Equality In Relationships

[2012 Wont Happen]

I've come to the conclusion, by observing those around me, that until a relationship has been going on for years, or more likely, decades, there cannot be full "equality" in a relationship. Somebody will play the dominant roll, and one the subservient roll, to some degree, even if the divide is very small.

I've observed men in my family play the dominant roll. I don't like what I've seen. For that reason, I've decided to play the subservient roll in any relationship I am in.

My question, put in a less awkward and rambling way is this: what roll do you play in relationships, subservient, or dominant? (or do you disagree with the premise that relationships will be unequal altogether).

 

[ayuri]

I'm a few years too early

 

[Julianking93]

Weren't you and I just talking about this the other day? XD

Well, I am all about equality, but in all honesty, I can be the more submissive one.

I don't mind it in the least. I wanna make my girl happy ^-^

Still, I think there can be equality in relationships. You just have to work and find the right person to achieve it.

It may take compromises or whatever, but equality is possible.

 

[2012 Wont Happen]

Weren't you and I just talking about this the other day? XD

Well, I am all about equality, but in all honesty, I can be the more submissive one.

I don't mind it in the least. I wanna make my girl happy ^-^

We were talking about something having to do with relationships. I don't recall this exact idea coming up, but I can't remember anything but scripts and songs with any accuracy.

 

[Cain_Zeros]

I'm generally more submissive. I'll occasionally have dominant moments, but for the most part, definitely submissive.

 

[2012 Wont Happen]

I'm a few years too early

I'm sorry, I don't quite understand what this post means. Could you explain it please?

I'm generally more submissive. I'll occasionally have dominant moments, but for the most part, definitely submissive.

Everyone acts dominant occasionally, but overall I am, like I said, submissive as well.

 

[Serenegoose]

I tend to be kinda submissive in my relationships, but I have been the dominant partner before. Mostly I don't tend to think about it like that though. It just kinda happens.

 

[Shock and Awe]

I suppose I play a more or less dominant role. I really do not push things that I do not have a large interest in, especially if it is for something important to my significant other. Though if it is something really important to me I will most likely stay firm on it. For example; if my girlfriend asked me to skip a movie to help her with a big project that can either pass or fail her in a class, I would drop the movie instantly. On the other hand; I would not miss a drill meet for something petty.

 

[Bon_Clay]

Generally there's both a power divide as well as one person who is more "into" the relationship than the other, especially after the original thrill calms down a bit. IMO if you want a relationship to work at all it just has to be based on getting along with the other person for extended periods of time. Emotions die down and flare up and people have almost no control over them.

As corny as it may sound, you just have to be yourself, as that is the personality that will eventually come out and they will have to get used to. If you worry too much about pleasing them it can screw things up long term.

 

[Kurokami]

I've observed men in my family play the dominant roll. I don't like what I've seen. For that reason, I've decided to play the subservient roll in any relationship I am in.

Not quite how it works.

Yeah in relationships, there's always the dominant role. And no, its not predominantly male.

 

[Urgh76]

Well, I am all about equality, but in all honesty, I can be the more submissive one.

I don't mind it in the least. I wanna make my girl happy ^-^

Still, I think there can be equality in relationships. You just have to work and find the right person to achieve it.

It may take compromises or whatever, but equality is possible.

That... that is actually exactly what i was going to say.....

Damn you, epic ninja

 

[2012 Wont Happen]

I've observed men in my family play the dominant roll. I don't like what I've seen. For that reason, I've decided to play the subservient roll in any relationship I am in.

Not quite how it works.

Yeah in relationships, there's always the dominant role. And no, its not predominantly male.

I realize that you can't decide to be submissive in every instance, but I've see the people around me being dominant in every instance, and I just want to distance myself from them as much as possible.

 

[zehydra]

A little bit of both, I think. Usually, however, I found myself catering to her, rather than her catering to me.

 

[The Man With the Soap]

Relationships...bah! Who needs them? Everything you love will either reject you or die.

 

[zehydra]

Relationships...bah! Who needs them? Everything you love will either reject you or die.

said the Grinch

 

[Kurokami]

I've observed men in my family play the dominant roll. I don't like what I've seen. For that reason, I've decided to play the subservient roll in any relationship I am in.

Not quite how it works.

Yeah in relationships, there's always the dominant role. And no, its not predominantly male.

I realize that you can't decide to be submissive in every instance, but I've see the people around me being dominant in every instance, and I just want to distance myself from them as much as possible.

How so exactly? being dominant isn't bad, it just means you're in control.

 

[The Man With the Soap]

Relationships...bah! Who needs them? Everything you love will either reject you or die.

said the Grinch

There's no such thing as fairytale endings. All couples end up either separating or resenting each other.

 

[2012 Wont Happen]

I've observed men in my family play the dominant roll. I don't like what I've seen. For that reason, I've decided to play the subservient roll in any relationship I am in.

Not quite how it works.

Yeah in relationships, there's always the dominant role. And no, its not predominantly male.

I realize that you can't decide to be submissive in every instance, but I've see the people around me being dominant in every instance, and I just want to distance myself from them as much as possible.

How so exactly? being dominant isn't bad, it just means you're in control.

Yelling. Swearing. Destruction. Violence. That's the sort of thing I've seen in my family. I don't trust myself to take on a dominant role, because I share the same insane genetics. However, if I don't allow myself to take control, I'll never be able to get out of control.

 

[latenightapplepie]

I'll let you know as soon as I actually end up having a relationship with someone. Ugh, I'm so old.

But no, I cautiously agree with the idea that equality is possible in relationships. I'm not totally sure though. However, I've yet to see it in a couple I know.

 

[zehydra]

Relationships...bah! Who needs them? Everything you love will either reject you or die.

said the Grinch

There's no such thing as fairytale endings. All couples end up either separating or resenting each other.

I know from experience that that's not true. The ending may not be a total fairy tell ending, but not all old couples hate each other.