Has anyone completely destroyed your trust?

[JRCB]

This thread is curiously comforting for me. Not long ago, my girlfriend cheated on me at university (after just a few days of being gone). I decided the other day to give her one more chance, but I'm still not sure how much I trust her. Still, knowing that other people have been betrayed too, and been through the same, if not worse, situation, is a comforting feeling. I just hope I never have to reply to a thread like this again.

Dude, if she cheated on you when you were only gone for a few days, I really don't think it's the best idea to become close company with her again. But, this is just the opinion of some guy on the internet, so hopefully it goes well.

On topic, I don't think so. My parents didn't listen to me when I asked for a chance to see a social worker, which led to a suspension and two weeks in the mental ward. Still not a fan of my mother.

 

[Micalas]

A few years back my buddy an I had sex with some girl. Turns out she had a boyfriend. I couldn't trust anyone then.

But it's alright because the boyfriend lost his trust in everyone too.

 

[Saviordd1]

Two times

A: Girlfriend cheated on me TWICE (This is a good example of: Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me) Needless to say I've been afraid of relationships since this.

B: My "friend" helped an enemy of mine find a way to really get to me

Is it just me or do teens have chronic backstabbing disorder?

 

[johnstamos]

humanity has. Every day i hear friends lying to friends, friends lying to enemies random people lying through there everyday lives, it seems that 90% of anyone I come across has an easier time lying then they do telling the truth , especially my some of my so called friends, and no one seems to have a problem with it

 

[lightningmagurn]

Not to the extent of the other posters, but a tad bit. My girlfriend of the time didn't cheat on me (that I know of), but was extremely dishonest, and lied more to cover it up. This caused me to get in a long disagreement with a good friend of mine. He eventually showed me I was wrong, but we aren't friends anymore. I still feel bad.

 

[skullyz13m]

Sonic Team.

 

[White_Lama]

Well, since about 1000+ people read my thread about heartbrake, some of you know that yes, someone has broken my trust, and she didn't do it in such a nice way.

 

[Infernai]

I had one friend who absolutely betrayed my trust by essentially telling me "Screw you, you're boring, i'm gonna go hang out with the people who are you're sworn enemies now..ciao!". The guy was a completely apathetic bastard who simply wanted everything without having to work for it, although he had been a good friend to me in the time i'd known him he didn't start showing his true colors until after he shunned me and basically acted passive-aggressive towards me whenever we were in the same room together.

Even to this day i still don't really know why the fuck he did that too me, and since that time i've started to be way WAAY more strict in who i come to regard as a friend.

 

[Astoria]

The worst I've had was when I boyfriend sorta cheated on me but it wasn't so bad that it destroyed my trust. After a little while I became able to trust him again. I guess I don't get hurt much because it usually takes a long time before I trust people.

I guess what recently happened with my best friend could sort of count. I'd been friends with her for over 7 years when towards the end of last year she just stopped inviting me out anywhere. When I tried to talk to her about it she just didn't answer me. We had a big fight that ended us talking for a while I decided to give her another go. Turned out that during those few months she had been sleeping with every guy that looked at her and was treating her new best friend like dirt. I've given up trying to be her friend now so I guess you could say I don't trust her to be a good friend anymore.

 

[superstringz]

Yes, though I'll spare you the details of my daddy issues. He really should be in prison.

 

[FFHAuthor]

Quite a few people to tell the truth. Most recent and prominent is an ex and a friend.

The first was an ex-girlfriend who pretty lied to me constantly (justified it by saying she was 'omitting', not lying), cheated on me, carried on multiple 'emotional affairs' with other guys, and stole a few grand from me, then thought that after all this and breaking up with me (twice, but taking her back was my bad), things were just going to be fine...after she hooked up with an ex the day after she dumps me and then gets a new bf about a week later.

Second was a mutual friend who was friends with my ex and I (and a friend of my current girlfriend), I was pretty close and confided in her about a lot of things mostly the problems in my relationship and my attempts to try and get a handle on things with my ex (it was before things got bad), and she took everything I confided in her and got my ex to do it (causing the cheating, emotional affairs and lying), then blamed me for everything, claiming it was my mistakes that caused my ex to do it. Tried to pull the same stuff with my current girlfriend, thankfully my girlfriend has a brain and a soul and hasn't fallen for it.

Pretty much cut off the ex without a word and look at everything that the other girl says to me or my girlfriend through the same lens; "How is she trying to screw with me now?"

 

[Akytalusia]

yes. and it was a significant influence in making me into the data processor i am today.

 

[Vie]

I had a brief relationship with a guy, with crap sex, only to discover he was already in a relationship with somebody else.

Yeh.

And I discovered this by messaging the guy, and the Boyfriend picked up... ..not a pleasant conversation, but we were both as civil as you can be when you have both just been stabbed in the back.

