Girl gamers and their boy issues.
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I won't say all men are stupid, but I will agree that a lot of them are immature, especially when women are involved. Then again, a lot of women are vapid and shallow too. Seems to balance out there.MoNKeyYy said:
Girl: Tee hee I play boy games, I'm super cool and special.
Guy: Tits or gtfo girl.
And thus the cycle continues.
I guess I have a similar and dissimilar problem - I don't have much of a problem talking to guys about games, but that in itself is also a problem. "Oh, you play computer games? Awesome! Let's talk about games and be friends!" Result? Me = forever alone. Just because I play games doesn't mean I'm a lesbian, or that you can't find me sexually attractive. Fair enough if you just don't like me that way anyway.Wereraccoon said:
That being said, I suppose all you can do is avoid talking about games to non-gaming guys? I've only ever dated other gamers to be honest. People are difficult anyway, male or female, so even if the whole gaming aspect wasn't a factor, I would still be having problems.
Personally, as a guy forced to identify as a gamer because labels work like that, have literally no interest in ever dating a girl who plays games. I tried it once and something about that particular girl made me swear off any girl who identifies as a gamer.
...I am in tears from laughing right now. Oh my god.ouch111 said:Wait, are you telling me this is something that actually happens?
OH.
MY.
GOD.
(Also, I'm usually the one saying the lines in the first panel. Damn it, 2Fort is NOT a frag map! Cap the intel!)
Lol, it really is XDAris Khandr said:
But as said by others, it's hard in general to find others who enjoy gaming as well, full stop. It's not as large a community as it seems at times, and a lot of people who play games wont identify as a 'gamer' because it has the stereotypical image of being geeky/nerdy.
But you don't both need to be interested in games to still talk about them, my gf almost never played games before we went out, and now she plays them almost as much as me because, in her own words's, she wanted to join in with that part of my life ^.^
I know exactly what you mean. I mean, I'm a guy, but i still get it. I was at my friends party once, and even after being warned not to go on and talk about games by him, i found myself talking to a group of people about Oblivion. after half the people immediatly left the conversation for fear of catching the geek, one girl seemed to be paying a lot of attention to what i was saying. By the end of the party me and her were talking about many other games as well, like mass effect and (of course the only game she previously heard of) Halo. She asked me where i lived, and i showed her because it was just down the block. She invited herself in, and demanded (the same way my dog demands me to give her a peace of steak) that I show her how to play the game. 5 hours later, my mother (getting ready from work) walks into my room because she hears giggling and finds me sleeping DEEPLY and the girl playing Oblivion. Now this would have been a much smaller issue if we weren't both naked... and that's how I met the girl I want to marry. Girl's that not only enjoy gaming with me but can also swing in the info and lingo are quite possibly god's gift to gamers. So, On Topic, you'll find yourself having much less relationship problems if you try and find a guy who shares intrests with you, and like playing what you like.
You should see my Sister - she scares even me sometimes and I swear to god her laugh is from the fable series.... Thank god this boyfriend plays the same console as her.
This is why I look about online to find people, chances are they'll have similar interests!
This is why I look about online to find people, chances are they'll have similar interests!
If he doesn't play games, then he probably doesn't want to talk about Mass Effect. If you didn't pick up on that, then he probably wondered, correctly, why you continued to talk about it.Wereraccoon said:
There are many reasons there aren't more threads about women experiencing this phenomenon.
First, there are fewer hardcore female gamers. They exist, but they're not as numerous as their male counterparts.
Second, men are much more likely to suffer through a boring conversation if they think they'll get to sleep with a woman than women are to do the same with a man. For women, conversation is a key aspect of attractiveness. For men, a woman is allowed to be a certain level of boring/stupid/offensive/crazy as long as they're hot. Yes, I know. We're pigs. We've established that.
