My friendships don't really snap, they just wear down or we fall out of contact. The only thing that could get one of mine to snap or break is if there was a huge breach of trust, which is unlikely to ever happen because I trust people sparingly.
Have you ever fought with a friend to the point you never talked to them again?
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Man that's nuts. That seems like either a mental breakdown or what cults do in forcing new recruits to cut out their social safety nets.Bitter Hobbit said:
I had a very long standing friendship with a girl I used to know, but her new husband was uncomfortable with how close we were with each other and that was that. Guy does not even realize I was on his side, heavy sigh.....
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I "fired" my entire group of close friends. Upwards of 10 guys who were all douchebags and terrible people as it turns out.
I got real tired of their shit and just kicked them the fuck out. (The actual explanation is an insane drama)
I now have my 4 closest friends (3 women I love and a guy who's like my brother), and then my 20+ casual friends who I mostly knew briefly in real life or only from the internet.
Nowadays I'm very content to be a semi-hermit. I was never a people person to begin with, and getting rid of all those idiots was the biggest relief I've ever felt. As long as these 3 ladies are happy/healthy/safe and I get to hang out with them occasionally.....I'm pretty much good.
I "fired" my entire group of close friends. Upwards of 10 guys who were all douchebags and terrible people as it turns out.
I got real tired of their shit and just kicked them the fuck out. (The actual explanation is an insane drama)
I now have my 4 closest friends (3 women I love and a guy who's like my brother), and then my 20+ casual friends who I mostly knew briefly in real life or only from the internet.
Nowadays I'm very content to be a semi-hermit. I was never a people person to begin with, and getting rid of all those idiots was the biggest relief I've ever felt. As long as these 3 ladies are happy/healthy/safe and I get to hang out with them occasionally.....I'm pretty much good.
Plenty of fights, big and small. Worst ones were absolutely over matters of jealousy, that shit doesn't go away very quickly. But none of them were a complete cut-off point, that only ever developed over time as we would go our separate ways and not really be that fussed about hanging out again.
Turns out most of the friends you pick up over the years aren't actually that, many work best when you only see them a couple times a year.
Turns out most of the friends you pick up over the years aren't actually that, many work best when you only see them a couple times a year.
I've not had that happen with friends, but I've told a few family members to fuck off & I've not spoken to them since.
I have one friend that every few months we argue about something & don't talk for awhile, but eventually one of us gives in & we start over. That's happened 3 or 4 times over the past few years. It's an interesting relationship.
I have one friend that every few months we argue about something & don't talk for awhile, but eventually one of us gives in & we start over. That's happened 3 or 4 times over the past few years. It's an interesting relationship.
Things happen. Sometimes you need to move on from people who are not good for you, or you need to move on because you're not good for them. I have an acquaintance who I've known since I was very young who I no longer speak to. The argument that brought it on we were able to get over, but I realized that any time we had close contact we'd find something to fight about. It didn't make sense to speak after that. I see no reason why we couldn't get along if we bumped into each other, but seeking any sort of close contact would be poisonous to us both.
Had a break up with a friend over a woman, mainly because she was my ex, knew how I felt about her, and he put up a front about hating her guts, and how I could of done better than her when we were going out. Turns out he wanted to see her instead, so when that happened, he tried being covert about it, I found out, then him and I were done with. Her and I still talk because we had a better friendship than she and he did, but a friend who not only broke the bro-code but tried to manipulate my feelings towards someone I was seeing just can't be part of my life. I'm at a point now where I probably would forgive him, as he tried to explain himself to me at least once, but even still, that was a dick move to pull on someone I considered to be one of my closest friends at the time.
Only once, really.
My good friend all through highschool and I had a big fight. We lived together and worked together and never really fought, until his girlfriend moved in. I think she had serious mental problems. She mistreated my pets, stabbed herself in the leg when they argued, often stormed out of the house naked (in the middle of winter) and even urinated on the floor from time to time.
Plus she didn't pay rent, so this caused a bit of tension between me and my friend. Eventually I kicked her out, quit my job and moved to a new city. Good riddance to them both.
