he was willing to refuse any earnings he could garner from the box office then this would be a non-issue, we could all just see the movie knowing no whacked out, dogmatic, homophobia-endorsing pamphlets were paid for with our financial contribution, but I doubt that'll be the case.

Card is right though; it's a moot point. Whatever money he makes off of this movie, he can't change the tides of time. So all in all, see it or don't, he knows he's swimming upstream.
 

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Master of the Skies said:
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Mumorpuger said:
Unless a person incorporates their particular brand of prejudice into their works, I separate the creator from the creation. It seems like most people can't do that though.
THANK YOU. I WANT TO MARRY YOU NOW.

People don't understand that public figures have jobs just like the rest of us. You don't hate your co-workers personally for what they do at work. You hate them (or not) for what kind of people they are. What makes public figures any different?

Politicians get the worst of it. Just cause they support agendas politically that you dislike, doesn't necessarily mean they do so personally. They have obligations to their peers in their parties just like we do to our co-workers.
Your first bit there is pretty backwards. They dislike him for his bigotry, not his work. Dislike like that shouldn't just go away because we're talking about his work since he gets money from it.

And he personally supports bigotry. No one here has an obligation towards him as a co-worker any such thing, your post is all confused.

Kurea said:
If the non-homophobic community shows him tolerance, we'll only prove ourselves to be morally superior over him. Does he *want* to be viewed as the unwitting villain in this story? Nobody likes a hypocrite, Card.
He is tolerated, no one's asking for laws to be made against him. People just don't want to give money or any kind of support to someone who's as bigoted he is, and as vocal about it as he is. It's a bizarrely annoying double standard those of his sort have where they twist the world tolerance so that when it applies to them they expect EVEN MORE than what they're not willing to grant others.

Evil Smurf said:
A friend of mine *cough* is a against gay marriage, so said friend understands where this writer guy is coming from. Besides what does ideological beliefs have anything to do with products they make?
It has to do with money going to someone whose ideological beliefs spit on 10% of the population as not deserving of the same rights as the rest of the population.

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An interesting plea, given that tolerance was definitely not on Card's agenda, at least not before his wallet was threatened.
This is disgusting. Seriously. You ought to be ashamed of this.
Card may be a bigoted, small-minded man, but he had the good grace to keep his backwards views out of his writing, and it is shameful that great work is being maligned because of the author's beliefs.
Then you throw this line in. Are you a child? Because this is childish. If you want to write an article calling him a hypocrite, you ought to damn well do it, not sneak in tiny passive-aggressive notes.

Shame on you.
There's a difference between boycotting and maligning something. I'm waiting to see where anyone has said his work is bad for it. And it's not childish to throw it in because it's well worth hinting it. A nut job who talks about revolution in regards to the possibility of gay marriage switching their stance when money is involved later down the line deserves a dig like that.
Do you dislike paedophiles? Do you read any of Lewis Carroll's work (such as the Alice books)? Do you listen to Dr. Dre? He is a woman beater. How about Tim Allen (Galaxy Quest, Home Improvement, ect)? He was a drug addict who sold his friends down the river for a reduced sentence. Elvis Costello was a racist (as is Kramer from Seinfeld). Marvin Harrison (american football player) is an attempted murder. Chuck Berry was a pervert (as is PeeWee Herman). I could probably go on for quite a while, but the point is, I can almost guarantee that you enjoy some form of entertainment from someone you would probably despise, but because OSC was public about his indiscretion you want to organize a boycott.

My main point here is this, people only seem to be outraged when they are told they should be. Otherwise they don't care enough to look into the source of the things they enjoy. Hell if half the people knew what went on at the farms where they got their meats they would probably go vegan. However when I attempt to tell people about this stuff, they don't want to hear it shortly there after.

If you want to make a statement and not buy his stuff, great. However, don't expect other people to always follow suit. Was what he said/did wrong? Yes! Does it affect the quality of his work? No. Bottom line, if you want to avoid him I will support you. If you try to tell other people they are wrong for not wanting to support him, I will tell you that you are wrong.
 

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barbzilla said:
Marriage didn't start as a religious institution, or at least not religious in the sense of belonging to any extant religion. So far as we are aware marriage predates history, and thus any religion we know about. Further marriages in earlier societies, such as in ancient Greece, didn't always require much in the way of the blessing of any particular gods.

