First Date Advice
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Oh it's a blind date then? Its been said a hundred times but it really is the most important thing, be yourself and just be cool dont try to force anything or act outside of the norm but do try to make a positive impression. Even if it dosent go well it's not the end of the world dust it off chalk it up to experiance and the next girl you approach will seem a million times easier.
Mostly have fun and drink responsibly if thats something that comes up.
Mostly have fun and drink responsibly if thats something that comes up.
Advice? Be yourself. Pay for your date; don't let her pay. Don't get wrapped up in a competition w/ your best friend.
Why are you going to the INTARWEBZ for dating advice
pretty sure someone has mentioned this before but just be yourself
pretty sure someone has mentioned this before but just be yourself
So, my first thought was oh, this is a blind double date... which reminded me of my first (and only) blind double date... in which the other couple bailed. It worked out okay though.
Since you don't know much about her, you actually have a lot to talk about. You don't have to show her that you have a lot in common right now, since youre just meeting, but you have to show her you're interested about learning about her and who she is. Don't be afraid to ask her questions. You'll be fine.
I know this may sound hard, but if you stay relaxed things will come to you naturally.
Second, do all of that pull out her chair, open the door blah blah blah stuff. Although it may seem outdated, or she may be a "strong independent woman" she will still have a soft spot for men who don't let chivalry die.
Since you don't know much about her, you actually have a lot to talk about. You don't have to show her that you have a lot in common right now, since youre just meeting, but you have to show her you're interested about learning about her and who she is. Don't be afraid to ask her questions. You'll be fine.
I know this may sound hard, but if you stay relaxed things will come to you naturally.
Second, do all of that pull out her chair, open the door blah blah blah stuff. Although it may seem outdated, or she may be a "strong independent woman" she will still have a soft spot for men who don't let chivalry die.
That doesn't sound like a bad plan at all. I'd discourage just seeing a movie by itself - though if you have dinner or something afterwards, it can be good to spark conversation. "What did you think of Johnny Depp's performance?" "I liked the movie, but was that a metaphor or a dream?" "Was anyone else disappointed that there was no Mountain Dew robot in the sequel?" Works better if you're a film studies buff, but if you like movies (who doesn't?) it's at the very least an ice breaker.superspartan004 said:
I think you've got everything figured out, datewise. If you need more information, SCN's [http://www.student.com/] got a pretty good advice forum for dating. I haven't been there in a while, so I'm not sure who's currently a regular there, but some smart people frequent that site. Just watch out for anything Odhgabfe says. He's into the "be a big fake toughguy" kind of dating "advice." I butted heads with him a few dozen times.
Dress like your anime/final fantasy character.
Oh and I cannot stress this enough; if she has a cat do not sound uninterested when she goes on and on about it no matter how much she talks about her stupid cat stay focused. Key your eyes on the prize.
Or kidding aside
just try to have fun and not get caught up in the 'date' stigma.
Oh and I cannot stress this enough; if she has a cat do not sound uninterested when she goes on and on about it no matter how much she talks about her stupid cat stay focused. Key your eyes on the prize.
Or kidding aside
just try to have fun and not get caught up in the 'date' stigma.
Rule #1: Because you're in a younger age group, be polite but not quite as far as the suave gentleman, you aren't Bond and remember that.
Rule #2: Use humor to try and smooth over strange or ackward conversations.
Rule #2 Suplimental: Do not be afraid to laugh at yourself. Your going to be nervous, this will help release tension alot.
Rule #3: Make sure she knows she looks nice, but don't go overboard. You don't want the contest between you and your friend non-stop complimenting each other's respective dates until the evening is boring/ruined.
Rule #4: Stupid as it sounds, make sure you are hygenically 100%. It may sound obvious, but sometimes folks get nervous and can forget.
Rule #5: Even if you don't anticipate it, bring protection. It can be a deal breaker later on in the evening.
Rule #2: Use humor to try and smooth over strange or ackward conversations.
Rule #2 Suplimental: Do not be afraid to laugh at yourself. Your going to be nervous, this will help release tension alot.
Rule #3: Make sure she knows she looks nice, but don't go overboard. You don't want the contest between you and your friend non-stop complimenting each other's respective dates until the evening is boring/ruined.
Rule #4: Stupid as it sounds, make sure you are hygenically 100%. It may sound obvious, but sometimes folks get nervous and can forget.
Rule #5: Even if you don't anticipate it, bring protection. It can be a deal breaker later on in the evening.
Dress like my favorite Final Fantasy Character?ace_of_something said:
that would take a huge broadsword, purple clothing, and A LOT of hair gel. lol
There is one piece of advice that will take you very far when it comes to women (and it has been said SO many times before).
Be yourself.
That's it. Show some kindness, courtesy, and listen to what she has to say. It's as simple as that. However, don't go to ridiculous lengths to simply be nice... Women have a rather keen sense of knowing when a man is trying too hard. They seem to have little alarm bells in their heads to tell them such things.
Relax, enjoy the evening, have some laughs, and end on a good note.
EDIT: SEE - Rule #5 a few posts up. That's very important. However, be VERY discreet with it... It could easily send the wrong message.
Be yourself.
That's it. Show some kindness, courtesy, and listen to what she has to say. It's as simple as that. However, don't go to ridiculous lengths to simply be nice... Women have a rather keen sense of knowing when a man is trying too hard. They seem to have little alarm bells in their heads to tell them such things.
Relax, enjoy the evening, have some laughs, and end on a good note.
EDIT: SEE - Rule #5 a few posts up. That's very important. However, be VERY discreet with it... It could easily send the wrong message.
with regards to "rule #5", this is a first date, the chances of it going that far is about the same as me becoming the first astronaut on Mars at the same time that World War III breaks loosetsb247 said:
Be yourself only more confident.
Talk to the girl specially subject she's interested in.
Let her speake or encourage her to speak but dont force her to do it.
Dress up nice and clean, dont overdress.
If there's and ackward silence space talk about a general interest subject, tell her your opinion and ask her's.
Pay for her. In case she insis't in paying her stuff insist once or twice. I she continues to want to pay let her do so.
Talk to the girl specially subject she's interested in.
Let her speake or encourage her to speak but dont force her to do it.
Dress up nice and clean, dont overdress.
If there's and ackward silence space talk about a general interest subject, tell her your opinion and ask her's.
Pay for her. In case she insis't in paying her stuff insist once or twice. I she continues to want to pay let her do so.
Seconded.superspartan004 said:
There's a difference between a double date with friends, and picking up some girl at the bar.
