Has anyone completely destroyed your trust?

[phantasmalWordsmith]

I remember once when I was a kid...When Yu-gi-oh trading cards were still cool.*shudders at the thought* I had a moronic friend with a moronic name who scammed me out of a bit of my collection of cheap-disposable-latest-craze-pieces-of-cards. Never again. On a more modern note, my trust in others has just slowly eroded away due to being surrounded by dishonest stupid childish idiots in my school.

 

[Spongebobdickpants]

I trust everyone until they give a reason they dont deserve my trust any longer.

Really? That's just recklessly foolish. Or foolishly reckless.

Anyways.

I trusted my parents, but then they became abusive. Physically, mentally. I don't remember a lot from before I was thirteen as a result. Oh, and they totally lied about Santa Claus, the bastards.

I don't remember keeping many friends. I do remember distinctly having my trust betrayed by a single person, over something stupid. He came to my house everyday, so we were pretty close, I guess. Walked to school together. But I was like, 12, so it was dumb.


I finally fell in love. As anyone would tell you, BIG MISTAKE. We dated for two years. She found out her uncle had been using the money she raised for the animal sanctuary where she worked for his own ends. She couldn't stay there knowing that, but she loved those animals. As such, she panicked. Went out to find her place in the world, assuring me she loved me and all that garbage before leaving.

A few months later, she sends an email saying she's not coming back. I ask some questions, get increasingly vague and cryptic answers, then suddenly she stops replying to me whatsoever. How can you still love someone, and claim such over and over, and tell them they're a wonderful person, all before leaving them without ever intending to return? Without ever saying why, or even where you're going? She lied to me. I trusted her, but in the end, she never could tell me the real truth.

Next I had a short fling with some other girl. A dominant in the S&M scene, of sorts. Anyway, she obviously abused my trust and dumped me out like some ball of garbage too, shouldn't come as any surprise; but she was downright vicious when it came to how she did it. I don't really want to talk about it. Ironically, we were never really in a "relationship"; she was already married, and I wasn't interested in her sexually, but she wanted to help me through the "Hard times" (I still take the loss of my fiance hard, even today). Bullshit, though. All she wanted to do was play around with me and dump me off. Probably gets off to it, pretending to talk to people about their issues and then stabbing them in the back.

So yeah, fat chance I'll ever trust ANYONE again. Ever.

I was going to say the story of how my best friend and brother completely betrayed me.

But i couldnt hold a candle to that level of consistant betrayal, all i can say is good luck for the future cause it sounds like you deserve it.

 

[Flack]

I used to be very open, shit happens and yeah.
There is only one person who I confide in now. If she ever betrayed that trust though I would never get a replacement person-to-talk-to-thing.

 

[SckizoBoy]

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Someone? No, thankfully. Most of my friends that I consider intimate, I do trust, and thus far, my trust is not misplaced.

However, something? Yes.

Hope. I only genuinely hoped for one thing, and I built it up for months, only for it to shit all over me and my girlfriend.

I'd expand, but I'm determined not to feel shit today...

 

[Use_Imagination_here]

Nope. I pretty muhc shrug absolutely everything of in a couple of days or week or two. I don't bury things, I just get all the grief or diappointment out as fast as I can and realise that i tried, and there's nothing I can do to make it better. Sometimes I'm lying to myself but it works nontheless.

I call It cheating at life.

 

[aegix drakan_v1legacy]

I count myself exceptionally fortunate to have avoided this kind of drama so far.

There are only about 4 people I trust completely (3 childhood friends who are almost brothers to me, and my GF). None of them have broken that trust yet. If any of them did.......It would not be pretty.

In general, though...I trust no one. Oh sure, I'll give people the benefit of the doubt, but if they ask for implicit trust...I usually don't give it. Too many acquaintances, or schoolmates have taken advantage of my trusting nature for me to continue being so trusting.

Beyond the small amount that's I'm required by society to give everyone...My trust and respect are EARNED.

 

[Housebroken Lunatic]

Yeah, teenagers seem to be addicted to backstabbing. I swear that teenagers are having hard times developing emotional intelligence. It's like they can recognize the damage they can cause and seek to do it because they can't understand the pain it can be put on someone else, but they always are there to complain and ***** when it happens to them.

Well it's not really strange that it's like that.

I mean, the human brain and it's functions (consistent empathy for instance) isn't fully developed in the average individual until around their mid-twenties.

That's why small children and teenagers tend to display really cruel, selfish and self-centered behaviour towards eachother in a much larger extent, which is only normally found in psychopaths or otherwise emotionally disturbed individuals of the adult demographic.

