Guys can be jerks, yeah, but at least in most situations we're upfront about it. Women, on the other hand.. They're vile, manipulative creatures. They're like money/soul vampires...
Not in my experience (At least at school). Boys are just as backstabbing as girls, if not more so. One day they might just decide you're a "******" and start avoiding you. Not that I've got an axe to grind.Cheshire the Cat said:Yeah. And to be honest, I prefer when guys are dicks. At least guys will come to your face and insult you. Chicks tend to be more backstabbing and always act as if they are the victims.
That picture makes me cringe with the sheer balls that guy has. Well done doesn't cover it.DrgoFx said:I'm starting this because I'm honestly curious...In my own experience, the asshole trait is found in both guys and girls. Guys are more upfront about it, girls are more subtle. So here's my question for you guys, have you ever had a GIRL mistreat you? We all know those stereotypical stories of guys mistreating women, so I want to know if I'm not the only one that's been mistreated by women.
Just to clarify, I was encouraged to do this through this image:
i work in retail too and i think the exact same thingShark Wrangler said:Like how women think they can come up to me and say whatever they want because they know I won't hit them. Of course some of the rudest customer service I have gotten is from women, other guys have told me the same. You know the only reason I can think of is that they think because they are pretty that it works on every guy. I got a girl fired who just started working at the bank because she wouldn't shut up about my card. Eventually I needed a new debit card because the old one looked like crap. Of course to make matters worse the women wouldn't stop making fun of the card when I handed it to her. Yes its in bad shape now fix it you *****. I think the final straw was when she asked me if I had a job. Even I was confused at that question until I saw what I was wearing, I got her fired.
its not just that, its that she took advantage of him, you think thats right?Blore said:Ugh. I hate that picture. I hate those kind of guys who think that a girl is suddenly a jerk if she rejects them.
JoJoDeathunter said:Sure, assholes can be either gender but eh... that girl in the FaceBook comment doesn't sound like that much of a jerk, sounds more like "Toby" is a creepy stalker. If you ask someone out and they aren't interested, then you back off and look else-where, following them around and showering gifts onto them isn't going to suddenly make them like you.
Now if someone could just get the guys doing it to stand back and see that.MarkDavis94 said:Although in that picture that guy comes across as a bit of a stalker, so I don't blame that girl for trying to avoid him
**reads image**DrgoFx said:Just to clarify, I was encouraged to do this through this image:
but she couldve said no instead of leading him on. truthfully, you deserve it if you dont decline him and just take advantage of himJezebelinHell said:JoJoDeathunter said:Sure, assholes can be either gender but eh... that girl in the FaceBook comment doesn't sound like that much of a jerk, sounds more like "Toby" is a creepy stalker. If you ask someone out and they aren't interested, then you back off and look else-where, following them around and showering gifts onto them isn't going to suddenly make them like you.Now if someone could just get the guys doing it to stand back and see that.MarkDavis94 said:Although in that picture that guy comes across as a bit of a stalker, so I don't blame that girl for trying to avoid him
I have put up with at least 2 of those guys and they are scary. She is a ***** for taking the things and possibly not being straight with him but it is just one side of the story. I ran into one of the guys about 5 years after the 2 year long incident. He was recently married and still bitter enough to verbally insult me, I am sure he still views it differently.
Really, guys like that need to stop. Just stop. No excuses. No "but we are made for each other" BS. Just stop. Obsession is not a redeeming quality. Telling yourself you are a nice guy doesn't make it so. Flattery only goes so far before you are into the creepy, restraining order zone.
Sure, it may be hard for you to get a date but if you think that is the way to do it you are wrong. Imagine the situation reversed. Think about some girl that you are not attracted to. Then think about her asking you out. You are embarrassed, even flattered a bit maybe, but you tell her nicely that you are not interested because.. well you are not interested. It isn't like you are obligated to give reasons and maybe specific reasons seem not nice and hey, you want to be nice about it because there is no reason to not be at that point. You have to see her in school or at work daily. She continues to pursue you. Texts you. Talks to her friends about how perfect you two are for each other. Shows up in the same places. Buys you gifts and sends cards randomly and on holidays. Hangs out in the same group of friends. If you are dating someone she is bitching about how wrong your girlfriend is for you or what a ***** she is and probably how ugly too. Your girlfriend will probably be annoyed by her advances at some point. Your friends will probably tease you about her. And this goes on for days... weeks... months. Very few days go by without you being reminded that she is there for you.
Sure, as a guy you probably don't have to worry about any physical consequences from the girl but at what point do you think it becomes strange and maybe a little frightening? Six months? A year? At what point do you question her mental stability? Since she hasn't taken a nicely worded no for an answer would you move on to not being so nice about it? Well the Facebook girl has put up with it for at least 4 years at the point of that post. Can you see that she may be a bit scared? Do you think the guy stopped after that? Do you think she should just go out with him? Do you think they are the perfect couple that the guy sees in his head?
Be honest with yourself and if you see yourself in that post, my advice is to stop, you are probably scaring someone.
Holy crap, girls are people?! /sarcasm.DrgoFx said:-snip-
Had that happen once, didn't hear most of her explanation over my own laughter soon as she tried to blame me.Cheshire the Cat said:Easy. "You were never there for me." "He treats me better." "It just happened, its not my fault." and god help you if she had a fucked up childhood.aba1 said:unless she was raped I really don't see how you can even spin that.Rem45 said:My ex cheated on me. Acted like she was the victim, still does.
But all people are dicks, all people can be cruel.
Basically it makes no sense to guys, only other chicks and white knights would ever buy into their excuses.