Girl Magnets

[Liudeius]

Well maybe they were his friends.
Or maybe you value an actual relationship too much.

You know, about 73% of college students have "hooked up" (modern word for one-night-stand, actual sex is not technically required) with the average number of times being 7.

So if you're looking for an actual relationship rather than just sex, that's your problem.
Most college girls are skanks and most guys are man-whores.

Do you not have normal friends though? If you do are any girls? Do you not like any of them?

 

[Hagi]

I think its easy to get stupid women, just have money and they come flocking to you like flies on crap. Have to treat stupid women like they don't exist, make small talk but never make the first move. If she finds out you like her, well then its game over my friend. I can tell you right now, don't take advice from stupid women on how to get other stupid women. I swear they take the romance approach, that crap doesn't work. Its not hard to get a stupid girl to sleep with you, just act like you don't want it, stupid women are easy to trick. Bring on the stupid messages I am going to recieve by posting this.

There's guys who'll sleep with anything that bares their tits at them.
There's girls who'll sleep with anything that looks powerful.

Then there's the majority of us who act just slightly more intelligent and complex.

 

[Vicarious Reality]

Typical breeders, ignore them

 

[krazykidd]

I constructed a girl magnet once, it worked really well.
Getting the girls with the magnet was easy, getting them to feel anythign but rage about beeing abducted was not, if the magnet hadn't held them to it like a regular magnet hold a tight grip on iron, i would've been stiletto-stomped into oblivion.
Then came law-enforcement, and all the angry men whose girlfriends, wifes and daugthers had been sucked up by my creation, accusing me of abduction, and generally wanting to whoop my ass just as much as the girls.
Luckily, my one-shot teleporter got me safely to my secret lair hidden inside an underground volcano.
Now i need to change my face.

On a more serious note, why on earth would you want to attract girls who despise what you like? Would you honestly care enough for their company to give up your interrests, to pretend to be something they could like for the sake of their lousy company (not all girls are lousy, those who despise what you are, for you lousy)

He's in high school , of course he does.

OT: I've been there, hurray for internet dating . Seriously , i have no self esteem , so the few women that was interested in me ( because i'm a bit of a loner, and back when i was is highschool, that was still semi-attractive ) they stoped being interested a few minutes afterwards. But my first real Girlfriend i met on the net ( i was 17 she waS 18 ) it lasted 2 years, after that i realised i gained a little self confidence , so it helped me a bit.

Lesson here is , if you can't do it in real life, do it on the internet !

 

[Iron Mal]

So perhaps today was just out to get me, but damn I hate days like today. When everything seems to just exist to remind me what a sad lonely loser I am.

So after being mildly insulted in class by a female I had liked, watching everyone and their girlfriend/boyfriend out enjoying the nice day, and having to sit behind a group of women in another class discussing whats "wrong with those guys who play games" and "watch those weird Asian cartoons", I had the pleasure of having to watch some random sophomore (I'm in college) get to sit and eat dinner with no less than 6 different fairly attractive women who came up to him to sit with him. While I sat by myself for the 4 year in a row. And then watch as no less than three of them were almost sitting on him within 5 minutes.

Needless to say, I was just a bit irked. I mean, really, how the fuck can people be so lucky? I mean, did I just get shafted in that department? Here I am, can barely get the time of day from women and people like him have women basically throwing themselves at them.

I mean, I could accept that, yes, fine, some guys through no fault of their just will never have any luck finding women. But does life really need to remind them that they suck and that they've failed at something like that at almost every opportunity?

For the most part it isn't luck, some people are just naturally better at picking up girls while others have to work hard at it (and some people just can't ever seem to do it). Sometimes it is luck but sometimes it's confidence, your ability to talk to people or maybe you're just trying to talk to the wrong kind of people (not all women think videogames, anime and other 'nerd stuff' is weird just as not all guys play football and think of women as just 'ass for the tappin', bro').

When we think of those guys who literally swim in women, it tends to only be one or two people who do that (we all know someone like that) but it's easy for us to think that it's happening to everyone (especially when everyone doesn't include us).

The best thing I can reccomend to you is to just try to embrace who you are and try to find other likeminded people (contrary to popular belief, there are in fact women who enjoy videogames and anime as much as men do). You may be successful in meeting others, you may not (I'm not gonna lie like most other guys with dating advice and try to sell a miricle to you, starting and maintaining a relationship does have it's challanges) but the people who you do meet are going to appreciate you for who you are rather than expecting you to be what they want you to be (so if you do find a lucky lady out there who you get on well with, odds are on it'll go much better and you'll both be happier for it).

If you have any other questions or wanna talk further then feel free to send a PM and I'll try my best to give advice or answers.

 

[Mallefunction]

Of course, magnetism!

