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So? I've only ever had one serious girlfriend and I first started going out with her when I was 19. I'm single again now because that relationship broke up last year, but you learn that being in a relationship isn't the be all and end all. Sometimes it just takes time, but the more you worry about it and obsess over it the worse it is going to be for you. I've always found that when you try to actively seek out a relationship it doesn't work, because your eagerness comes across as desperation more than anything else, and you make hasty mistakes and poor judgement calls because you haven't relaxed about it.
My advice is to not let it concern you. You're only young, in fact five years younger than me and I'm still single. You've got to remember that not everyone magically falls into relationships and that you might have to be patient for one to come along. Just don't stress and try to enjoy being single. Being in a relationship (ie married or similar) will most likely take up the rest of your life, so enjoy your relative freedom whilst you can.
My advice is to not let it concern you. You're only young, in fact five years younger than me and I'm still single. You've got to remember that not everyone magically falls into relationships and that you might have to be patient for one to come along. Just don't stress and try to enjoy being single. Being in a relationship (ie married or similar) will most likely take up the rest of your life, so enjoy your relative freedom whilst you can.
Yeah, I know kinda what you mean, I had a girl who was really into me, but she was a bit... creepy, so I kindly turned her down. My attempt at kindness didn't stop her from stalking me for 5 months after, though.
Anyhow, I doubt you'll find "the one" in highschool, if such a mystical creature can be found at all. Don't worry too much about it, after high-school, I'm sure you'll find someone.
Anyhow, I doubt you'll find "the one" in highschool, if such a mystical creature can be found at all. Don't worry too much about it, after high-school, I'm sure you'll find someone.
well i might be an idiot but im not going to date anyone who i dont think ill be with for a while because i feel that would be a waste of money.I think that if you like someone go for it but dont break your back trying to please someone its not worth it
Things do just happen. There's nothing wrong with your outlook. I didn't have a girlfriend til I was 17, and none I care to remember til I was in my 20s. No big deal. Just be real and take your time.
Or don't. Nothing wrong with a "go get 'em" attitude either, as long as you're careful and know what you're doing.
Or don't. Nothing wrong with a "go get 'em" attitude either, as long as you're careful and know what you're doing.
God, I wasn't even thinking about this stuff at 17...You people make me feel like such a freak. If chasing every pretty girl that walks by isn't your thing, then don't do it. Having a girlfriend is cool, but being single is cool too, so you can't really lose unless you're being pointlessly neurotic about the whole thing. Definitely don't judge yourself by what your friends are doing. Have a little faith in yourself and be your own man.
Getting the first one is easily the hardest but after that its way easier for some reason, I didn't get my first till I was seventeen.
girls are cool, and they generally smell nice.
Look, it's a tough one, as everyone is different, including girls.
When I was 17 I was convinced that I would die a virgin, now, some 20 years later, I've had many relationships with girls/women, so have picked up a few things, although I still wouldn't say that I understand them... much.
Don't try to be someone you're not.
Be relaxed.
Be cheeky, let her know that you think she's attractive, without drooling all over her and making her feel uncomfortable. (or her thinking you're a sleaze)
Be funny. Girls love guys who can make them laugh.
Be direct. If you want to ask her out, just do it. The worst that can happen is that she can turn you down or laugh at you. Her loss.
Don't be desperate, they can smell desperation a mile off.
Anyhow, that's about all I can think of presently, good luck and remember, try not to stress about it too much. It will happen.
That's about all my sage advice for now.
Look, it's a tough one, as everyone is different, including girls.
When I was 17 I was convinced that I would die a virgin, now, some 20 years later, I've had many relationships with girls/women, so have picked up a few things, although I still wouldn't say that I understand them... much.
Don't try to be someone you're not.
Be relaxed.
Be cheeky, let her know that you think she's attractive, without drooling all over her and making her feel uncomfortable. (or her thinking you're a sleaze)
Be funny. Girls love guys who can make them laugh.