Further even if your argument held true, for it to have any validity at all one would also have to deny heterosexual atheists the right to marry - which frankly the US government does not do.

Still further, even after banning atheist marriage you would still have to allow gay marriage in religions which allow it - as otherwise you would fall foul of the establishment clause of the first amendment.
 

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Bruce said:
barbzilla said:
Marriage didn't start as a religious institution, or at least not religious in the sense of belonging to any extant religion. So far as we are aware marriage predates history, and thus any religion we know about. Further marriages in earlier societies, such as in ancient Greece, didn't always require much in the way of the blessing of any particular gods.

Further even if your argument held true, for it to have any validity at all one would also have to deny heterosexual atheists the right to marry - which frankly the US government does not do.

Still further, even after banning atheist marriage you would still have to allow gay marriage in religions which allow it - as otherwise you would fall foul of the establishment clause of the first amendment.
*sigh*

If you look back at my arguments, you will see I admit that marriage as the term predates any modern religions. However, marriage as it exists today (a joining of two people in love) started as an evolution of a pagan rite. I don't really consider what came before that marriage as we know it since it was basically a contract between men for ownership o fwomen. As far as how it originated, nobody actually knows. It could have been religious for all we known. What we do know is that marriage was first recorded in 2500s BC Mesopotamia, a center for pagan religions at the time.

How does anything I say relate to preventing anyone from marrying whomever they choose? All I said is that the religious portion and the political portions need to be separated. You need to go re-read everything I wrote. I don't know why everyone thinks that I am saying that gays shouldn't marry. I am pro-gay marriage.

As for your final statement, I think that the church should be allowed to marry whomever they wish to marry inside their religious beliefs. I also think that the government should have a "legal" marriage or legal joining that should be allowed to any two people who want to be married, granting them all of the legal benefits therein. This means that I support marriage between any couple, I just think that the term is being confused as it is. It has a certain duality about it that needs to be changed. Separating the church and the state portions of marriage is how I think this could be accomplished.

As a fine note: Please take note, I say religion and church, I never say which religion or what church. I don't support organized religion, nor do I think that marriage belongs to any one religion. I still don't know why everyone seems to think that I am A: Against gay marriage and B: christian. I am neither of these things.
 

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8-Bit_Jack said:
Master of the Skies said:
There's a difference between boycotting and maligning something. I'm waiting to see where anyone has said his work is bad for it. And it's not childish to throw it in because it's well worth hinting it. A nut job who talks about revolution in regards to the possibility of gay marriage switching their stance when money is involved later down the line deserves a dig like that.
It IS childish, BECAUSE he "throws it in". It's bad journalism, and just generally shitty behavior in general.
And you're right, no one is insulting the work... except when that they relate his works to his personal beliefs, which, to date, I have yet to find anything matching. Does anyone in Ender's Game go on a rant about how faggots destroying the sanctity of marriage ruined the Earth economy? Hell, the Homecoming Saga had a gay male as one of the secondary characters, who was treated with respect by the character he confesses to, and the book goes out of its way (literally, it stops plot progression to do this) to draw the reader's sympathy for the character and the bigotry he and others are beset by.

Look, if you don't want to see ender's game because Card is against gay marriage, fine. But I think that's a shitty thing to do. And whether that's true or not, THIS ARTICLE is shameful.
It's not about the content of the stuff he writes. It's the fact that Orson Scott Card donates to organizations that oppose gay marriage, so when you buy something of his, you're funding bigotry.

If he just opposed gay marriage, but didn't much of anything beyond vote against it, I probably wouldn't have much of an issue with putting money into his pocket. But I know what he does with that money, so I won't.
 

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I'm seeing a lot of 'but he doesn't incorporate his hatred into his books' arguments from Card's defenders, which is actually incorrect. Regardless if your personal opinions, Ender's Game was the only book of his to be unambiguously well-received, and even then he incorporated portions of his own beliefs into them. I can't sight you sources but the link does exist that the 'Buggers', the primary antagonist race in the book, were named such because the term apparently referenced sodomy/sodomites. After Ender's Game his writing style devolved to the point where he was either bland or offensive.