My good friend all through highschool and I had a big fight. We lived together and worked together and never really fought, until his girlfriend moved in. I think she had serious mental problems. She mistreated my pets, stabbed herself in the leg when they argued, often stormed out of the house naked (in the middle of winter) and even urinated on the floor from time to time.
Plus she didn't pay rent, so this caused a bit of tension between me and my friend. Eventually I kicked her out, quit my job and moved to a new city. Good riddance to them both.
I've never lost a friend outright due to arguing with them, but I did almost lose one thanks to some issues with his mum.
After a mix-up with him forgetting where she said she was going to pick up, I had to endure a long car ride with her throwing abuse and death threats his way. She kicked me out as soon as she got back to her house and told me to walk home. It was pitch black and I lived a long way off, with several major roads between my house and his- while I wouldn't say it was exceptionally dangerous, it was further than I was comfortable walking alone at night and when my mum found out she was furious.
There had been a few other incidents involving a sort of downward spiral of me being nervous around her and her interpreting that as me being rude, so after that point I basically refused to ever go to his house again and avoided his family where possible. We're still friends, but our relationship has definitely cooled since then.
After a mix-up with him forgetting where she said she was going to pick up, I had to endure a long car ride with her throwing abuse and death threats his way. She kicked me out as soon as she got back to her house and told me to walk home. It was pitch black and I lived a long way off, with several major roads between my house and his- while I wouldn't say it was exceptionally dangerous, it was further than I was comfortable walking alone at night and when my mum found out she was furious.
There had been a few other incidents involving a sort of downward spiral of me being nervous around her and her interpreting that as me being rude, so after that point I basically refused to ever go to his house again and avoided his family where possible. We're still friends, but our relationship has definitely cooled since then.
It has happened a few times. The one I remember the most was a stupid fucking misunderstanding.
He was a drinking buddy of mine who I had met through common friends. We were both members on a community site and I noticed he kept looking at my profile, but never said anything to me. Asked him what he was doing and the response I got was "Just laughing at your profile". I don't know why, but I thought he ment he was laughing at me so I lashed out and got really aggressive. He got defensive and aggressive as well, rather than wondering what the hell I was talking about, and after that we never spoke again.
Not much lost though. He was nice, but had a constant need to be the best at whatever... even though I beat him at everything he threw at me. Got annoying really fast.
One of the worst cases I know about is my mothers old boyfriend and his brother. They had a fight like 40 fucking years ago and still resent each other. When their father died I believe they even planned the funeral so that they wouldn't bump into each other...
He was a drinking buddy of mine who I had met through common friends. We were both members on a community site and I noticed he kept looking at my profile, but never said anything to me. Asked him what he was doing and the response I got was "Just laughing at your profile". I don't know why, but I thought he ment he was laughing at me so I lashed out and got really aggressive. He got defensive and aggressive as well, rather than wondering what the hell I was talking about, and after that we never spoke again.
Not much lost though. He was nice, but had a constant need to be the best at whatever... even though I beat him at everything he threw at me. Got annoying really fast.
One of the worst cases I know about is my mothers old boyfriend and his brother. They had a fight like 40 fucking years ago and still resent each other. When their father died I believe they even planned the funeral so that they wouldn't bump into each other...
Once in my case. A man I considered a friend of some years turned on me in such a dramatic fashion, becoming almost a different person. He made threats and accusations that made my jaw drop. We didn't remain friends after that. I don't want people like that in my life.
I had a friend in primary school, whom turned out to be an MRA, we stopped talking because I don't like conservatives and bigots, and he was arrogant too. I first picked up on this early on, when he accused me of being gay.
Yep..happened to me with a friend of 4+ years that I used to play WoW with.
I considered him a friend since we skyped every day even outside of wow (even though we never met in real life because we were living in different cities). Then we'd had a falling out 2 years ago in Mists of Pandaria when he decided to join another guild because he wanted to progress in heroic mode and the guild we were in for the past 3+ years wasn't putting the effort in doing what he wanted (he was raid leader).