That explains it all. Women aren't humans with complex needs, wants, and opinions. It's so obvious! Actually, wait. Fucking magnets, how do they work?

So yeah, girls more complex than magnetism, which is itself pretty complex. And some people are just really good at physics. Or getting women. Stephen Hawking is both.

Pretty much this.

OP: Get over yourself. I'm a woman and I HARDLY have men flocking after me for my company. You know, I would say that I am also not a completely hideous creature in personality nor appearance. At the most I've had two boyfriends both in the long term and I've been single for the past 3 years with only one or two guys approaching me ever (all were creepers, pulling the whole "stalk for HOURS to the dorm room and THEN ask to be boyfriend and girlfriend instead of a number and a date first") and you know what, who cares? If people can't enjoy you for you, then you don't need them as partners.

Maybe you should try online dating? I've met a decent guy there. Dunno if we can do much, but hey, better than nothing right?

SNIP

 

[Tzekelkan]

Fucking magnets, how do they work?

Magnets are metal, metal is mined from the earth, sometimes there's still some gravity from the earth in the metal and that's how a magnet works

Hahahaha, I love you.

Also, hopeless dude from the original post: why don't you join an Anime club or play D&D or do something where females sharing your interests might be found, instead of complaining about it like there's nothing you can do.

 

[x-machina]

No scarface quote about how you get power->money->women yet? I'm disappointed in all of you

 

[Chainsaw_Chuck]

Get a motorcycle. Seriously. Great mode of transportation, room for two, and you get to wear a leather jacket.

I'm not such a big hit with the ladies either, but after I mentioned I was getting my motorcycle licence, my firend who has sort of been intrested in me on and off now wants to go on, and I quote "romantic adventures" when I get my bike in October. Of course I know she's just being flirty. But still, she's more intrested in me now that I have a kick-ass mode of transportation that's built for two.

And the self-confidence thing too. That really helps.

 

[Citizen Sane]

Dont worry to much. Find a gaming club or an anime club and chat with the girls there. Become friends. If you want to meet girls so you can sleep with them and then dump them, ignore this advice.

 

[Owyn_Merrilin]

The best thing I can reccomend to you is to just try to embrace who you are and try to find other likeminded people (contrary to popular belief, there are in fact women who enjoy videogames and anime as much as men do). You may be successful in meeting others, you may not (I'm not gonna lie like most other guys with dating advice and try to sell a miricle to you, starting and maintaining a relationship does have it's challanges) but the people who you do meet are going to appreciate you for who you are rather than expecting you to be what they want you to be (so if you do find a lucky lady out there who you get on well with, odds are on it'll go much better and you'll both be happier for it).

Speaking of which, the girls are usually bigger anime fans; I've never heard of a high school that didn't have a contingent of squealing anime fan girls, most of whom read gay porn (in the form of Yaoi) openly in school, in a way that would get any guy expelled. A nerd could do a lot worse than one of those girls.

That said, though, it gets better in college. Highschool can be very rough for nerds, but as people grow up, nerds start to be the more successful individuals.

 

[Paragon Fury]

I'm. In. College.

And no, there is no anime club. There is a game club, but it has exactly zero women in it.

Or maybe you value an actual relationship too much.

Do you not have normal friends though? If you do are any girls? Do you not like any of them?

I didn't know it was possible to value an actual relationship too much.

And I don't really have any friends. The couple that I do are men.

 

[retyopy]

Of course, magnetism!

That explains it all. Women aren't humans with complex needs, wants, and opinions. It's so obvious! Actually, wait. Fucking magnets, how do they work?

So yeah, girls more complex than magnetism, which is itself pretty complex. And some people are just really good at physics. Or getting women. Stephen Hawking is both.

Stephen Hawking? What? How is he good at getting woman? Is there something I'm not seeing at's really obvious to everyone else?

 

[Kae]

Well when I was at school a lot of girls liked me and flirted with me, but I was too shy and nervous to actually say yes to them, and I know it's kind of weird so many girls liked me considering I was (ok, am) so nerdy and socially awkward, the only reason I guess that they would like me for (besides my good looks) was the fact that I got into a ton of fights? (do women like that?), I guess I think girls find that attractive, sure you may argue that I never won a single fight but my endurance was remarkable. Anyway it doesn't matter out of all of them I only tried to date one of them and failed miserably at it, I mean I never even kissed her, I got way too nervous just by holding her hand to even dare to kiss her.

 

[poleboy]

It's all about social contact. You can't always expect people to share your interests, try talking to some people about their interests, maybe you'll find that you happen to like other things than anime and games. Not that there's anything wrong with liking those things.

It's very easy to isolate yourself if you feel different, and you can keep repeating this pattern until if feels like everyone is better off than you. But it's really often just a matter of how you look at yourself.