The attempt to defend this author is demonstrably disgusting, with people making false equivalences with H.P. Lovecraft (dead for quite a long time now) or Walt Disney (also dead for a rather lengthy period of time) because apparently they don't want to admit to themselves that the man behind something they like is a raging bigot. Or maybe it's the fear of guilt-by-association that has his defenders frothing at the mouth? This man has called for the armed uprising and slaughter of people who don't fit his narrow views of what America should be in the event that truly equal rights ever becomes a thing, he's not some misunderstood victim, he's not the unfortunate target of the political correctness brigade. He's someone who makes money, but makes threatening and downright monstrous comments, and backs some of the worst people society has to offer with his cash that just happened to have a talent for writing that's mysteriously disappeared in his later works.

I will freely admit I'd feel just the slightest bit smug if this fanatical coward ended up suffering at the hands of one of the various national security things we've got in place, but funnily enough his types never seem to get any sort of legal comeuppance. Whenever things for the right-wing (and especially the religious right) go slightly bad they'll screech their collective (funny that) heads off and more often than not get their way unless what they're trying to push goes against every fiber of common decency in the average American's body.

But no, apparently we have to separate that the man behind these works is a vile cretin, who is ALIVE and who has thrown money as hate groups, because some dead guy was racist and his works are popular posthumously (Lovecraft wasn't exactly well-received during the time he was alive, folks). Or because, apparently, the poor rich folks in Hollywood will starve despite already being paid and any money that comes after the fact will just be lining the pockets of investors, who, frankly, could stand to lose a few pounds of dough and a bigoted violent little greedy weasel of a man who is trying to make sure that anyone who doesn't fit into the idea of his Christian America disappears or is treated like freaking animals.

So yes, tell me again how a boycott is childish, explain to me how all the fundies and right-wing nutbars who've protested films on completely baseless and frankly childish reasons are now telling anyone with a shred of respect for their fellow human beings that to do the exact thing they did and still do is somehow childish. It's only 'stupid' because you disagree with it. This man deserves to fail, you could've painted this generation's Mona Lisa for all I care, but if you're still a dangerous bigot I will do everything within my legal rights to make sure you will end up as a failure.

All the 'mature' people snubbing folks off because apparently he's worth the possible discrimination he may have a hand in, ignoring all the heinous things he's said, and how he's funded organizations that seek to ruin the lives of people are in my honest opinion the most childish of them all. I can't even begin to understand their motivations, but I imagine they're pretty flawed.
 

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comraderichard said:
I'm seeing a lot of 'but he doesn't incorporate his hatred into his books' arguments from Card's defenders, which is actually incorrect. Regardless if your personal opinions, Ender's Game was the only book of his to be unambiguously well-received, and even then he incorporated portions of his own beliefs into them. I can't sight you sources but the link does exist that the 'Buggers', the primary antagonist race in the book, were named such because the term apparently referenced sodomy/sodomites.
Not really being big into slurs, I thought "Surely 'bugger' isn't some kind of slur," but, yeah, apparently it is/was. For anyone who, like me, was unaware: http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/bugger
(edit: technically that might not be a slur, but, despite the multitudes of heterosexual mean and women who engage in anal and/or oral sex, I've can't recall ever hearing anyone refer to them as "sodomites"--if that's a common thing, somewhere, please correct me)

I'd still be willing to give him (or anyone, no matter how huge and obnoxiously stupid of a bigot) the benefit of the doubt and say that, without evidence of his intent, this may just be an uncomfortable coincidence, given the lack (to the best of my knowledge) of any other potentially anti-gay elements in the book and the fact that the enemies are insectoid and "buggers" could be used as "annoying things" as well. Although, with how unsubtle and ineptly-written Card's essays are, I admit that I may be giving him entirely too much credit.

Very interesting find and point, though, regardless of Card's intent.
 

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I'd be willing to bet all my money that if he didn't need our money he'd be having a completely different reaction right now. Besides, you can't be a bigoted wanker and then expect the people you discriminated against to support you, that's just not how the world works.
 

