I don't think I've actually dated a gamer....not counting a fling I had with another man...oh wait, no, there was this one girl who was obsessed with Nintendo. Nah, not too many gamers.
Gamers in relationships.
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Sure it can work, provided, like any relationship, you put in the effort and your priorities lie in the right place.
Gaming for most is merely one aspect of thier personality, the question then becomes how great an aspect is it and how can you ballance that around your relationship with a "non-gamer". For some its easy, for others... well if your chosing WoW raids over him/her then chances are the relationship wasnt right in the first place.
Its not unique to gaming either, ive seen it happen over films, books, music.... even food. Chances are if they get so hung up on one part of your personality it wasnt the right relationship to begin with, most relationships that end werent right. I'm not a believer of the "one person for everyone" or finding "mr/mrs right" but each relationship that falls lets you learn more about who you are compatable with.
And a good point to mention is even if they are not into gaming, simply excluding them wont help, I've made huge progress in relationships in the past by trying to include them, prime example I let my boyfriend use my WoW character for a while one night while I sat watching him. Try to bring them into "your world", even if they dont get into it they will feel closer to you for your effort and deffinatly wont feel "ignored" as can sometimes happen.
Gaming for most is merely one aspect of thier personality, the question then becomes how great an aspect is it and how can you ballance that around your relationship with a "non-gamer". For some its easy, for others... well if your chosing WoW raids over him/her then chances are the relationship wasnt right in the first place.
Its not unique to gaming either, ive seen it happen over films, books, music.... even food. Chances are if they get so hung up on one part of your personality it wasnt the right relationship to begin with, most relationships that end werent right. I'm not a believer of the "one person for everyone" or finding "mr/mrs right" but each relationship that falls lets you learn more about who you are compatable with.
And a good point to mention is even if they are not into gaming, simply excluding them wont help, I've made huge progress in relationships in the past by trying to include them, prime example I let my boyfriend use my WoW character for a while one night while I sat watching him. Try to bring them into "your world", even if they dont get into it they will feel closer to you for your effort and deffinatly wont feel "ignored" as can sometimes happen.
My girlfriend for three years now is pretty much on my level when it comes to nerdiness, although I am more of a storyteller-roleplayer type while she is more of the programmer-science nerd. But we make a good match.
I wouldn't consider her a gamer though, so all in all I guess that gamerism is not really something that makes or breaks a relationship. Too many other factors are involved.
I wouldn't consider her a gamer though, so all in all I guess that gamerism is not really something that makes or breaks a relationship. Too many other factors are involved.
Hell yes. To be honest, I'd prefer a sporty chick over a 'gamer girl' every time. Find me a combination of the two (much like myself), with a beautiful personality, pretty face and a cute bum, and it's a dream come true =D
I did. She ended up tearing up my heart in seventeen different directions for no real reason, but I digress. I did, and it worked for a little while, or at least I thought it did.
I'm not sure. Gaming is a huge part of my life and my girlfriend's life, so unless they understood and respected that I'd have to say no.
This sounds like my girlfriend, though you have to substitute DnD for Star Wars Tabletop RPG and change Sonic to Kirby. We have some pretty different interests, since I like video games and paintball while she likes dirtbikes and music. We still share a love of books and movies, so it all works out.Cain_Zeros said:
To be honest, her interest in what most would consider "manlier" things like dirt bikes or ATVs are what drew me to her initially, though over time the hobbies the two of us have really started to shrink in importance as we got to know each other better.She could decide tomorrow that she likes frilly dresses and wants to listen to nothing but the latest taylor swift album and I'd still love her.
This is a bit of a strange question from my point of view.
Since when you get together with someone, its often due to having several things in common, a gamer is more likely to enter a relationship with another gamer than not- I've only ever had one (albeit rather casual relationship) with someone who had no interest in games, but we had a lot of other things in common.
You don't need to have all the same interests to have a successful relationship, but still, it tends to turn out that your major interests are compatible, but, given the amount of gaming I do, it'd be difficult for me to imagine finding someone that would put up with me if they weren't also a gamer.
Since when you get together with someone, its often due to having several things in common, a gamer is more likely to enter a relationship with another gamer than not- I've only ever had one (albeit rather casual relationship) with someone who had no interest in games, but we had a lot of other things in common.
You don't need to have all the same interests to have a successful relationship, but still, it tends to turn out that your major interests are compatible, but, given the amount of gaming I do, it'd be difficult for me to imagine finding someone that would put up with me if they weren't also a gamer.
Easy. Gaming isn't such a dominant part of my life that it would impact any prospective relationship I might have. I've actually been in a relationship for two years as I type this, and although she enjoys games, she's far from a 'gamer'. Although, perhaps I'm not the best example, considering I've been gaming seriously less and less over the last few years. The console I spend most time with is my Nintendo 64.
Um yes, gaming is my favourite hobby but it doesnt really define me. If she hated games, but apart that i really liked her, i would have no problem. I guess though it really depends on how into the gaming scene you are, for example i game a lot, but there are times when i go long periods without picking up a controller, it depends on how much you like gaming compared to how much you like your partner
Yes you indeed can. Well, I should not say that exactly but rather the only thing that keeps such a relationship from working are the people. You do not need to share hobbies with a partner for a relationship to work, and indeed it is probably best that there is at least one significant thing different about you and your partner.
There can of course be plenty of problems if your significant other is a non-gamer. Many people on these boards (and probably a fair number in this very thread) use games as more than a distraction or entertainment (or any of the usual things people might play games for); indeed, many of us are (or at least have at some point) using games as a surrogate for meatspace relationships. You can keep playing games for all those other things, but the minute you have another human in your life it is best to stop playing games for this purpose. It is hard enough to build a relationship without having to split your limited attention between clever math and a living and breathing entity with dreams and emotions of their own.
Alyx won't get jealous if you leave.
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And, for the record, I have had 6 girl friends and only one of them played games (or rather, only one played the same sort of games as I did. All of them played games from time to time, but they were of the solitaire/bejewled/facebook sort).
There can of course be plenty of problems if your significant other is a non-gamer. Many people on these boards (and probably a fair number in this very thread) use games as more than a distraction or entertainment (or any of the usual things people might play games for); indeed, many of us are (or at least have at some point) using games as a surrogate for meatspace relationships. You can keep playing games for all those other things, but the minute you have another human in your life it is best to stop playing games for this purpose. It is hard enough to build a relationship without having to split your limited attention between clever math and a living and breathing entity with dreams and emotions of their own.
Alyx won't get jealous if you leave.
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And, for the record, I have had 6 girl friends and only one of them played games (or rather, only one played the same sort of games as I did. All of them played games from time to time, but they were of the solitaire/bejewled/facebook sort).
No. They don't get it, and when I dated them they gave no effort to try and understand.
Not to be sexist or anything, but some women need to learn to be quieter.
Not to be sexist or anything, but some women need to learn to be quieter.
Sure, I guess, but most of the guys I know are gamers anyway. It's kind of like how my sister and I were comparing our ideal weddings, and I said, "I want something Star Wars themed!" She then asked me what I'd do if the person I got together with wasn't a Star Wars fan, to which I could only respond, "Seriously, I'd date a guy who didn't like Star Wars?" If I was in a relationship with someone who didn't game, I'd have to make sure I spent time with them too, and not give them anything to complain about.
I already are. me and my girlfriends are so different yet we dont mind, our differences in opinions help build the relationship