Then we started to slowly talk less and less because our raid times stopped coinciding and he found another grp of people that he was playing DOTa 2 with (I quit playing mobas a few months back because they were too nerve wracking). We got to a point where we had a fight, because there was nothing else we could talk about (he wasn't playing any singleplayer games..only DOTA 2 and I didn't..so there was barely any talk on Skype). That lead to an heated argument that filled my cup and I uninstalled Skype and we haven't spoke since.
We do give ourselves messages on Facebook when it's holidays (EAster, Christmas and birthdays) but other than that we are just almost like very distant aquaintences.
I considered him a friend since we skyped every day even outside of wow (even though we never met in real life because we were living in different cities). Then we'd had a falling out 2 years ago in Mists of Pandaria when he decided to join another guild because he wanted to progress in heroic mode and the guild we were in for the past 3+ years wasn't putting the effort in doing what he wanted (he was raid leader).
Then we started to slowly talk less and less because our raid times stopped coinciding and he found another grp of people that he was playing DOTa 2 with (I quit playing mobas a few months back because they were too nerve wracking). We got to a point where we had a fight, because there was nothing else we could talk about (he wasn't playing any singleplayer games..only DOTA 2 and I didn't..so there was barely any talk on Skype). That lead to an heated argument that filled my cup and I uninstalled Skype and we haven't spoke since.
We do give ourselves messages on Facebook when it's holidays (EAster, Christmas and birthdays) but other than that we are just almost like very distant aquaintences.
Yeah, one asshole told a girl he was glad that her mom died of cancer. It's true she bullied him, but he was still out of line. He was creepy anyway.
Another guy was just annoying and immature. I almost punched him once. Instead I got up and left. Then my best friend followed me. And then everyone got up and followed him. In the end he sat alone for the rest of the semester. He could have sat with us if he'd swallow his pride and stop being an asshole. I think he was stunned by the outcome, so he just sat there.
Another guy was just annoying and immature. I almost punched him once. Instead I got up and left. Then my best friend followed me. And then everyone got up and followed him. In the end he sat alone for the rest of the semester. He could have sat with us if he'd swallow his pride and stop being an asshole. I think he was stunned by the outcome, so he just sat there.
My sophomore year roommate and I got along really well. End of the year, he stole my project and I learned on the last day I was accused of plagiarism. I took all the evidence I had and I got it sorted on my end. No idea what happened to him. He added me on steam over the summer after I removed him and did reject the request. Never bothered with him since he was kind of a terrible human being. For his sake I hope he got better as a person.
I haven't really gotten into a serious fight with a friend, although i have severed ties with problematic people.
The case that jumps out to me its when a friend (with who i was friends since i had memory) got the social-fever in high school. She suddenly had the urge get along with the popular crowd, something that didn't bother me at first, because we still talked and had a good relation ship, but a year after the social bug bite her, she started to talk bad things around the backs of my group of friends and myself, which again i didn't give a shit about it, although it did hurt a little. That continued until the day that she came asking me to help her with a high value project for biology class (i sucked at biology T-T), so we reunited after class and gave her the guidelines for the project, then i had to go to the bathroom, and after i got back, i just saw my backpack ransacked in the floor, with my wallet and my project missing (in which i pulled my ass to get it well done). After that i went to her house, retrieved my stuff, and severed all ties with her, in the end she failed the grade and moved away.
The case that jumps out to me its when a friend (with who i was friends since i had memory) got the social-fever in high school. She suddenly had the urge get along with the popular crowd, something that didn't bother me at first, because we still talked and had a good relation ship, but a year after the social bug bite her, she started to talk bad things around the backs of my group of friends and myself, which again i didn't give a shit about it, although it did hurt a little. That continued until the day that she came asking me to help her with a high value project for biology class (i sucked at biology T-T), so we reunited after class and gave her the guidelines for the project, then i had to go to the bathroom, and after i got back, i just saw my backpack ransacked in the floor, with my wallet and my project missing (in which i pulled my ass to get it well done). After that i went to her house, retrieved my stuff, and severed all ties with her, in the end she failed the grade and moved away.