 

[TheAceTheOne]

Yep. Title says it all. Anyone ever betray you so bad that you worry you'll be betrayed by someone else who has given you no reason to think that way?

(If that doesn't make sense, this story should add some background)

A few years back, a girl cheated on me with two guys at once. She then told me about it. I have trouble trusting my current girlfriend even though she hasn't done anything to earn any distrust. I try hard not to worry, but sometimes, the worry creeps back in and I get afraid that she'll hurt me too.

Basically, what I'm asking is: Have you felt like this? Did you do anything about it? Any words for someone who's feeling it?

Ouch...That has to suck. I have yet to have something like that happen but if I did I keep telling myself she will just be ruining her chances with the best man ever...Gotta boost my self esteem somehow lol.

oT: Not really. But a girl did break my heart by stringing me along for...6 years then telling me over the phone we would never be together and I should just forget about her. We might meet again one day as we had a lot of the same friends and depending on how she turns out could ruin me worse lol.

Ouch. Me and my current girl have known each other for six years. I trust her enough that she won'd let me down. I just end up questioning things and worrying like an arse when everything's alright.

Known her since you were 11? Well then you should have someone you can trust...I thought you were closer to my age. I was gonna say something like 6 years? I woulda married her already lol.

Colour me intrigued... Did you look at my profile and do math, perchance?

Yeah. I trust her. The thing about my ex is... My ex keeps popping up everywhere (as in, texting late at nights, generally harassing me through friends, and pulling shit like that.) She hasn't tagged my house yet. But just give it time.

The fact that she won't piss off is what's making it hard for me to get past all the scars she left me. I've told her "F*** off, Thanks to you, I'll never be the man I once was." and she can't take the damn hint. Coming to the point where I haven't slept in about a week. Haha.

Just look at her. Don't say or do anything. Just stand there and let her belittle and insult you. Then when she pauses for a breath smile. Then walk away laughing under your breath and say a single word. Pathetic.

Yeah. That's what I'm going to do.

(Still wondering how you got my age, haha)

 

[TheTim]

I've had some friends who have done it unintentionally but none the less they did it.

thats why i live by one phrase today

DON'T TRUST ANYONE

 

[annilator666]

i haven't had gf troubles but i have had my trust destroyed by a few people friends and employers which is why i really don't trust anyone except for myself and a few select people

 

[staika]

Not by anyone I know but I am a very trusting guy to the point that my boss yelled at me for being too trusting with people.

Only thing I can think of is that at one point a customer asked if he could go into the cooler to look at what we had (we don't let anyone who isn't a worker in the cooler) I let him and later I discovered that he took one can of beer from on of the cases which makes the case literally useless and the only thing we could do with it is that my boss had to take it home. Luckily my boss is a really good friends with my dad so he didn't unrail on me too hard but I diserved it and I don't let people back there anymore and if I do I go in as well to make sure they don't steal anything.

 

[JKain]

I almost always give people around me the benefit of no doubt that they're being honest and true.
But I don't trust people in general.

Have seen countless times of lies,betrayal,back-stabbing etc. -
and more often than not it became a sort of self-destructive act for the ones doing it.
So I basically try not to lie myself (can count the lies of a decade on 1hand, i think),
and just don't care what people know about me.

That being said...possibly the first person i've ever really trusted was my proclaimed "love of my life thus far"...
which Love ended just recently and still has me kinda crushed in a "WTFhappened?"-way...

But I actually don't regret having trusted her completely -
Guess a chance for true Love demands that.
(weird, suddenly feeling like s.o. put a "hopeless romantic"-stamp on my forehead *rubs*)

Nevertheless my original mindset still stands.
(maybe just with the exception of me ever emerging similiar feelings that just have been crushed again)

 

[Saviordd1]

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Is it just me or do teens have chronic backstabbing disorder?

yep they do at my old school no one really liked my cause i was diffrent. i was suffering from Multipler personailty disorder paranoia and More

so what people like to do was befriend me and then stab me in the back because it was funny. They would convice people not to talk to me because i was a schizo [which wassn't fully true] and called me a freak.

they would befriend me then stab me and lie about stuff that i had said. because it was funny, i told someone i liked anime and they went around saying that i was into hentai and weird stuff.

i said i work at KFC they come to my workplace and make my job a living hell

i told someone i have a crush on this girl. this person then tells the girl i like that i have AID's and STD's that i got from my mother

So yeah i dont trust many people. They lie and backstab just so they can get apprecation for themselves

So yes backstabbing is very previlent and now i only trust my self

Yeah I know how you feel, I don't really dole out trust to anyone, which is really pissing my best friend off

 

[Princess Rose]

Yep. Title says it all. Anyone ever betray you so bad that you worry you'll be betrayed by someone else who has given you no reason to think that way?

