Gonna try to point out my lack of gaming knowledge, and fix it here.
I totally agree that in games such as Skyrim, people should be able to choose both male and female partners. even if that doesn't directly change the course of the scenario, i think that is really important.
Regarding the "gaymer" thing, i think its fine for anyone to emphasize that they are gay.
i mean, if they are closeted you will taunt them for being closeted. If they are proud of it, you will criticize it.
it's really a no win situation for them and I think that is disappointing.