Eyes

[elcamino41383]

Me and my girlfriend were having a conversation the other day that she thinks its rude when people don't look into your eyes when you are talking to them, which i am opposed to. Personally if some one is talking to me i will look into their eyes for like a second or two then look around for awhile then back for a short time, i think its weird to stare into someones eyes. is this just me or what?

I'm personally with you on this one. I have a weird thing about being able to look people in the eye for longer than like...5 seconds. I hate being stared at, and I have a hard time staring also, so I tend to look away after a little bit. Your GF IS right however, but as I said, I feel the same way you do. It's just weird for some.

 

[DSEZ]

i like looking into peoples eyes my old karate instructor used to tell me you can tell alot from looking into someones eyes

 

[Flames66]

I much prefer not making eye contact for very long during conversations. If other people find it rude that's their problem, I find constant eye contact offensive.

 

[luna_moth]

I generally make eye contact with people, but a not consistently through the conversation unless they're a good friend. I feel kind of awkward staring into peoples eyes for extended periods of time..

 

[Deadlock Radium]

Sometimes it would get realy weird, like looking deeply in the cashiers eyes when your buying shit at Tesco.

I laughed.

But looking constantly into someone's eyes is really uncomfortable, I got a bad grade in oral Norwegian because I didn't stare into everyone's eyes. -__-
I can only look someone in the eyes for max 2 seconds, then I need at least 15 secons to "recharge".

 

[Adventurer2626]

I won't for the entire conversation, just when I feel I need to/should. Pretty much what everyone I talk to does. Kinda depends on the person.

 

[Tagball]

Shit...this is all I'm going to think about now whenever I talk to someone.

 

[GrinningManiac]

Eye contact is a subconcious use of body language to show you care what they're saying and are being 100% honest and/or attentive

Looking away suddenly means you're doing something your subconciously aware is bad, I.E. lying or saying something disrespectful or socially awkward (like telling a bad joke)

Not looking in the first place means you don't care. The same affect is achieved when you look at their face, but not their eyes (their forehead or something) because it shows your PRETENDING to listen. Kids (like me) often did this when being told off by a teacher they had no respect for and/or hated

So not looking is usually a warning bell that they're not 'acting right'

 

[Addendum_Forthcoming]

Me and my girlfriend were having a conversation the other day that she thinks its rude when people don't look into your eyes when you are talking to them, which i am opposed to. Personally if some one is talking to me i will look into their eyes for like a second or two then look around for awhile then back for a short time, i think its weird to stare into someones eyes. is this just me or what?

Nah, you should only maintain eye contact for 3 seconds, then look away for 6 ... you opnly lock eyes when you're first engaging in conversation, and when you're trying to get them to divulge information. All other times it's wasted effort to look at someone <.<

Personally I think it's kinda irking when people never stop staring. Not to mention completely inconsiderate given some people have trouble doing so in the first place due to confidence issues.

Not only that but it's hard to be at 'peace' with a person when you've locked eye contact. There are times you just want to look at the world move past you whilst drinking with someone. That's why Man invented TV ... so we wouldn't have to look at eachother whilst talking all the time.

 

[Caligulove]

I find it easy to look people in the eyes when talking to them, there are a few individuals that do kind of make me feel uncomfortable, though.

Sometimes when talking to people I just wander, looking all around at things, usually if explaining something.
Strangely, I find it harder to look guys in the eyes when I talk to them- because they wont look me in the eyes... girls, women especially are more keen to looking into someones eyes when talking

 

[Ickorus]

I don't like to look into people's eyes myself.

Did you know that people who don't make eye contact are more thoughtful than those that do? The reason is that when looking at someones face an enormous amount of brainpower is going towards deciphering their expression while if you look away your brain has a lot more room for thinking.

 

[Coldie]

Eye contact longer than a glance is pretty rude, unless one of the involved parties is an ophthalmologist.

 

[SomethingUnrelated]

I get quite uncomfortable with prolonged eye contact for ages, unless I know I can hold out longer than the other person. I have no idea why, but it's satisfying to see the other person look away...

 

[RottingAwesome]

i have to agree, OP, i usually don't make direct eye contact the entire time unless im trying to be firm with someone. Even when im just talking with my friends i usually do it but i only really notice it when im with a girl im shy around or something

 

[demoman_chaos]

I generally look people in the eye, but I'll glance away from time to time.

 

[thylasos]

Eye contact helps in a conversation, certainly. Especially if you're lying.

But not constant. That's a bit creepy.

 

[child of lileth]

Sometimes I won't look people in the eyes when I talk to them, and do the same as the OP. It depends on the situation though. Sometimes it just makes me nervous if they just stare me in the eyes.

 

[teisjm]

I ususally only look people continually in the eyes when:
I need to proove that i'm not lying
Is talking about something serious, not the bussiness serious kind of way, but if they're talking bout something personal
When i'm talking to someone i'm roamtically/sexually involved with, more or less regardless of what we talk about, as long as we're sitting/lying face to face.

Apart from that i usually don't keep eye contact steadily durring conversations.

 

[Dapsen]

Eye contact makes me uncomfortable.
Nuff' said.

 

[Strategia]

If I look someone in the eyes for too long, I get a sort of tunnel-vision effect, where I look from one eye to the other repeatedly without really seeing anything else, which feels strange. And I half tune out, so I have to strain more to pay attention to what the other person is saying. If I look around, I don't have that problem.