Basically, what I'm asking is: Have you felt like this? Did you do anything about it? Any words for someone who's feeling it?

Nope.

I've been betrayed. I've been cheated upon. And I've cheated. **shrug** If you close yourself off, if you stop taking risks, then you'll never experience anything good. The pain of betrayal is nothing to all the wonderful opportunities that only open themselves up if you take a chance.

Besides, my spouse and I have an understanding. A very open and free understanding. No need to cheat when we're both allowed to sleep with other people. ^^

 

[Kevlar Eater]

Yes, my aunt. She stole money from my sister, who was taking a vacation away from Iraq to see her family. That day, I realized my aunt was not only a thief, but she tried to cover up her lie by returning the wallet in the place it was taken from (my car). Fucking thief, I wouldn't trust her with anything that wasn't nailed or bolted down, out of fear of finding it conveniently "misplaced".

But other than that, no one outside of my family broke my trust, because I never got close to anyone; and from reading all the pages of people getting cheated on and lied to ad nauseam, I'm just gonna stay away from relationships altogether.

 

[TheAceTheOne]

Yep. Title says it all. Anyone ever betray you so bad that you worry you'll be betrayed by someone else who has given you no reason to think that way?

(If that doesn't make sense, this story should add some background)

A few years back, a girl cheated on me with two guys at once. She then told me about it. I have trouble trusting my current girlfriend even though she hasn't done anything to earn any distrust. I try hard not to worry, but sometimes, the worry creeps back in and I get afraid that she'll hurt me too.

Basically, what I'm asking is: Have you felt like this? Did you do anything about it? Any words for someone who's feeling it?

Ouch...That has to suck. I have yet to have something like that happen but if I did I keep telling myself she will just be ruining her chances with the best man ever...Gotta boost my self esteem somehow lol.

oT: Not really. But a girl did break my heart by stringing me along for...6 years then telling me over the phone we would never be together and I should just forget about her. We might meet again one day as we had a lot of the same friends and depending on how she turns out could ruin me worse lol.

Ouch. Me and my current girl have known each other for six years. I trust her enough that she won'd let me down. I just end up questioning things and worrying like an arse when everything's alright.

Known her since you were 11? Well then you should have someone you can trust...I thought you were closer to my age. I was gonna say something like 6 years? I woulda married her already lol.

Colour me intrigued... Did you look at my profile and do math, perchance?

Yeah. I trust her. The thing about my ex is... My ex keeps popping up everywhere (as in, texting late at nights, generally harassing me through friends, and pulling shit like that.) She hasn't tagged my house yet. But just give it time.

The fact that she won't piss off is what's making it hard for me to get past all the scars she left me. I've told her "F*** off, Thanks to you, I'll never be the man I once was." and she can't take the damn hint. Coming to the point where I haven't slept in about a week. Haha.

Just look at her. Don't say or do anything. Just stand there and let her belittle and insult you. Then when she pauses for a breath smile. Then walk away laughing under your breath and say a single word. Pathetic.

Yeah. That's what I'm going to do.

(Still wondering how you got my age, haha)

Your profile lol. It was simple. I'm not outside...Don't look though.

Had a feeling. Damn. Always wanted a stalker. ^o^

 

[Shaftweasel]

Practically everyone I've known outside of family has absolutely betrayed my trust more than enough times, what was more surprising than all of the hypothetical knifeholes in my back was that they were surprised when I went into a nearly (and quite possibly) depressed state. As such, I trust very few people.

 

[Guitarmasterx7]

No. Mainly because all my friends are grade A pieces of shit. I don't trust them as far as I can throw a fucking stick, so if one of them somehow did something to screw me over I would be completely unsurprised by it it.

 

[TheAceTheOne]

Yep. Title says it all. Anyone ever betray you so bad that you worry you'll be betrayed by someone else who has given you no reason to think that way?

(If that doesn't make sense, this story should add some background)

A few years back, a girl cheated on me with two guys at once. She then told me about it. I have trouble trusting my current girlfriend even though she hasn't done anything to earn any distrust. I try hard not to worry, but sometimes, the worry creeps back in and I get afraid that she'll hurt me too.

