Flirting
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Not entirely sure. Last time around, I was convinced she just wanted to be friends, and I banished all thoughts of progressing the relationship. Turned out to be wrong, happily. That's constructive pessimism for you.
I guess talking a lot may be a sign.
I guess talking a lot may be a sign.
I never can tell. That's why, I just ask. Well, I should clarify: unless said girl is being obvious about it (throwing her clothing at me in a public place would probably be obvious enough), I often can't tell.
To help people understand my obliviousness, I don't have any unique brain conditions, even though....
Same girl I mentioned before, was driving me around so that I could tutor her. At some point she (in a very languid, feline way) stretched out her whole body accentuating her body. My first thought, "Wow, she must be really tired!"
>_<
Same girl I mentioned before, was driving me around so that I could tutor her. At some point she (in a very languid, feline way) stretched out her whole body accentuating her body. My first thought, "Wow, she must be really tired!"
>_<
If you're legitimately funny and know it, tell her a bad joke. If she still laughs or doesn't make an awkward scene of it, you're clear. If it just gets super awkward, she's not really that into you.
Basically it's when they're talking to you at length about nothing at all. Usually they'll laugh a lot or play with their hair.
Also this.Lord Mountbatten Reborn said:
With many girls, it's hard to tell the difference between genuinely flirty and simply teasing you for personal amusement. Every sign for both has already been mentioned so far. Pretty much, is she laughing a lot, making excuses to touch you (playfully, not sexually), and is she making attempts at progressing the conversation (which will go much better if she is the one telling you the story/opinion and you are the one making the comments).
Why, I do believe that is flirting!acidk44 said:I feel you.Omega Hunter 9 said:How do I recognize when a girl is flirting with me? I'm painfully oblivious to such things and want to help my perception. Assume I know nothing
Jokes, jokes.
But at the OP, what some other people have been saying: unnecessary or excessive physical contact is a definite indicator.
I often find myself in situations where it isn't entirely clear when someone is flirting with me. Luckily, I found a solution: I ask them if they are flirting with me.
If she touches you a lot when she speaks, like lightly brushing your arm and stuff when you're talking. I don't know, maybe girls just do this to me, or they were just very touchy-feely people, but this is universally true of every girl I've dated, or every girl who was hitting on me. There are probably just as many girls too shy to do stuff like that to someone they like. But, yeah, when I feel flirty, I often get really playful with the person I like, and most other girls I know do too.
Which just goes to show tha the OP will never know for sure when a girl is into him or not, since women frequently flirt for a variety of reasons other than actual attraction.arsenicCatnip said:
Rather despicable and dishonest behaviour if you ask me, but then again we all have our opinions.
OP: If you want to know for sure, I suggest you take more active charge instead of being a passive party trying to deduce when a woman is flirting with you or not. Make to-the-point questions and impart a sense that you have no time for games and bullshit.
Quite simply: dare her into being honest.
Some will buckle under such pressure and that's something you'll have to accept. But those who do give a straight answer will most likely give a truthful one.
The important part is that you stop being passive.
ugh, I HATE it when they do that! the last 3 girls I liked (sorry, like) all got flirty with me. "I've got to go catch the last train, want to come to the station with me?" wink wink, and then she was totally surprised when I manned up enough to ask her out. or come talk to me, ask me to dance, and then totally disappear. one did that like 3 times. sometimes you just want to shake them and yell: what the fuck?
Wow. I have a psych background and I'll tell ya... Reading some of these posts, I should set up an on-line course "She likes you, dude!". Women, are more complex in the way they approach these things. They don't just bar up and slobber. Nooooo!
Women have a HUGE variety of ways in which they will flirt. Some are verbal, most are physical. A tilt of the shoulder, a finger twisted through the hair, crossing her legs toward you, physical contact, wetting the lips.... FUCKING BLINKING!
The main thing to remember in successful flirting is... FLIRT BACK! If you show no passing interest, a woman will stop being interested in you, quickly. There's the occasional girl who finds the ultra shy or stand offish guy ultra sexy, but they're the exception. Confidence is crucial.
So, here's a physical flirt tip. If you think that a girl across the room might like you, look but don't stare. When she meets your eyes, take around one second, look a little supprised, then instantly embarrassed, glance away. Now, don't miss a beat. Look back at her smile, shrug and mouth the word "sorry". Even if she's not interested, chances are you'll make her feel good about herself. Flirting gold.
*DISCLAIMER* RESULTS MAY VARY!
Women have a HUGE variety of ways in which they will flirt. Some are verbal, most are physical. A tilt of the shoulder, a finger twisted through the hair, crossing her legs toward you, physical contact, wetting the lips.... FUCKING BLINKING!
The main thing to remember in successful flirting is... FLIRT BACK! If you show no passing interest, a woman will stop being interested in you, quickly. There's the occasional girl who finds the ultra shy or stand offish guy ultra sexy, but they're the exception. Confidence is crucial.
So, here's a physical flirt tip. If you think that a girl across the room might like you, look but don't stare. When she meets your eyes, take around one second, look a little supprised, then instantly embarrassed, glance away. Now, don't miss a beat. Look back at her smile, shrug and mouth the word "sorry". Even if she's not interested, chances are you'll make her feel good about herself. Flirting gold.
*DISCLAIMER* RESULTS MAY VARY!
It's called typical attentionwhore behaviour (or TAB for short).Floppertje said:
They want to insure that they are considered attractive, but they never really dare to try and explore feelings or commit to their flirtaseous behaviour. They only do it so they can have it confirmed that guys like them and will do anything for them.
Hence why an overpowering no-nonsense attitude is of utmost importance.
I was, especially with the first one. turns out she was just getting back together with her ex, which, as she later told me, explains the absolutely soulcrushing reply she gave me. so basically my timing sucked. but I still think she was sending the wrong signals... I'm too chicken to ask anyone out unless i'm pretty sure she's interested. incidentally, I'm probably renting a house with her soon ^^ sense, I make it!ApeShapeDeity said: