First Kiss

[Kermi]

I met the girl who'd later become my wife at a friend's party then didn't see her for six months until I invited her to my 21st. We made out for 3 hours.

 

[s0p0g]

what pirate kitty said.

also, if you try to impress her, and "convince" her that being with you would be awesome by thinking of more and more awesome dates, i wonder what you want to do if you two were together. more and more and more awesome things?
do you know if you are "compatible" in "everyday life"? = do you KNOW her? or did you rush into them dates rather quickly? because the latter is sort of a guarantee for a rather early break up.
but regarding the first kiss specifically, i'd say you should "feel" when the time is right. she'll let you know. and if you don't recognise the more or less subtle signs she'll give you then, then maybe (just *maybe*) you aren't tuned to the same wavelength?

but, as i don't know any of you, what do i know? ^^

 

[PanicxBoss]

Second date, no tongue. As for special; do it at a time when you find he really attractive. Like when she's just said something really cute or funny. If you know she wants you to kiss her, then you can't really worry about timing on her part, just do it when it feels right; when you really want to. Then it will be a good kiss.

Uh, nope... I'd say it depends on the girl. Second date, at the end of a long marathon of movies, and after getting to know each other for a good bit (was it like eight hours or something? I love free weekends), mine was all over me. You are right in one respect, you can TELL when she wants you to kiss her. She just has that look about her. Best of luck, OP, she sounds like a nice girl!

 

[Lunar Shadow]

Whenever it occurs.

Treating a kiss like a carefully planned and thought out mission is a great way to ruin the fun and romance of a relationship.

This, a million times this. Trying to plan it out just means it comes off even more awkward. >>

 

[Verlander]

Just do it. If you build something like this up so much, you'll end up doing the same to every milestone, and while it can be cute at first, it will end up irritating and pushing girls away.

 

[Brandon237]

Hmm, I think I only did it on our fourth date, but the timing was good. Just do it when you feel right to do it.

For me, It was a big arena at a shopping center, quite dark, not many people and we kinda got into a conversation not so subtly hinting at kissing. After a few more minutes of talking, I said something along the lines of "Sorry for the wait, but I hope that it's worth it" followed by a kiss. Yeah, that simple.

But if she said ahh no kiss goodnight, then on your next date would be good. Just have her over at your place or go over there, when there are no irritating crowds and you can just relax and be with them, it is better by far. And when you guys are together watching a movie, just about anytime is the right time to kiss.

So go with the flow, when the moment seems good, go for it. She wants to be kissed as much as you want to kiss her, and good luck.

 

[ParkourMcGhee]

So as a few of you may know from a recent thread I created I'm currently dating a girl (holy shit a real one you ask? Not inflatable?). Now according to this family guy skit the perfect time to wait for the first kiss with a girl is the third date. My first date out with her was for coffee, a walk in the park, and a nice peaceful drive in the hills of a beautiful day. Our second date was to the movies and we saw 'Easy A' (her choice of course). I nonchalantly commented that the movie was "Decent" and we had Pizza at an Italian restaurant nearby after-wards (albeit a very pedestrian restaurant). So subconsciously in the back of my head I was basically thinking it was too early to kiss her after dropping her back home and walking her to her door. It didn't occur to me that she wanted to kiss. It wasn't until I was at home later that night when she sent me a message saying "You didn't kiss me goodnight waaah ". I sent her a message back saying that I was saving it for something special (pulled that out of my Arse!).

So my question to all of you is when do you think is the right time to kiss (/or other relevant milestone) with someone. Do you jump in straight away or give some time for it to settle down a bit and really get to know each-other? What's your plan of attack?

OH! And I need an awesome idea for our next date. Discuss!

It's whenever it feels right to both of you.

So far I've not had a girlfriend I didn't kiss (or you know what) before starting to date sooo... I wouldn't know. However, it seems she's feeling something and you either haven't picked up on it or haven't acted on it.

Either way it's your choice of move next. - and you have a set up "you've been saving it". So follow through.

