Having Children...yes or no?

[Still Life]

Well, I'm 21 now, so I think I'll give it another decade.

 

[PurplePlatypus]

No, it doesn?t appeal to me. I?m not interested in the good bits about it, and the bad bits and the ew bits are seriously off putting. I don?t see this changing, I have things I wish to do with my life and children never came into it. Plus pregnancy, no thank you.

 

[3lva]

Hmm... I generally percieve children as scary, since I'm unsure of how to communicate with them. I think it's going to take a few years (about 15 or so) before the concept even starts to not seem repulsing. (Not to mention I'd be a horrible parent.)

I understand the people who don't want kids. It is a daunting responsibility, and if you feel that you're not up to the task, odds are you're probably right. I don't see how it could possibly be selfish, unless you're together with someone and they want kids. That's where discussions come in handy.

If it's selfish to want children... hmm... I suppose generally no, but if you don't take care of them properly the option really shouldn't have been contemplated in the first place.

 

[Hairetos]

Not sure I'm into the idea of breeding. Maybe some adopted ones? I'd have to meet a family person to make me want to be a mother.

You're still young. Kids are something you really start wanting once you're so world-weary that domestic bliss presents a more attractive option than adventuring.

You know what's not domestically blissful?

Screaming children.

My dad tells me that kids don't cry because I didn't cry. 5 minutes at his church cleared that notion right up. I can't handle screeching or diaper changing or just taking care of living things in general. Not to mention that I don't find them adorable.

I'd only EVER want one for the sake of raising a prodigy. I'd think of it like an RPG character-building experience, which doesn't sound like the right approach to parenting.

 

[thylasos]

At some stage I'd like to have children, yes.

As everyone does, I'd imagine, I have concerns about whether I'd be a good parent, but I'm resolved to at least have a good degree of stability in my life before I embark down the road of parenthood.

 

[ldbmikey86]

I kinda cringed at the thought of having kids since I'd never really been around them. That was until I got an awesome nephew that brought out the kickass uncle in me. I'd say having kids is definitely worth a shot, given the right person to raise them with 'n all that. But for now, I'll just be immature with relationships and continue the band thing.

 

[Svartfalk]

Yes, I would like to have kids someday. Not in the near future, God no, but in like 10 years or so. That way I won't be too old nor too young.

 

[Mistermixmaster]

It would depend on my partner really. I haven't really given this matter much thought, but I guess it could be nice to have 1 (maaaybe 2) kid(s)? Again, it would kinda depend on my partner if she wants kids or not (as she is the one who has to carry the kid for 9 months).

 

[Shockolate]

Definitely not.

I'd be a horrible father.

 

[Hamster at Dawn]

I'd like to have kids although my genes aren't particularly great so I feel like I should abstain for the good of humanity. Mind you, both evolution and the population are pretty much fucked at this stage anyway so I doubt that I can do much more harm.

 

[Kenko]

When ive got a more stable economy and life as well as a mate i'd aim for 2-3 children I think.

 

[Martin Toy]

Kids... Now there's an interesting one... I think I would have kids, but I'd have to do something like have them take on both mine and my partner's last name. The reason for this being is that it makes life hell for the teachers at school with their registers. ^__^

 

[JoJo]

I would love to have kids, I have 7 year old sister who's great to take care of... and they're just all so cute! On a related note I've recently signed up to do some volunteering in schools with kids aged 8 - 11 although it doesn't start until November :-(

 

[Cavouku]

Yes i would love having Kids.

3 at the most.
I have 4 younger sister and i love em but, i would not wish them upon anyone.
I think 3 is a good number for me, hopefully 2 boys and a Girl.

Though i don't want to have Kids anytime soon, maybe in my Mid-Late twenties/early thirties.

I gotta' say ditto.

As for the selfish thing, I guess neither act is truly selfish. More so done out of a desire to have kids. Someone said the kids waste resources, and that can be true. But, ehn, it's capitalism, right? More buyers?

Leave me alone, I don't know how the economy works.

 

[neoontime]

Maybe in the future though I'll have to get back to that one later.

 

[Darenus]

Simply no. I know too well that I am far from being a good parent to a cat already (as in; taking care. Don't get weird with my weird answers)

I simply have not the endurance, patience or resource to take care for a kid 24/7 for more than maybe a month. AT BEST. Hence I will just not make it. Lucky I got no girlfriend then, eh? ;p

 

[LadyMint]

I love the "idea" of having children, but right now I'm just not ready. I certainly couldn't support one financially, as I'm still trying to work on that for just myself. But one day I'd like to have a few.

As for other people's children? Right about now they drive me insane. Especially the young ones who are just old enough to talk but not old enough to realize they shouldn't speak seventy-five percent of the things that come to mind.

 

[Guffe]

I like kids, they'r energetic and they can enjoy all the little things.
I hope I will have a family one day with maybe 2 kids, I have a younger brother who's 2 years younger and I hope that my kid(s) will have the same thing since a brother really is one of greatest things I've ever had.

 

[Verkain]

I see a lot of people saying they can't stand being around other people's children and I think that's perfectly understandable. I was the same way. In fact when my wife and I talked about it and eventually agreed it was something we were ready to try I was sure that when the baby came it would be the end of our marriage.

However, when it's your child it's a whole different experience I guarantee it. When my son was born and the nurses let me cut the cord and the clean him up all of my fears of being annoyed by him were replaced by fears that I would be a bad parent. (Although, today he will probably tell you that I am a bad parent since I limit his xbox time and make him do his homework.)

To answer the OP,I am all for having kids. Coming home from work and hearing my daughter yell "daddy!" as she gives me a big hug and getting beat by son in a game of Madden are all the reason in the world for me to be happy with my choice.

 

[shadyh8er]

I like kids, but there is such thing as too much of a good thing. Like if they're too clingy or spoiled I might blow a fuse on them.