first date and asking out ideas

[Zer_]

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Nope, sorry. You're doing exactly what I told the OP not to listen to. If a girl wants to date you, she'll date you. Before the date she knows exactly how much she likes you and if she is serious she'll stick with you and if she is just going to be polite, she is not going to stick with you. Sure she might have fun, she might not, but she would have already made up her mind on you and things like attraction, chemistry, body language, perception and natural personality are the things that matter. The arbitrary shit you do on the date itself means next to nothing.

Relationships aren't a science. There is very little you can do on a first date that would "woo" girls over. We females are pretty much the same as you, we don't need to be lead through ridiculous and elaborate hoops to like you. We do or we don't. Simple. If a girl likes you, than just simply inviting them over and going for a walk in the park is enough.

I really can't stress this enough OP, don't buy into this rubbish. You are going to be way too preoccupied on the activity you chose to do and you'll forget the really important thing: SHE HAS TO LIKE YOU. And you aren't going to win her over or make her realise how much she wants you by taking her out for a game of putt-putt golf or doing something that you think is really "cool, fun and unique". Sorry, we aren't five year olds. We might like the day out and have a really fun time, but if we don't like you - we don't like you.

It's really fucking simple haha.

You seem to think that I'm putting this advice forward as some magical way to get the girl, and that's just plain stupid. Of course there isn't. If there's no way she'll like you, then there's shit all you can do about that. I'm making my post on the assumption that the OP isn't a complete retard that thinks he can "woo" the girl with some dating formula.

The idea that a movie is a bad idea for a first date assumes that you and whoever you're going out with don't know each other beyond a first impression. So no, beyond maybe a little bit of curiosity, and physical attraction. If there's something that can help you express yourself better during a date, then why not take advice into consideration.

Unless you really don't care for dates at all, you can't tell me that going out and having a blast on a first date doesn't factor into things at all. Let's say you date two guys (I don't care if you're not like that, it's hypothetical for a reason). You see equal potential in both of them. One takes you on a pretty typical dinner/movie combo. The other takes you somewhere that appeals to you more. Aside from that difference, there's nothing that really stands out between one or the other. Who do you go for in the end?

 

[bdcjacko]

Take her to Chuckie Cheese.