Basically, what I'm asking is: Have you felt like this? Did you do anything about it? Any words for someone who's feeling it?

Ouch...That has to suck. I have yet to have something like that happen but if I did I keep telling myself she will just be ruining her chances with the best man ever...Gotta boost my self esteem somehow lol.

oT: Not really. But a girl did break my heart by stringing me along for...6 years then telling me over the phone we would never be together and I should just forget about her. We might meet again one day as we had a lot of the same friends and depending on how she turns out could ruin me worse lol.

Ouch. Me and my current girl have known each other for six years. I trust her enough that she won'd let me down. I just end up questioning things and worrying like an arse when everything's alright.

Known her since you were 11? Well then you should have someone you can trust...I thought you were closer to my age. I was gonna say something like 6 years? I woulda married her already lol.

Colour me intrigued... Did you look at my profile and do math, perchance?

Yeah. I trust her. The thing about my ex is... My ex keeps popping up everywhere (as in, texting late at nights, generally harassing me through friends, and pulling shit like that.) She hasn't tagged my house yet. But just give it time.

The fact that she won't piss off is what's making it hard for me to get past all the scars she left me. I've told her "F*** off, Thanks to you, I'll never be the man I once was." and she can't take the damn hint. Coming to the point where I haven't slept in about a week. Haha.

Just look at her. Don't say or do anything. Just stand there and let her belittle and insult you. Then when she pauses for a breath smile. Then walk away laughing under your breath and say a single word. Pathetic.

Yeah. That's what I'm going to do.

(Still wondering how you got my age, haha)

Your profile lol. It was simple. I'm not outside...Don't look though.

Had a feeling. Damn. Always wanted a stalker. ^o^

I'm a 5'11" 220 bald man with a huge red beard. I work out everyday and am hairy...Do you really want that Following you? lol

Can you play bass guitar? I need a bassist XD

Also... You a ginger? If so, welcome fellow ginger!

 

[TheAceTheOne]

Yep. Title says it all. Anyone ever betray you so bad that you worry you'll be betrayed by someone else who has given you no reason to think that way?

(If that doesn't make sense, this story should add some background)

A few years back, a girl cheated on me with two guys at once. She then told me about it. I have trouble trusting my current girlfriend even though she hasn't done anything to earn any distrust. I try hard not to worry, but sometimes, the worry creeps back in and I get afraid that she'll hurt me too.

Basically, what I'm asking is: Have you felt like this? Did you do anything about it? Any words for someone who's feeling it?

Ouch...That has to suck. I have yet to have something like that happen but if I did I keep telling myself she will just be ruining her chances with the best man ever...Gotta boost my self esteem somehow lol.

oT: Not really. But a girl did break my heart by stringing me along for...6 years then telling me over the phone we would never be together and I should just forget about her. We might meet again one day as we had a lot of the same friends and depending on how she turns out could ruin me worse lol.

Ouch. Me and my current girl have known each other for six years. I trust her enough that she won'd let me down. I just end up questioning things and worrying like an arse when everything's alright.

Known her since you were 11? Well then you should have someone you can trust...I thought you were closer to my age. I was gonna say something like 6 years? I woulda married her already lol.

Colour me intrigued... Did you look at my profile and do math, perchance?

Yeah. I trust her. The thing about my ex is... My ex keeps popping up everywhere (as in, texting late at nights, generally harassing me through friends, and pulling shit like that.) She hasn't tagged my house yet. But just give it time.

The fact that she won't piss off is what's making it hard for me to get past all the scars she left me. I've told her "F*** off, Thanks to you, I'll never be the man I once was." and she can't take the damn hint. Coming to the point where I haven't slept in about a week. Haha.

Just look at her. Don't say or do anything. Just stand there and let her belittle and insult you. Then when she pauses for a breath smile. Then walk away laughing under your breath and say a single word. Pathetic.

Yeah. That's what I'm going to do.

(Still wondering how you got my age, haha)

Your profile lol. It was simple. I'm not outside...Don't look though.

Had a feeling. Damn. Always wanted a stalker. ^o^

I'm a 5'11" 220 bald man with a huge red beard. I work out everyday and am hairy...Do you really want that Following you? lol

Can you play bass guitar? I need a bassist XD

Also... You a ginger? If so, welcome fellow ginger!

Unfortunately I play guitar. I could learn bass easy though lol. And I'm not a ginger. I just have a red beard.

Ah. Bass is easy to learn... But bass players are hard to find. Everyone wants to play lead guitar. XD

Alright, mate, let's just message: I've somehow managed to derail my own thread!