 

[Snotnarok]

Yep, two friends were much over my house often and one was doing work for my brothers studio (which my brother and I built, rented and set up and provided equipment for).

Literally in 1 day everything fell apart, they both started talking behind his back and one claimed my brother was not helping promote the studio while everything was handed to this guy. Said friend also tried advertizing using his own personal myspace...where his profile pic was him talking to a banana like a phone.

The other friend? Decided to tell his parents my brother was some kind of pimp and that they need to keep his sister safe. Which is funny because the sister was after my brother and my brother was very much not after her (as in she had plans for a relationship he was very much avoiding) and had a girlfriend. The sister called up confused one day and we found out they were doing a lot of talking behind his back.

Funny enough we don't see them at their old haunts anymore, or the local tacobell which they always went too...

Seriously, I know it sounds one sided but this is how it happened and I'm STILL confused why they did it. The mother of one even helped me get some surgery done on my back, still very thankful to her. :\....

 

[Synyster]

Yes I had a great friend of 6 years completely destroy my trust, I'm not going to go into details but suffice it to say he did something wrong then claimed i did it to save his own ass

 

[teqrevisited]

I've never really been trusting anyway. There are only three people in the world that I trust. Even then, I don't share my thoughts or secrets with anyone. It's just not in my nature.

 

[teutonicman]

I have a buddy that couldn't plan his way out of a paper bag. However he has been a good friend for a number of years so I given him friendship tenure.

 

[Jake the Snake]

Sort of. There was this girl I dated, that didn't so much break my trust, but completely disregarded my privacy. We'd broken up about a year before this happened, but I was eating lunch with her and a few other people (that I didn't know that well), and somehow she started spouting off things we had done intimately right in front of everybody. Things I'm not too proud of. I was completely embarrassed, and all I could think was "Why...why would you do that?"

Over time, I began to realize more and more there was nothing left of the nice, geeky, fun girl I had dated the year before. She'd taken up drugs, and just became a very negative person (she complained about literally everything).

I don't like her. I don't trust her. I never want to see her again.

 

[Blow_Pop]

I neither trust people I date or people I call my friends. I've had enough friends screw my boyfriends/girlfriends behind my back that I can't trust them. I have two people I absolutely trust no questions asked. One is gay and I've known him my whole life. If I didnae trust him by now....we'd have issues. The other isnae into the same kinds of guys I'm into, nor are they into her.

And I've been betrayed numerous times by a bunch of my "female friends" so I have a hard time letting people get close to me. Or liking/trusting girls.


I pushed everyone away and don't let people get too close to me. I just call it destroying my trust.

I notice you're from California... why do you type in Scottishisms? Just curious.

Seriously though, it must be hard for you to go through life only trusting 2 people. I don't know how bad your experiences have been but perhaps it's time to slowly come out of that shell?

Why? Because the people I talk to the most are Scottish and I pick it up really well.

I use to trust more, the most recent burned me earlier this year. So, tried coming out of said shell, got burned hard by someone I thought was one of my best mates. Long story short, ruined part of my reputation(further than the girls in high school did) and took the word of some guy she had just met who initially she didnae like over mine over whether or not something had actually happened(which did but he denied it or said that it was my fault)and said guy USE to be my running partner which sadly I need to find a new running partner that I can trust enough to know where I keep my inhaler and to keep me from pushing myself into an asthma attack(which is why I don't trust myself to run alone).

I neither trust people I date or people I call my friends. I've had enough friends screw my boyfriends/girlfriends behind my back that I can't trust them. I have two people I absolutely trust no questions asked. One is gay and I've known him my whole life. If I didnae trust him by now....we'd have issues. The other isnae into the same kinds of guys I'm into, nor are they into her.

And I've been betrayed numerous times by a bunch of my "female friends" so I have a hard time letting people get close to me. Or liking/trusting girls.


I pushed everyone away and don't let people get too close to me. I just call it destroying my trust.

Same here, except minus the getting cheated on. As I very rarely let people in close enough to date. And when I do, it generally ends rather quickly as I never let my guard down, not even to a partner.

I hope one day you find someone you can trust enough to date who won't betray you.

one away and don't let people get too close to me. I just call it destroying my trust.

You Scottish, perchance?

Actually no. Just the person I tend to talk to the most happens to be Scottish and I pick up accents, dialects, and spelling rather quickly. I'm actually American and hopefully will be moving to the UK soon enough. All depends on how quickly I can get a work visa and job over there.

Touché. Good luck in the UK, make sure you get yourself a piece 'n' sausage, mebbe a fish supper (Glasgae slang, dunno if you've heard that from your friend).[/quote]

Not yet, no. But I shall ask him in a few hours when he and I both wake up again presuming I can get back to sleep. And thanks.

 

[CrimsonBlaze]

My bro. I'd sooner trust a complete stranger than him.