First Kiss

[SimuLord]

A girl who doesn't kiss on a first date makes me think one of two things:

1) "She's not interested. Shame, that. Oh well."

or

2) "She may look legal but mentally she's about 13."

 

[Woodsey]

You'll know when she wants to because you'll feel it in your balls she'll look at your eyes and then glance at your mouth.

I find a strong dose of roofies speeds things along - although you'll probably have to move her eyes for her.

 

[Dags90]

So bad kisser = not worth time?

Reminds me of that Lily Allen song where she's talking about her boyfriend who is awesome in every way (sensitive, handy, etc) but sucks in bed so she dumps him. LOL!

I generally don't think you can force 'physical chemistry'. I mean some leeway could be given to newbs, but most people get set in their ways pretty quickly. I also don't know how one would go about telling someone they're a bad kisser to their face without dying on the spot from awkwardness.

 

[HerrBobo]

Dude, how old are you? ALWAYS KISS HER GOODNIGHT! >(
You're gunna have to make-up for that one and quick! Right when you meet her again, say "Here's something special, getting to see you again." then kiss her right there. She'll forget all about it.
You're welcome

I agree with all that has been said in the above post.

 

[Mcface]

So as a few of you may know from a recent thread I created I'm currently dating a girl (holy shit a real one you ask? Not inflatable?). Now according to this family guy skit the perfect time to wait for the first kiss with a girl is the third date. My first date out with her was for coffee, a walk in the park, and a nice peaceful drive in the hills of a beautiful day. Our second date was to the movies and we saw 'Easy A' (her choice of course). I nonchalantly commented that the movie was "Decent" and we had Pizza at an Italian restaurant nearby after-wards (albeit a very pedestrian restaurant). So subconsciously in the back of my head I was basically thinking it was too early to kiss her after dropping her back home and walking her to her door. It didn't occur to me that she wanted to kiss. It wasn't until I was at home later that night when she sent me a message saying "You didn't kiss me goodnight waaah ". I sent her a message back saying that I was saving it for something special (pulled that out of my Arse!).

So my question to all of you is when do you think is the right time to kiss (/or other relevant milestone) with someone. Do you jump in straight away or give some time for it to settle down a bit and really get to know each-other? What's your plan of attack?

OH! And I need an awesome idea for our next date. Discuss!

kiss her the next time you see her. Right when you see her, don't wait for the end. say something dumb like "just making it up to you"

I will mail you 5 dollars if that doesn't go well.

 

[Washboard]

How the hell would I know? I don't even know how to ask somebody out!

hit them over the head with a stone club and drag them back to your cave? simples

 

[Matt_LRR]

Our second date was to the movies and we saw 'Easy A' (her choice of course). I nonchalantly commented that the movie was "Decent"

If you didn't seriously enjoy Easy A you have no taste.

Just saying.

As for the real topic: when it feels right.

For my part I've usually been in situations where the girl takes the lead on the kiss.

With one, it was after we'd been friends for a while, (but ewe both knew we liked eachother, we just never really acted on it) she was clearly looking for it, and sending signals to that effect.

The next one, I don't even remember how it started, but it was FAST.

The next one, we'd met previously, and when we had our first date we ended up kissing while at a viewpoint overlooking the beach.

after that was about a month of me failing to read signals untill she basically siad, "are you gonna kiss me or not"

Another one was technically "second date" and it was my lead, but we weren't really dating, so it's kind of fuzzy.

and another was first date, she initiated.

go with what you feel is apropriate.

-m

 

[Paksenarrion]

You should've pulled out a notebook, peered at it intently, and said, "But I hadn't planned for it. It's too spontaneous."

 

[ShadowsofHope]

1. NEVER take advice from Family Guy of all sources

2. From what I've read, it's an in-the-moment thing. Thinking on it so hard makes you more reluctant to do it than just doing it.

3. I'll let you personal experience whenever the fuck I find a girlfriend again. The last (and first one).. really failed.

 

[Jewrean]

If I were in your shoes, I'd come out and tell her everything you've said here. It'll let her see some of your vulnerabilities, and also show her that you're confident and comfortable enough with her to admit to doing silly things like waiting till the third date because Family Guy told you to. It'll also make a good bridge into a first kiss.

To be clear I put the family guy sketch in there because I thought it was relevant to the thread. I am not, repeat, not taking advice from family guy. I haven't kissed her yet because I just didn't think it was the right time. That's all really.

 

[astrav1]

I say get some dinner, take a walk under the stars and then just kiss her.