Girl gamers and their boy issues.

[Ambi]

I only JUST got up to date. had a PS3 for about a year, and now I finally got my fuck-off awesome Gaming PC going. Now I'm miles ahead of my friends, the other day I picked up Crysis 2 and DIDN'T EVEN HAVE TO LOOK AT THE MINIMUM REQUIREMENTS FUCK YEAH.

I'm still way behind. I'm hoping this laptop can handle Bioshock with integrated graphics. I'm also contemplating installing XP to play the early C&C games and Deus Ex which I chanced upon and picked up for about $2 second hand. I don't know whether to hack away at that stupid HP case on the partially broken computer to get the DVD drive out or if I'm just an idiot >_<

I don't think I can be bothered trying to keep up to date, I can't miss superior graphics and all that when I've never played anything with them, and I should save money.

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I get the feeling that there are other ways to garner a guy's attention than relating on a gaming level. Obviously that won't hurt, and obviously it can mean everything to certain people, but it's sorta like music or anime or movies or whatever - you don't need to like every single thing they like. You'll find things to relate to them with, and go from there. And if they're open-minded (and not dicks), maybe they'll want to know more about the stuff you play.

Maybe they won't. It's not the end of the world.

But seriously, Alpha Centauri was fantastic, and everyone you're talking to should know that.
I mean seriously, just glance at the Greg Tito's review [http://www.metacritic.com/game/pc/sid-meiers-alpha-centauri]. Honestly, it's the highest scoring game in PC Gamer magazine, and for good reason.

But yeah, point is, there's more to a girl than the games she plays, and people will probably be attracted to you for other things, with gaming coming as an afterthought, unless you're looking at geek 2 geek or a similar dating website.

That's true. It's not exclusively gamers that catchy my attention, just generally guys who are somewhat intelligent and introspective with a little boyish immaturity and creativity. There are plenty of different ways to relate to people.

I have varied interests that I'm familiar enough with to feel like I identify with them somewhat, but I'm never fanatical or knowledgeable enough to feel like anything is a niche, if I could say that. Gaming is one of those things. I guess having a slight interest or even tolerance of games would be enough for some guys, though.

A reason I posted what I did was because I was thinking of doing games design at uni because I saw it as a very versatile art, despite not having played a lot of games, but I didn't end up deciding to do it because it seemed to be for people who were very fanatical and knowledgeable. It would be good for my social life if I was at uni.

Anyway, Alpha Centauri just doesn't seem to be popular with people my age, it's a shame though. I was lucky I had an older brother who put it on the family computer.

 

[theonewhois3]

all the "gamer girls" ive met seem to have a male counter part as it were.

this is because gamer girls aren't "available" for very long. has to do with the whole "omg its a girl gamer!!! must get before the other alpha-nerds get her" mentality... and yes there is a hierarchy in Nerd-Dom.

Wait, what? There's a hierarchy? What hierarchy??

 

[WaysideMaze]

For instance you're at a party talking to a nice guy... And realize you've ended up talking about Mass Effect. And the guy is like: Riiiiight... *backs off*
It's funny how non gaming guys are just as freaked out as girls... Oh well. Just curious after thoughts, and if more girls have experienced this problem.

If I was at a party and a girl started talking about mass effect, I'd have thought I'd hit the jackpot.

Just keep up with the mass effect talk, surely one day someone else will be into it.

 

[LetalisK]

Even though I'm a guy, and it's only mildly related to the topic, I've never dated a woman who was a gamer. I'd allude to the fact that I play some games, but I wouldn't let her know to what extent. Like they say in Scrubs, you gotta let your crazy out in small doses. And then I assimilate them and make them a gamer girl.

One of us, one of us, one of us.

 

[Ampersand]

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If you'd like a hug i'm down lol.

I would think it wouldn't be hard for girls, no matter what, to get guys...well sorta. It's all about the guy and how big of a douche he is.

Well of course in theory it's not hard to get a guy. But that also goes for all you guys, not hard to get a girl. If you drop standards. No one does. So lets just say: It's hard to get a guy within personal standards.

My hypothesis is that if everyone had unreasonably high standards in partners then the world would be a much better place.
For reasons that may or may not be self evident only to me.

 

[Sarcastic_Applause]

i think that if i ever met a girl/guy who started talking to me about scott pilgrim, bayonetta and minecraft, i'd probably scare them off with a squeal of delight of finding someone with the same interest, my own worst enemy indeed...

where im from is not known for having a large gamer culture (although i will track what culture there is down...); its not that i have high standards, its just that the stereotypes of club culture are sickeningly true here to the degree where im ashamed to associate with people in that field. I would love nothing more than to meet people who i could get along with (LP/freelance astronaut watching, comic reading, game playing, unashamedly geeky people), it'd probably make me change my perspective on life.

This all being said, the escapists community is the closest i've gotten to this so far, so thank you all for being all you are <3
i sound pathetic here but i dont care

 

[WolfR]

And now the thread just became a list of people trying to get in OP's pants.

 

[Aurgelmir]

And now the thread just became a list of people trying to get in OP's pants.

Is that so surprising when a girl states "I can't find a boyfriend" on an internet forum?

What I also find interesting is how this thread turned out to "I'd be thrilled to meet a geek girl"

When in fact OP was just saying that she had a hard time meeting guys, because of her gamer status, no mention of gamer guys there

 

[WolfR]

And now the thread just became a list of people trying to get in OP's pants.

Is that so surprising when a girl states "I can't find a boyfriend" on an internet forum?

What I also find interesting is how this thread turned out to "I'd be thrilled to meet a geek girl"

When in fact OP was just saying that she had a hard time meeting guys, because of her gamer status, no mention of gamer guys there

Not really, it's just disappointing how the entire tone of the thread changed from "I have a problem, what do you think?" to, as you said, "I'd be thrilled to meet a geek girl".
Would've been more interesting to see OP develop some kind of solution through the answers and keep talking about it, oh well.

 

[darkcommanderq]

Where I live gamer girls always, ALWAYS have a boyfriend. Im guessing that some say they do even if they dont.

Also Mass Effect FTW!!

 

[ms_sunlight]

Look, I've been with the same guy since 1995, and I met him via Usenet. I am not a representative sample. Way back then gamer culture such as it is now really didn't exist, plus only a handful of people had internet access from a private provider, most people I know had a .edu or .ac.uk account. The fact that I liked games was neither a help nor a hindrance. I don't see why it particularly has to be now, for that matter.

 

[putowtin]

me be girl gamer
married un gaming male
life lot better when no arguments over use of consoles/pc!

 

[sageoftruth]

I'm coming to believe that an interest in gaming can kills romance. I once dated a girl who shared my interests in gaming and anime. We ended up as friends. Of course, it could have nothing to do with gaming and simply be that I only know how to be a friend to women.

 

[100tacks]

me be girl gamer
married un gaming male
life lot better when no arguments over use of consoles/pc!

Agreed! My husband could care less about video games, so we don't have to discuss who plays what and when. He will still try to play games with me sometimes, just like I try to care about baseball (so boring). Couples don't have to like all the same things, just respect each others interests.