I haven't played most of those games, but when I fly player controlled helicopters I find them easy to land without crashing. You just can't rush it too much (like in real life). Especially in Saints Row, those are easy to land (even when you do rush it).
Of course I still bail out of both helicopters and planes plenty, but that's just because I know they aren't going to stay parked where I leave them if I land properly, so I might as well have fun and see a big boom.
Edit: Oh wait, that's right, there is a scripted crash in Saints Row. Well I guess if you are only talking scripted, it helps in real life that there aren't usually five hundred people trying to kill you.