Be direct. If you want to ask her out, just do it. The worst that can happen is that she can turn you down or laugh at you. Her loss.
Don't be desperate, they can smell desperation a mile off.
Anyhow, that's about all I can think of presently, good luck and remember, try not to stress about it too much. It will happen.
That's about all my sage advice for now.
Hey, I know how you feel. Was only 2 months ago that I asked a girl out at work and managed to find myself a girl who, for all intents and purposes, is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. Common interests and similarities mark everything as a sign of it's my time.
I'm 23 and she's my first.
So, I don't think it's bad. Besides, wait until the girl gets out of the High School mode before anything. Really, they're not going to grow up, or being to, until then!
I'm 23 and she's my first.
So, I don't think it's bad. Besides, wait until the girl gets out of the High School mode before anything. Really, they're not going to grow up, or being to, until then!
If you do go along with a more proactive approach try not to set yourself up for tragedy. Its okay to take risks, but you wouldn't want to ruin any current relationships. It seems that with such a tightknit group it would become awkward if something bad happened in the relationship.
I am 16 right now and I have never dated anyone. I am also passive and I feel like I need a girlfriend. I have come up with two reasons for this: 1) I see friends and strangers in relationships and I feel jealous or wonder what I am missing out on. and 2)hormones.
Logically, it is not very wise to date in high school as it is a waste in time, money, and emotions.
I'm in the same boat as you as I want a relationship but I am unable to get one at the moment but I believe it would be smarter to start dating after high school.
Hope this helps.
Logically, it is not very wise to date in high school as it is a waste in time, money, and emotions.
I'm in the same boat as you as I want a relationship but I am unable to get one at the moment but I believe it would be smarter to start dating after high school.
Hope this helps.
Ask some girls out. Or is there someone in your circle of friends you want to be with? Get her alone and tell her you'd like to go out with just her sometime. Say, can I take you to (insert dating location here). Unless she's totally obtuse, she'll understand. Oh, and you are doing the asking, so you do the paying.
I'm 21 but I've never dated, want a relationship but unable to get one due to my shyness.
From what I've heard/seen/whatever from the few friends I have. Is that it's something to be worked at. Don't come on too strong obviously or you may overwhelm and scare the poor girl. Call me a cynic if you want, but that whole 'love at first sight' thing is just BS to me and if you just say as 'the friend' without dropping hints as to the fact that you may want to go out with said girl, you may be placed in something called 'the friend zone'.
From what I've heard/seen/whatever from the few friends I have. Is that it's something to be worked at. Don't come on too strong obviously or you may overwhelm and scare the poor girl. Call me a cynic if you want, but that whole 'love at first sight' thing is just BS to me and if you just say as 'the friend' without dropping hints as to the fact that you may want to go out with said girl, you may be placed in something called 'the friend zone'.
Also, this. It may be my outsider's perspective, but high school relationships seem like a waste of time since most teenagers don't have their priorities straight, much less their own lives. So unless you have a thing for drama, it may be smarter to wait until after high school.PrayerofRefugee said:
^^This! Seriously. A lot of the time college or high school "Sweethearts" relationships don't normally survive a long time after that educational period has ended, but its not uncommon for it to lead to longer involvment or even marriage.Flying Dagger said:
I have had a similar dating experiance I guess, have been out with a few gurls during my early years, and was in the same mind set, (im 19 btw, in case you were wondering). I have hit about that 5-6 month point in my current relationship and we are still going strong.
I met her through a group of my closest friends. Someone I had not even known existed.
Take it easy, take your time and just get out there and get to know some people. Put yourself out there and be yourself. People will love you for who you are. Confidence is a real bonus, but i guess being overconfident could cause some people to think maybe your a bit too much. So again, be yourself.
I would agree with this statement. As proof (if you are in high school), look at how many times you see the girls crying or complaining. If your not in high school anymore, remember when you were.shewolf51 said:
Thanks for pointing that out. I forgot about that