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SuperfastJellyfish said:
Of course the spineless worm backs out of it when there's a sign of losing money.
Man, you're just spitting hatred. Don't be like that. It's so sad when people fighting with intolerance and injustice become angry and hateful themselves. Whether or not you like or dislike Card (in this instance) try to express you mind from the position of peace and tolerance, not anger and aggression. This will do much more good to our cause.

All in all, I'm really glad to see so much comments separating Card's public persona from his books, and other calmly expressing their views. Whether you think that he deserves tolerance or not, show it, because when tolerance is denied due to someone "not deserving" it really scarry bigotry, the silent, most powerful one is born.

comraderichard said:
I'm seeing a lot of 'but he doesn't incorporate his hatred into his books' arguments from Card's defenders, which is actually incorrect. Regardless if your personal opinions, Ender's Game was the only book of his to be unambiguously well-received, and even then he incorporated portions of his own beliefs into them. I can't sight you sources but the link does exist that the 'Buggers', the primary antagonist race in the book, were named such because the term apparently referenced sodomy/sodomites. After Ender's Game his writing style devolved to the point where he was either bland or offensive.
First of all, Speaker for the Dead is at least as good as Ender's Game. Secondly... what???? Are you serious? Buggers is an euphemism for sodomy??? For real??? Like, insect race called Buggers is actually secret gay people? WHAT??? You must be kidding or something.
 

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Guiltyone said:
SuperfastJellyfish said:
Of course the spineless worm backs out of it when there's a sign of losing money.
Man, you're just spitting hatred. Don't be like that. It's so sad when people fighting with intolerance and injustice become angry and hateful themselves. Whether or not you like or dislike Card (in this instance) try to express you mind from the position of peace and tolerance, not anger and aggression. This will do much more good to our cause.

All in all, I'm really glad to see so much comments separating Card's public persona from his books, and other calmly expressing their views. Whether you think that he deserves tolerance or not, show it, because when tolerance is denied due to someone "not deserving" it really scarry bigotry, the silent, most powerful one is born.

comraderichard said:
I'm seeing a lot of 'but he doesn't incorporate his hatred into his books' arguments from Card's defenders, which is actually incorrect. Regardless if your personal opinions, Ender's Game was the only book of his to be unambiguously well-received, and even then he incorporated portions of his own beliefs into them. I can't sight you sources but the link does exist that the 'Buggers', the primary antagonist race in the book, were named such because the term apparently referenced sodomy/sodomites. After Ender's Game his writing style devolved to the point where he was either bland or offensive.
First of all, Speaker for the Dead is at least as good as Ender's Game. Secondly... what???? Are you serious? Buggers is an euphemism for sodomy??? For real??? Like, insect race called Buggers is actually secret gay people? WHAT??? You must be kidding or something.
Now I remember why I stopped posting here. I really don't get this whole neutered sense of niceness everyone has to have, it's why I avoid imgur where everyone must be saintly and kind in all situations, when they themselves are acting like right gits. Spitting hatred? If that's what I'm doing then what the hell was he up to?
 
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well, if the black people had stayed nice, then maybe race segregation or worse would be still up now.

i am not one person to use derogatory terms like worm or such-but calling someone bigot isn't one-bigotry is wanting rights and benefits for oneself or oneself´s group but actively or inactively trying to refuse or steal that right or benefits from others.
its talking water but drinking wine-where the wine is social and financial benefits and rights that every couple/family should have-or none.
but well, that analogy isn't 100% right-he drinks the wine but doesn't other people to do too-because he fears he wont have enough for himself. which is greedy. (and well, it isnt 100% analogy either-because nobody will drink his wine. Other people just want to drink theirs.)

and-well i dont want some person money which wil use that moneys to pay people that try to take some human right away (especially if they say that their constitution says everybody is equal in rights..(and will often point a finger at "other"/"foreing" persons for not being so good and civilized and blablabla as them self. e.g fundamental religiotic* people which act like they are the only ones with moral and goodness but use religious ideas to refute other peoples right)




*i am religious myself. but i dont think that my religion or morals should count for other people if they don't believe in that stuff. And that the ideas and laws of one state and society should not base on the convictions and beliefs of a certain group-especially not of a part of that group has convictions which will lead to inequality, pain and problems for other people
 

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Personally, if there's one thing I hate more than bigots, it's when the people who were bigoted against suddenly think that because they were bigoted against, it automatically gives them the right to completely destroy the bigots.

