Help for a married man please!!

[Jeopardy]

Hey guys,
Got an interesting problem which im hoping you can give me some advise on. Here goes. Im married but lately ive also had two of my female friends trying to become more then friends if you know what i mean. So my question would be does anyone have any suggestions as to how i can get them to back off alil. Its not like they dont know im married either.

 

[Danzaivar]

Tell 'em to f%$* off, if you know what I mean.

Or move to Utah.

 

[brighteyesblackenedlungs]

was in the same situation, although I wasn't married only in a committed relationship

I just turned round and told her that her continued attempts were jeopardizing our friendship and if she valued me as a friend she would cease and desist.

I used those exact words, (virtually scripted the whole conversation) I think it could have been the lack of emotion in my words and tone but she got the point.

 

[slevin8989]

Just tell them no

 

[Spyalt]

Agree to both of them and keep it quiet.

 

[thedelightfulme]

Tell them you have chlamydia. Or that they smell like fish. Something like that would TOTALLY put them off.

 

[bjj hero]

Tell them theyre ugly as sin next to your hot wife.

 

[Samurai Goomba]

I'm afraid I'm having trouble developing any sympathy for you.

"Oh no! So many people are giving me money that my pockets are too heavy and I keep falling down!"

I realize you have a problem, sure, but I'm the wrong person to advise you.

 

[Pandalisk]

What gives you the idea they are trying to get you anyway? i've met countless men think that some girl wants them when they are in a relationship and ethier A/ dump girlfriend and get rejected by new girl or B/ tell girl to back off and the girl thinks your a phycho

 

[brighteyesblackenedlungs]

don't listen to the bull about cheating, you'll kick yourself at various points in the future for it, trust me

 

[Spyalt]

don't listen to the bull about cheating, you'll kick yourself at various points in the future for it, trust me

Your own experience is not the be all and end all mate.

 

[thedelightfulme]

just tell them that although you are friends, you are married and love your wife very much. mind you i wouldn't take marriage advice from a 15 year old.

XD LOL!

 

[wewontdie11]

I believe the correct answer to this predicament is "threesome". With your wife of course, it's not cheating if she agrees to it.

 

[bodyklok]

Ask them and if they like the kinky stuff, then have the best time of your life.

Or just tell them no.

 

[Jeopardy]

I'm afraid I'm having trouble developing any sympathy for you.

"Oh no! So many people are giving me money that my pockets are too heavy and I keep falling down!"

I realize you have a problem, sure, but I'm the wrong person to advise you.

Firstly id like to point this one out cause i just thought it was funny as all hell

What gives you the idea they are trying to get you anyway? i've met countless men think that some girl wants them when they are in a relationship and ethier A/ dump girlfriend and get rejected by new girl or B/ tell girl to back off and the girl thinks your a phycho

To answer your question Pandalisk (and admitedly i left this out originally) i know that both of these ladies have made their intentions very clear.
I guess what im looking for is a way to say "back off" without being too harsh, you guys have given me some ideas already and i thank you very much for that keep em coming and ill try something out tomorrow.

 

[a51himself]

tell your wife and she will make sure they go away... My girfriend did and this girl tried to get on to me in a bar

 

[brighteyesblackenedlungs]

don't listen to the bull about cheating, you'll kick yourself at various points in the future for it, trust me

Your own experience is not the be all and end all mate.

agreed, I just thought it was important that someone who wasn't just a raging ball of teenage testosterone showed him the consequences of that path

 

[P1p3s]

i like that your thread implies (nay states) that your intention is to be faithful to your wife.
In reality, it takes 2 to tango, you just don't get involved with either girl who isn't your spouse, it isn't like they can jump you and take advantage...anyway - if your a nice guy just be nice, unfortunately if you do say "you realise I'm married right? There couldn't possibly ever be anything between us - I made a commitment to the woman I love, why would I jeopardise that" that might make them like you even more.

The irony is, if either was able to get you to cheat on your wife that says more about your character than it does about them. Long term it's a completely ass backwards plan, if you would cheat on a woman you wore to love and honour and be faithful to in a room full of people what could possibly keep you faithful to anyone else.

Have you tried talking to them about thier intentions? Pretty crappy of them tho too - I think it says alot about who they are if they would try and hit on a married man.

Also, are you sure of their intentions? I mean, you could be a safety flirt, your safe, your married, they can be "overly friendly" in a safe environment - maybe your reading too much into it.

 

[Nerdfury]

Grow yourself a pair and tell them you're married, and to back off. Don't listen to any of the dicks here telling you to cheat - that's the weak way out of the situation, and you'd be a fool to risk losing your marriage and respect by listening to some teenagers in a forum.

 

[brighteye]

Do things with your wife at the weekends, picnics, movies and romantic stuff...
And then you tell them how fun you have with your wife, a picture in your wallet of your wife to show them would be the icing of the cake, they will get the hint.