Is being a gamer really that big a deal? Can't you be in a relationship with something without a total overlap of interests?
Girl gamers and their boy issues.
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I've never actually run into girl gamers much...and I'll say its a bit weird when your talking to a nice gal, only to realize that your conversation has turned to why such-and-such game is bad or what makes it fun.
Being a guy though I can't, nor have the right to say much about your situation as a girl gamer. All I can say is that I have seen what you've described to a friend of mine. Me and her had discussion about this at length about this and concluded that its just the gender-typing and social values we place on people.
Personally I don't think non-gaming guys should be turned off by a gal that plays video games. I was not put off by my current friends when we first met; when they fan-girl over their favorite anime characters or talk about yaoi. I know thats just me but, it a world like ours today you'd think things like this wouldn't be a problem huh?
Being a guy though I can't, nor have the right to say much about your situation as a girl gamer. All I can say is that I have seen what you've described to a friend of mine. Me and her had discussion about this at length about this and concluded that its just the gender-typing and social values we place on people.
Personally I don't think non-gaming guys should be turned off by a gal that plays video games. I was not put off by my current friends when we first met; when they fan-girl over their favorite anime characters or talk about yaoi. I know thats just me but, it a world like ours today you'd think things like this wouldn't be a problem huh?
Hmm I understand your point. But you can't call a girl stuck up because she doesn't feel sexually attracted to some gamers. (of course if they are a ***** about it for that reason, then yes she's a stuck up *****.) No offence but not all gamers are the best groomed. I actually don't know that many gamers to be honest though. Well I know many just don't have gamer friends really. *har har socially awkward*magnuslion said:
And don't you think you sound kinda stuck up towards said boy friend. I don't know him but to me it sounds like you look down on him.
Oh and I'll explain something about most girls... They act stuck up towards guys that they do not feel attracted to, when said guy flirts too obvious and they are bothered by it... It's how they show they have no interest... It's painful.. But it's the female way of making clear they are not interested... *sigh* sometimes I hate my own kind.
I (a female gamer) had no problems with that, but mostly because I mostly dated people from either Anime Club or the Tabletop Gaming Club. This was in college, obviously.Wereraccoon said:
When I dated non-gamers, they were usually friends of friends who gamed (or watched anime) so typically that worked out fairly okay too.
So yeah, basically I just never dated outside my extended group of friends. ^^;;
Fair point, I could make more of an effort to uncover people's interests.Wereraccoon said:
True, really I guess if I could find somebody with a similarish tastse/obssession in films or music I'd be happy with that too.justnotcricket said:
In my experience, depends on the game. In my relationship, after much arguing and whatnot over a long time, i was forced to quit WoW. (not a raider btw, just a ridiculous bias against it). Single player campaigns seem to be fine though... I can play anything i want in single player without tremendous issue. She won't play with me mind you, but it works.thaluikhain said:
I can see it working, but maybe not if one person plays WoW and the other doesn't.
The guys I've been with have been into games that I'm not. My taste in gaming has always been completely different from theirs, so there has never been any common ground in that sense (actually, my ex was hardcore into The Sims... hmm). Mind you, that could change now that Mortal Kombat came back and kicked everyone's ass with its awesomeness.
never had this issue with guys being I am gay but have with girls but I got lucky and married me a gamer geek girl who plays more games than me lol
Lol if I don't think I could date a guy that games MORE than me... It would be unhealthy... I think x'DBlood Countess said:
But it's nice you found a nice girl
The lesson here is that sometimes it's just not always easy for anybody. The few 'gamer girls' that I know have had some decent successes in that department.
The girls I've been interested in in the past few years haven't been especially gamer-y anyway, so it's not like just being a gamer is going to help in the first place... or something.
The girls I've been interested in in the past few years haven't been especially gamer-y anyway, so it's not like just being a gamer is going to help in the first place... or something.
Oh, I wish I could find a girl I could discuss Mass Effect with! Yeah, it's just the stigma gaming still unfortunately carries with it for all those who don't understand our shared hobby. Male and female gamers alike are thought of as "a bit weird" by their contempories. Be yourself, and you won't have any problem attracting a nice gamer lad.
Meh, it's the same situation all round trying to chat up anyone anywhere. Although despite being gamer myself I found it odd when one of the girls I work with suddenly started talking about E3. There was absolutely no reason for me to assume she didn't play games it was just kinda unexpected.
Of course that could just be the underlying social prejudices I try to ignore talking.
My experience with peoples judgement of gamers can be summed up in a short conversation I had with two friends over our timmies break one monday,
Friend1: How was your weekend?
Me: Quiet, I just got Mass Effect 2 so that ate a lot of time.
Friend1: You're a gamer?
Friend2: Oh she's definitely a gamer.
Friend1: oh dear...
Of course that could just be the underlying social prejudices I try to ignore talking.
My experience with peoples judgement of gamers can be summed up in a short conversation I had with two friends over our timmies break one monday,
Friend1: How was your weekend?
Me: Quiet, I just got Mass Effect 2 so that ate a lot of time.
Friend1: You're a gamer?
Friend2: Oh she's definitely a gamer.
Friend1: oh dear...
While I've had quite a few "boy issues" in my romantic life and life in general, I can't think of any that had to do with me playing video games. Aside from the occasional, well-intentioned offer to "help" (play/highjack) a game I'm in the middle of. Seriously, what is that?
Although, I don't think I can call myself a gamer girl unfortunately. I loooove video games, bad at most of them, but they're always fun.
Although, I don't think I can call myself a gamer girl unfortunately. I loooove video games, bad at most of them, but they're always fun.
They don't all have to overlap, but I think that many gamers find it important that a partner can at least understand why they spend so much time looking at a monitor playing a game, which is still a fundamentally different experience from films or books as you can't always tell when you're beginning or stopping with a gaming session. And they almost inheritly require more time than a film so... yeah.thaluikhain said:
Not to mention I'm sure many guy (and girl) gamers wouldn't mind having a partner who they can take with them to their favourite MMO or for some co-op goodness.
When gaming is a big part of your life it helps to have a partner who can understand fully why it is. And no such better person than another gamer.
(That said, I've befriended plenty of gamers, but they seem to be either too young, in the wrong country or taken when it comes to even considering them for romance)
Odd, just went to a store with a friend and the woman that cashed us out was a gamer. It got brought up because we got a phone call from a friend about games when we were in line. Suddenly, she explains that she understands 'cause she plays games, too. We were both surprised, and ended up talking to her about a few things before we left. Main reason we left rather than talking to her for about 30 minutes about games was there was a line behind us. Too bad she was much older than either of us.
Anyway, 90% of the girls that I've met that game generally have a boyfriend or I wouldn't want a relationship with (they're young or I'm just not attracted to them).
Anyway, 90% of the girls that I've met that game generally have a boyfriend or I wouldn't want a relationship with (they're young or I'm just not attracted to them).
This whole reply = words to live byDeadSp8s said:Dork girls are so great...as long as they're the kind that shower regularly. So, I would say just keep trying. And always shower
Probably wasn't the right guy for you. /whiteknight
Haha I've driven my room mate insane with mass Effect... xD I'd say it's one of my favourite games... But I guess I could say that about most Bioware games... So I'll just say that I really like Bioware gameslithium.jelly said:
Yes but the trick is to FIND a nice gamer lad
There is one nice lad working in my local game store... But eh... No courage 8D