As an Secular Humanist (I will not call myself Atheist, and by extention throw myself in the same boat as Antitheists, who I despise just as much as Theists) with many LGBT friends, I will agree that Card's statements infuriated me, and many of my friends. But we all still plan on seeing the movie. Why? For three reasons:

1) Forgive and forget. The battle is won. No matter what people say, the battle is pretty much won. Just like fighting continued after the surrender at Appomattox Courthouse during the American Civil War, there will still be legal battles after this Supreme Court decision. But it is almost certain that the battle is won. With the Supreme Court decision in place, groups like the ACLU can bring successful lawsuits against pretty much any anti-gay marriage law they choose. There will still be vocal opposition, but there has always been vocal opposition to change. If your goal is to win legally, AND obtain complete acceptance among people, then you will never win, as there will always be someone out there who hates you. Continuing to attempt to destroy your opponent after the end of battle is akin to winning a battle because the other army surrenders, and then having your men cut down the entire other army while they're unarmed and expecting mercy. We don't want to be those kinds of monsters. Way we see it, everyone is entitled to their opinions, whether offense or politically correct. But we can't go on hating those people forever. There are some special circumstances, like ordering the extermination of an entire ethnic group. But that didn't happen here.

2) Ender's Game dealt with something COMPLETELY different. Ender's Game dealt with the morality of using child soldiers, even if it came down to defending the human race. Ender takes a very clear physical and mental toll by the end, and the novel is all about how even when use for good purposes, using child soldiers is still a great moral crime, as you may create a soldier, but you murder a child in the process.

3) Given that the movie is being directed by the author of the book, it will probably be one of the better book-made-into-movie films of the decade. Not better than The Hobbit, of course, but still better than Twilight.

Yes, Card was an asshole. That much won't change. But by discriminating against the discriminator, we change nothing. If anything, we become just as bad as they do. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, no matter how politically incorrect it is, and the minute we start trying to destroy people for that is the minute we are no longer a free and open society.

And to me, that is more important than any other legal declaration.
 

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Master of the Skies said:
If I misread you, then I apologize. Perhaps it is because of all the vitriol that is being thrown about in this thread that I mistook your stance, either way if I am wrong, I am sorry. My points are still valid though.

1: Kramer may be a fictional character, but it was the actor who is a racist (I just can't remember his name for the life of me).

2: My point had little to do with the deceased authors, and much more to do with the fact that people only see the villains the media tells us to. Point in case being the fact that despite what the living people I mentioned did, your response is why should I care. On top of that, I stated that I can almost guarantee (since I don't know you, I can't actually guarantee anything) that at least one of the people involved in the things you enjoy are responsible for something horrible. Yet it is OSC that people are choosing to throw fire on. (not saying it is you, since you have made it clear you aren't involving yourself in the boycott)

3: Attacking someone's character isn't a great way to make yourself seem intelligent, nor will it garner sympathy to your cause. I'm sure you were only doing so as you thought I was attacking your character, but that isn't the case. I never said that you in particular were trying to boycott him. My final statement was intended as a generalization stating that I don't care if someone (not you in particular, but you as an idiom) wants to start a boycott, but that I don't want other's views imposed upon myself or another. If you have an issue with that particular statement, then perhaps you are not as neutral as you think on the subject.

4: As for my being sore about people not listening to me, you completely missed my point on that. I wasn't saying that people didn't find me compelling, I was saying people enjoy eating meat and don't want to hear what goes on at said ranches. I won't go into it here, but it is rather disgusting behavior. You can feel free to verify the veracity of that fact on your own.

P.S. People seem to be taking my comments as though I was speaking in anger. I assure this isn't the case and may be a personal failing in how my writing comes off online. It isn't intentional, and I apologize to anyone who thinks I am being hateful towards them.
 

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Spartan448 said:
Personally, if there's one thing I hate more than bigots, it's when the people who were bigoted against suddenly think that because they were bigoted against, it automatically gives them the right to completely destroy the bigots.