Third, most societies expect men to make the first move. Thus, if a woman is in a conversation with a man at a party, she was probably approached, and the guy has pretty much already decided that he finds the woman attractive. If a guy is in a conversation with a woman at a party, he approached her, and he has no idea whether she finds him attractive or not. If he's a shut-in gamer, he's probably not helping himself in the "riveting conversation" department. And so he fails. Women pretty much just have to nod their head and laugh at jokes at the appropriate time if they're interested in a guy. Guys have to impress.
These are all general statements, of course, and in no way encompass all experiences of the human collective.
I'm just curious, though. Did you ask him whether he plays games and whether he'd heard about the Mass Effect franchise before you started talking about it? Because if not, then what possessed you to talk about it until you weirded him out? If I approached a girl and she started talking about a media franchise about which I had no idea, I'd sit there and listen and ask questions for a while before I bolted. You must've gone on for a bit.
I know one.Aris Khandr said:
It's very unfortunate for her. She has feelings for a straight girl that's in a relationship, and thinking about it always makes her sad.
OP: I've met a few gamer girls, unfortunately they're definately not for me since they spend all their time in the RPG spectrum, specifically WoW. The only other one I met was one that only plays her N64...and she has never played Ocarina of Time. She didn't know the 3DS version was a remake...
I think anyone taking the fact that you're a gamer as a big negative trait is not someone worth being with in the first place. There are plenty of other perfectly datable humans. I wonder if anyone has used the "Plenty of other fish in the sea" phrase in a sushi restaurant. That would be hilarious.
For me, all that ever led to is falling for girls that live on the other side of the globe.GraveeKing said:
I know plenty of gamer girls, but the ones that aren't taken simply live too far away. And from the 2 girls that weren't weirded out by my hobbies (at least at first glance) one was taken and one was an absolute loon.
Bottom-line: I have no idea how to find girls that would find me interesting around me. Honestly I don't expect to be out-nerded or something, but just someone who doesn't slowly back off and calls me a weirdo under my breath, someone who would want me to learn her more about the games I play or/and the (comic) books I read. Just someone who wants to be a part of my life.
Y'know, in the 3 years I'm playing TF2 I might have seen 2Fort played as a sniping-frag map maybe twice or something.arsenicCatnip said:
I'm a guy, and was mostly unaware that this could be a problem for some people. A large amount of gamers are male, and there are bound to be quite a few in your neighborhood. I don't know any females in my school that play video games, really, but maybe that's because I don't talk to people much. If anything, that girl that said she was getting a 360 because her boyfriend convinced her to get one to play Black Ops might count. Though when I overheard that, I slammed my face into the desk. This was when Black Ops was released and nobody would shut the fuck up about it.
Go to more conventions. You'll be up to your neck in girl gamers before you know it.Trezu said:
This thread is pretty damn depressing. I figure everyone will find someone eventually, but you could try some geek dating site if life's really got you down.
Either way, I don't know where you live or what your circle of friends is like, but girl-gamers are very popular among the kids in my hometown.
Either way, I don't know where you live or what your circle of friends is like, but girl-gamers are very popular among the kids in my hometown.
I identify as a gamer because that is where my main interests lie. I'm not completely focused on that (I am also an avid reader, singer, and a barista by trade), but gamer seems to fit me the best.Abandon4093 said:
I'd be willing to assume that most of the 'gamers' around here have more than just one interest. The label just seems to stick to anyone who likes games (and this counts for tabletop RPGs and board games too).
I probably sound like a major douche but I'm a bit glad that not only guys has this problem :V (sorry), makes me feel less hopeless.
And why does it seem that every nice gamegirl is living anywhere else but in my vicinity? WHYWHYWHYWHYWHYWHY
Good luck in your endeavors though! Also, I know a couple who've met over TF2. They met by killing eachother a whole bunch of times... which must sound whacked out for non gaming people :V
And why does it seem that every nice gamegirl is living anywhere else but in my vicinity? WHYWHYWHYWHYWHYWHY
Good luck in your endeavors though! Also, I know a couple who've met over TF2. They met by killing eachother a whole bunch of times... which must sound whacked out for non gaming people :V