 

[mortalsatsuma]

I'm not suggesting you dive onto her next time you see her and immediately start playing "tonsil tennis" but do not leave it too long. The first girl I ever got a date with dumped me on our second date as she thought I didn't like her as I didn't kiss her. I still to this day regret not kissing her.

 

[ciancon]

Seriously, just kiss her.

 

[vanthebaron]

when its emotionally right

my first kiss was a goodbye kiss from my best friend (Kayla Bush is beautiful) right before I moved away from St. Louis.

 

[Pingieking]

Whenever it occurs.

Treating a kiss like a carefully planned and thought out mission is a great way to ruin the fun and romance of a relationship.

This.
If you think and plan too much about it, it'll be a massive disappointment. Even if it was a success, it'll still be massively disappointing. Just a general rule in life.

 

[Spinozaad]

Outside or before a relationship I kiss and fuck whenever the opportunity is there, really.

Life is about those little joys, and those are two of them. Might as well make the most of them.

 

[orangecharger]

You should have said that you were taking the advice of Familiy Guy.

Clearly, it was the best solution.

Isn't it always? OT: I found in my dating days (now over) that it truly depends on the vibe between you and that girl... mostly the girls vibe on you. I have gone in too early in one girls opinion... then waited a little longer with another and been asked "WTF don't you kiss me already?" So the girl and the vibe will set the time. Doesn't help much I am sure but I think that's how it goes.

As for making with the sexy time it will depend on what both parties are after. If it's a relationship it will need to be again based on vibe and usually her feelings towards you. Let's be honest more often than not a guy will take what he's offered.

 

[Prof. Monkeypox]

I asked my girlfriend out with a kiss. And we've been together for two years! Every relationship is different, so just do what you want.

 

[Imp Poster]

You should have kissed her already. If she is giving a second date, it is "on". If you are going to have the initiative to ask her out, you need to have the initiative to kiss her too. Point isn't a matter of when, it is a matter of "I am attracted to you so I am gonna kiss you". I mean if she hasn't negatively shown anything from your advances, you should go for it. Maybe start with a hug. Here, take the encouragement of a hermit crab.

 

[Irony's Acolyte]

Just do it when you feel like you want to. Although I'd make sure that she's at least open to you doing so. If she isn't interested at the time then wait a bit. Other than that though just do it when it feels right.

 

[EeveeElectro]

Whenever it occurs.

Treating a kiss like a carefully planned and thought out mission is a great way to ruin the fun and romance of a relationship.

This, pretty much.

Although you shouldn't jump on her straight away and start sucking face. In a way, you might be making it more exciting for her, she'll be waiting for it now.
Before I met up with my boyfriend for the first time, I was saying that I wanted to hug and kiss him the second he got off the train, but when he did meet he went to kiss me and I recoiled in horror xD
We went to a museum and I gave him a kiss there, then went to a park for a cuddle on the swing where I properly kissed him. I don't like people when I first meet them, but I warm up to them pretty quickly.
I'd say whenever you feel comfortable enough to kiss her, that's when it will feel best. If it still doesn't feel right, it will feel forced and your heart won't be making that fluttering feeling.

 

[Smooth Operator]

When it feels right, always remember that!
No number of dates should dictate anything, just go at it when it feels right, that is all there is.

And the only existing plan of attack should be to have no plan of attack, over thinking it will just end up biting you in the ass.

 

[Arachon]

Almost everybody on this site is in the friend zone, whether they know so or not. Anybody claiming to have a girlfriend hasn't noticed that their significant others are going with it because they think it's funny.

Oh snap out of it, you know nothing of "everybody on this site" and their personal lives.

 

[Mutie]

Uh, nope... I'd say it depends on the girl. Second date, at the end of a long marathon of movies, and after getting to know each other for a good bit (was it like eight hours or something? I love free weekends), mine was all over me. You are right in one respect, you can TELL when she wants you to kiss her. She just has that look about her. Best of luck, OP, she sounds like a nice girl!

Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying one should pounce on the poor lass with no provocation. You just have to follow your instincts, man... And don't just for the kiss right out; build it up a little. Everyone has their pre-kiss routine... Alternatively, just don't listen to me at all...