As an Secular Humanist (I will not call myself Atheist, and by extention throw myself in the same boat as Antitheists, who I despise just as much as Theists) with many LGBT friends, I will agree that Card's statements infuriated me, and many of my friends. But we all still plan on seeing the movie. Why? For three reasons:

1) Forgive and forget. The battle is won. No matter what people say, the battle is pretty much won. Just like fighting continued after the surrender at Appomattox Courthouse during the American Civil War, there will still be legal battles after this Supreme Court decision. But it is almost certain that the battle is won. With the Supreme Court decision in place, groups like the ACLU can bring successful lawsuits against pretty much any anti-gay marriage law they choose. There will still be vocal opposition, but there has always been vocal opposition to change. If your goal is to win legally, AND obtain complete acceptance among people, then you will never win, as there will always be someone out there who hates you. Continuing to attempt to destroy your opponent after the end of battle is akin to winning a battle because the other army surrenders, and then having your men cut down the entire other army while they're unarmed and expecting mercy. We don't want to be those kinds of monsters. Way we see it, everyone is entitled to their opinions, whether offense or politically correct. But we can't go on hating those people forever. There are some special circumstances, like ordering the extermination of an entire ethnic group. But that didn't happen here.

2) Ender's Game dealt with something COMPLETELY different. Ender's Game dealt with the morality of using child soldiers, even if it came down to defending the human race. Ender takes a very clear physical and mental toll by the end, and the novel is all about how even when use for good purposes, using child soldiers is still a great moral crime, as you may create a soldier, but you murder a child in the process.

3) Given that the movie is being directed by the author of the book, it will probably be one of the better book-made-into-movie films of the decade. Not better than The Hobbit, of course, but still better than Twilight.

Yes, Card was an asshole. That much won't change. But by discriminating against the discriminator, we change nothing. If anything, we become just as bad as they do. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, no matter how politically incorrect it is, and the minute we start trying to destroy people for that is the minute we are no longer a free and open society.

And to me, that is more important than any other legal declaration.
Thank you for basically expressing my opinion when I've otherwise been unable to.

People continue to fire long after the battle is won way too often (both literally and figuratively). If more people could move past the hatred (on both sides of the fence) the world would be a much better place. Unfortunately too many people want their cake and eat it too (I hate that analogy), in the sense that even though they've won a major battle they consider the war still raging without giving it time to let the dust settle.

Is OSC wrong for stating his views? To me, yes he is, but they are his views and he is allowed to state them. Should he be considered a bigot? Yes, he should as he holds views counter to what this nation is supposedly founded on. Should we boycott his film? That is up to every individual to decide for their own personal reasons. If you think you shouldn't give him any more of your money, fine by me. I also think you should be allowed to share your opinions with everyone as well, but don't tell other people they are wrong for not wanting to boycott him. Nor should you say they support anti-gay movements in doing so. Every person has their own imaginary line in the sand that has to be crossed before they go to war, and for many people this line was not crossed.
 

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If you look back at my arguments, you will see I admit that marriage as the term predates any modern religions. However, marriage as it exists today (a joining of two people in love) started as an evolution of a pagan rite. I don't really consider what came before that marriage as we know it since it was basically a contract between men for ownership o fwomen.
Then marriage as you define it didn't exist in the US up until about halfway through the 19th century, considering the legal effects of coverture, and the shift towards a more feminist friendly form of marriage where women were not regarded as chattel wasn't a particularly religious one.
 

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Bruce said:
If you look back at my arguments, you will see I admit that marriage as the term predates any modern religions. However, marriage as it exists today (a joining of two people in love) started as an evolution of a pagan rite. I don't really consider what came before that marriage as we know it since it was basically a contract between men for ownership o fwomen.
Then marriage as you define it didn't exist in the US up until about halfway through the 19th century, considering the legal effects of coverture, and the shift towards a more feminist friendly form of marriage where women were not regarded as chattel wasn't a particularly religious one.
Actually both existed, but you are correct that it wasn't until more recent years that it became just the one and not the other.

Regardless of if marriage started as a religious ceremony or as a legal contract, can we not both admit that people seem to view it with a dual nature? One end being the legal contract (the important end from my view point) and the other end being the religious aspect. What I am proposing is separating the two faces of marriage. Giving each face its own term (I don't care which is called marriage and which is not) and removing state control over the religious portion (so that the religious people have nothing to complain about) and removing religious claims on the state portion. This allows for A: churches to marry whomever they choose and B: any two people to be allowed to legally marry. Separation of church and state as intended in the constitution (well as written, not necessarily intended).

