HELP! Is this 2 early?
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Wait, so you're asking a forum community that you joined up with yesterday if you should marry someone who we don't know. Gah? Logic people, logic. The 2 in the title should have given me a clue.
I have an odd feeling that this OP is lying though. Nobody goes 'I'll tell you yes or no right after I check what the Escapist thinks'. And who would be stupid enough to ask for marital advice on a gaming forum from people that you don't know and that don't know you or your boyfriend? Nobody, that's who.
If you are serious about this than I advise dumping him. You've been going out for a couple of months and suddenly he wants to marry you? Most teenagers don't want to get married. I suspect ulterior motives behind this move. Maybe he wants to get you in a relationship which you will find more difficult to leave or maybe he's a s thick as rocks and twice as stupid so thinks marriage is a good idea. Either way, fuck him.
Nobody ever takes my advice though, and for good reason, as most of it is 'dump em'. It just sounds like he got caught up in a moment. Say that you don't want to get married (if that's how you feel, I'm not in your mind) but want to stay together (if you want to, that is).
I have an odd feeling that this OP is lying though. Nobody goes 'I'll tell you yes or no right after I check what the Escapist thinks'. And who would be stupid enough to ask for marital advice on a gaming forum from people that you don't know and that don't know you or your boyfriend? Nobody, that's who.
If you are serious about this than I advise dumping him. You've been going out for a couple of months and suddenly he wants to marry you? Most teenagers don't want to get married. I suspect ulterior motives behind this move. Maybe he wants to get you in a relationship which you will find more difficult to leave or maybe he's a s thick as rocks and twice as stupid so thinks marriage is a good idea. Either way, fuck him.
Nobody ever takes my advice though, and for good reason, as most of it is 'dump em'. It just sounds like he got caught up in a moment. Say that you don't want to get married (if that's how you feel, I'm not in your mind) but want to stay together (if you want to, that is).
Being Engaged doesnt really change anything, it just shows that you have pledged yourselfs to each other.Slashergirl said:
In my opinion just see how it goes, it shouldnt change anything between you as its just a technical thing "oh im engaged"...
also it doesnt mean you have to get married in X amount of days/years otherwise its over etc.
So go with it and make it clear to your partner that you wish to settle into the idea of being together forever etc. Dont set any dates for the wedding or plan stuff untill you are comfortable and ready.
It's too soon. I have never ever heard of anyone getting that serious that early ending up happy ever after. Most people I know who do that so soon end up being sad types of people that nobody really want to be around.
Edit: One example is a really good friend I had, who turned out to be kinda emotionally inept. When he gets a girlfriend he clings to her and puts himself entirely in her hands. They married as soon as he turned 18, and she wants a kid even though none of them have an education, nor the brains to complete one. I'm not saying everybody who engages and marries early are like this, but almost all of the ones I know or hear of are, and their children will have horrible conditions growing up with parents who have trouble making a living and maybe only one parent who can think for herself/himself.
Edit: One example is a really good friend I had, who turned out to be kinda emotionally inept. When he gets a girlfriend he clings to her and puts himself entirely in her hands. They married as soon as he turned 18, and she wants a kid even though none of them have an education, nor the brains to complete one. I'm not saying everybody who engages and marries early are like this, but almost all of the ones I know or hear of are, and their children will have horrible conditions growing up with parents who have trouble making a living and maybe only one parent who can think for herself/himself.
My parents dated for three years (and suffered two breakups) before they got married. Mom and Dad told me to be going out for at least a year before marriage is even a thought. They also recommended being engaged for at least six months before tying the knot.
Not trying to sound bitter or anything, but it seems like you're not too interested in our opinions, and just want to spread the word; this is something that only you can decide... You love him, he loves you, if you can see it working, jump in.
I'm sorry, that was mean.
But, why are you asking an internet forum? If you really want my opinion, I would say no. You should wait at least a year, but 2-3 would be better.
EDIT: Holy shit, your eighteen? What the hell are you thinking? Couples married that young almost always divorce. You could go through with it, but put some serious thought into it first.
I say wait till the new year. If you love him enough, and you think you guys are right for eachother, then go ahead and do it. But if you don't, try not to make him feel rejected.
