i really appreciate peoples thoughts and comments. I think that relationships should be based on trust and truth right from the beginning, if not then little things will start to creep up later on and will make it difficult no matter how much love you have and will eventually destroy the relationship. Bottom line is feelings change, people change, no matter how much you love someone and no matter how much you believe you can never leave them, a time will come when you'll feel nothing for them and you'll actually be like "what was i thinking?"