You know, I've never played DA except for a quick run of the elf on Origins on my friends PC, so I may not be the best person to say anything about the writing (which I wasn't getting a huge kick out of but...)
Anyway, As a gay male gamer who /deeply/ enjoys flirting with pretty much anything that moves and reading the DA Wiki about Anders, I can definitely say that the only thing I'm offended about is that I don't have, apparently, SUPER MAGICAL POWERS to assist in my flirting, so I'm not really offended here...
I don't see the source of complaints. I don't get my own people some time *sigh*