 

[Iron Mal]

Speaking of which, the girls are usually bigger anime fans; I've never heard of a high school that didn't have a contingent of squealing anime fan girls, most of whom read gay porn (in the form of Yaoi) openly in school, in a way that would get any guy expelled. A nerd could do a lot worse than one of those girls.

That said, though, it gets better in college. Highschool can be very rough for nerds, but as people grow up, nerds start to be the more successful individuals.

I'd argue a nerdy guy couldn't find a better girl than that (well, okay, maybe the gay yaoi porn would be a bit creepy but otherwise my point still stands).

My lovely girlfriend loves to read books, watch anime, play games and watch movies and even though we don't have exactly the same interests in those fields (she likes Sailor Moon, the Sims and Saw, I like Berserk, Warhammer 40k and Aliens) it stills gives us a lot in common that we can share with each other and enjoy (I personally find it very interesting when she talks to me about the books she does and dosn't like, I enjoy listening to her...and plus she can kick my arse at Goldeneye on the N64, I'm not very proud of that fact).

If she didn't have any of those interests then it's quite likely that me liking them would probably just be alienating to her and would give us much, much less to talk about to each other or do together.

It would definately make things hardera and put a lot of strain on us.

 

[Aprilgold]

Odds are the the "girl magnets" are over confident people that cheat on or abuse women, have money, and do dangerous/extreme/counter-culture activities. If you don't have at least two of the three, women will ignore you. There's this myth that being very attractive will get you laid, but I've seen some womanizing men, and they are 'woah' ugly.

Confidence
Money
Drugs//

Pick two.

Highschool and college
Mid-life <executives/managers/engineers have 1 and 2> <drug dealers have all three, but mostly 2 and 3>
Military has 1 and 2, and possibly 3 (women know that if they get preg. with a military guy, they have guaranteed income for at least 4-8 years or longer: government pays them directly and auto deducts from dude's paycheck = no skipping child support).

Example:

I longboard (think skateboarding only down hills and stuff). So I've got three down. However, as a student after being unemployed for two years, I lack two. Also, while I have confidence in my ability to ride a board, I'm still timid around women. So I'm sitting at 1 out of 3, and women ignore me and blow me off at every opportunity. That said, at the beginning of each semester when financial aid checks roll out, oddly enough, I find myself in slightly better company if you know what I mean.

Women want confidence, then money, then something unique/dangerous/self damaging.

Basically this, woman at that time have been taught by the media that the ONLY acceptable person to date is a guy with devilish handsome looks, money, and above ALL us, a dick attitude about self. If you don't fill this, their reaction, thanks to shows like I carly is that being in a abusive realationship with a dude thats a hostile dick weed is alright.

As long as it don't get physical, then they won't care, but if they aren't treated like god damned princesses, then they will just leave them. Do what I do on those days, BLAME THE MEDIA! Seriously, they sell FUCKING SHORT SKIRTS, like SUPER short skirts and shorts to 5-13 year olds. What do you think they want them to think?

 

[neonsword13-ops]

TAKE SOME INITIATIVE, BUDDY!

Not to be rude, but sometimes you have to find the people you enjoy being around. (Or even love.) Also, get a bad-ass leather jacket. That always seems to work.

 

[The Rogue Wolf]

I'm going to highlight the problem right here.

When everything seems to just exist to remind me what a sad lonely loser I am.

I used to think this way about myself. Then I got over it. I learned to understand myself better- that I'm not a bad person, and that while I have flaws, I also have good qualities. One of my corny taglines is "you're never alone if you're friends with yourself". And as dopey as that sounds, it's true.

People tend to reflect their self-opinion outwardly, oftentimes in ways they're not conscious of. If you're down on yourself, thinking you're a "sad lonely loser", well then that's the image you're going to project. Especially in school, people twig onto this very clearly, and they don't want to relate themselves to that (unless they feel the same way badly enough to not care about amplifying it). The guy that everyone was hanging around projected, for lack of a better term, good vibes. People want to be around that.

A lot of the repies in this thread are telling you about self-confidence. It's good advice, but it's just a little off. What you need to aim for is self-acceptance. If you can get yourself in the mindset that you're not a bad person, and you may have issues but they're not all THAT bad and you can work around them, then you'll begin to feel differently- and it'll show. I'm not a gushing extrovert by any means, but I don't have people avoid sitting near me either.

 

[The Unworthy Gentleman]

Examine what he had/does that you don't

This. All 8 words of this.

Look at him analytically to determine what it is about him that makes him attractive. Observe body language, eye movements, the way he talks, sentence structure; absolutely anything. Everything he does is picked up and noted down and contributes to attraction.

Also be aware that a lot of college attraction is about social circles and stereotypes.