P.S. I am still kind of curious as to how what I said would imply that atheists couldn't be married. I'm not trying to be antagonistic with that statement, I am genuinely curious.
 

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barbzilla said:
Elvis Costello was a racist
At the time of his drunken racist outburst Elvis Costello was decked by a woman who rightly took offense to his comments. When he sobered up, he apologised for it and publicly recanted and rejected racism. Since then he has become an active campaigner against racism. I think it's fair to say that Elvis Costello has not been racist for a long time.

Orson Scott Card has not rejected his homophobic beliefs and he is still a board member of the homophobic pressure group National Organization for Marriage. The best you can say for him is that he no longer believes homosexuality should be criminalised.

The two cases are not comparable
 

RJ 17

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Let me start by saying that I'm all for gay marriage. If they want to be as miserable as everyone else then hey, let them in the club.

But he does bring up a point that is often overlooked with regards to tolerance...the fact that there's two sides to it. We're supposed to show tolerance to people's different ways of thinking, different lifestyles, different sexual orientations, etc...yet why is it that we're not supposed to have tolerance towards someone's way of thinking that disagrees with what is PC (for lack of a better way of putting it, I'm kinda having trouble finding my words here)? We have to have tolerance towards homosexuality, but we're not supposed to have tolerance towards someone who disagrees with gay marriage? Isn't that persons viewpoint just as valid as it's opposite? By demanding they conform and accept gay marriage, spitting on and cursing their name if they refuse to do so...isn't that the same as when we (the we here being figurative, of course) were spitting on and cursing the names of those who were in favor of it?

Does a man not have the right to disagree with something based on religious grounds (as I'm assuming that's this guy's case seeing as how this all came out in an interview for The Mormon Times)? Are we supposed to be tolerant of other people's viewpoints only when they match up with our own, or are we supposed to be tolerant of everyone's viewpoints?

Granted, some viewpoints don't deserve to be tolerated. I doubt many people would argue for tolerance for the Nazi's or the KKK and, in truth, there are a lot of people out there who don't like the concept of gay marriage just because they hate homosexuals (I'm looking at you, Pat Robertson). But there's just as many people out there who have no problems with homosexuals in general, but just the concept of gay marriage because it goes against what they hold to be traditional family values. Should we not be tolerant of their viewpoints?

I don't know if Orson's views on the matter stem from a generic hate towards homosexuals or if he just disagrees with the concept of them getting married, but I do have to agree with his statement of "Now it will be interesting to see whether the victorious proponents of gay marriage will show tolerance toward those who disagreed with them when the issue was still in dispute." Which of course brings up the South Park line of "In here, intolerance will not be tolerated."

So, my fellow Escapists, will you tolerate someone's opposing view if it's based on a valid viewpoint and not just ignorant hate? Or are you going to show the same kind of ignorant hate by refusing to tolerate someone else's values and viewpoints that are opposed to yours? Again, I don't know if this guy's views are based off of hate or traditional values, I'm just posing the question to play devil's advocate.

Captcha: "Modern Love" Looks like Captcha was pro gay marriage. :3
 

barbzilla

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Andrew_C said:
barbzilla said:
Elvis Costello was a racist
At the time of his drunken racist outburst Elvis Costello was decked by a woman who rightly took offense to his comments. When he sobered up, he apologised for it and publicly recanted and rejected racism. Since then he has become an active campaigner against racism. I think it's fair to say that Elvis Costello has not been racist for a long time.

Orson Scott Card has not rejected his homophobic beliefs and he is still a board member of the homophobic pressure group National Organization for Marriage.

The two cases are not comparable
That is a fair point, but I wasn't trying to compare the two directly. I was making a statement that there are a great deal of personalities who entertain us who have beliefs (publicly held) and/or commit horrible acts that we forgive, forget, or never hear about who do not become vilified. I was making a point that only the people who become media targets end up being... well... targeted by people. I don't mean to say that OSC shouldn't be boycotted by those who feel it is needed, just that if you are going to boycott him for his actions/words, then you should also boycott others in entertainment with his beliefs.