Help please (with a girl)

[Nillz]

So, to start off, I've known this girl for a good 10 weeks, but just in the past week have I started talking to her. She is pretty and smart, and I like her. Just in the past 3 days I've had a conversation with her for the first time (over facebook.... yeah i know :\) and we don't really know each other real well. I have thought about asking her out on a whim, but here is where I need some advice.

My friend of 2 years recently started taking interest in this girl, and has been pretty open about it and talks to her a lot. If I'm not mistaken she considers him more as a friend than anything serious. He has no idea I like her, and he even told me yesterday that he was thinking of asking her out this week or next week.

I like this girl quite a bit but don't know her so well, and I'm not sure if she would be interested in me or not. I want to ask her out, but don't really want to rush things - or do I? I just don't want to give up the chance to ask her out because if my friend does then my chance is lost (granted she says yes). What should I do? Should I let this opportunity slip away and give my friend a chance? or do I go for it? (I don't think he'd be too mad if I went out with her).

 

[Julianking93]

Your friend already called it.

Sorry to put it like that but asking her out right after he tells you he likes her is a pretty shitty thing to do.

 

[geldonyetich]

It's no use! A woman's mind is infathomable! Abandon ship! Abandon ship!

Joking aside, it's relationships 101. You tell her how you feel, and if she shoots you down, that's it: it was either never meant to be or the time just isn't right. Just don't toss yourself off a bridge over it if that's how things turn out. You're only as miserable about it as you choose to be.

 

[delet]

Tell your friend (politely, of course) to back off and go ask her out. If you let her go, you'll regret it much much more.

 

[Space Spoons]

I think you should talk with your friend about it. Tell him you're interested in the same girl he is, then settle it with manly feats of strength.

Or flip or coin or something.

 

[Cherry Cola]

Dude, it doesn't matter who you are, or where you live, one rule still stands.

[HEADING=1]Bro's before hoes, man[/HEADING]

Talk to your friend.

 

[Kortney]

First of all, as a female myself, I would advise you against asking her out on a whim. Only in the movies does asking a girl out you barely know actually work. Unless you are some super hunk of a man, and you and her both know 100% without ANY doubt that you are into each other, asking her out straight off the bat isn't going to work.

My advice would be to do the boring thing. Just keep getting to know her. - just let it take it's natural course. However, try to express your interest subtley after you have gotten to know her fairly well. Don't get into the friend zone. Don't sit there are befriend this girl for months and end up a close friend - because then you are screwed.

Just get to know her a bit better, find out if she is into you and go from there.

About your friend; who cares. If you like the girl, go for her. It's all fair game until she is in a relationship with someone. Go for it man

 

[Shock and Awe]

In all seriousness, Bros before hoes. Whatever happens you cannot sacrifice your friendship with your bro for the girl. Just tell your friend that you like the girl as well and it will probably be a "Let the Best man win" situation. As long as one of you doesn't break the girl's heart you should be fine.

 

[dududf]

Talk to your friend, say you got a crush on her and see if you can work it out, if not settle it with a feat of strength.

*Edit, Space spoons ninja'ed me on the last part =[

 

[_zuul]

If I'm not mistaken she considers him more as a friend than anything serious.

SOUNDS LIKE HE'S BEEN FRIEND-ZONED.

not your problem. go for it.

 

[Margrave Rinstock]

Your friend already called it.

Sorry to put it like that but asking her out right after he tells you he likes her is a pretty shitty thing to do.

I second that Opinion!

(Still, I don't understand How you think that you will get Real advice on a Gaming website.
Just do what YOU think is Moral.)

 

[BonsaiK]

So, to start off, I've known this girl for a good 10 weeks, but just in the past week have I started talking to her. She is pretty and smart, and I like her. Just in the past 3 days I've had a conversation with her for the first time (over facebook.... yeah i know :\) and we don't really know each other real well. I have thought about asking her out on a whim, but here is where I need some advice.

My friend of 2 years recently started taking interest in this girl, and has been pretty open about it and talks to her a lot. If I'm not mistaken she considers him more as a friend than anything serious. He has no idea I like her, and he even told me yesterday that he was thinking of asking her out this week or next week.

I like this girl quite a bit but don't know her so well, and I'm not sure if she would be interested in me or not. I want to ask her out, but don't really want to rush things - or do I? I just don't want to give up the chance to ask her out because if my friend does then my chance is lost (granted she says yes). What should I do? Should I let this opportunity slip away and give my friend a chance? or do I go for it? (I don't think he'd be too mad if I went out with her).

I have answered this question in the Relationship Problem Thread which is at the following link: ----> http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161?page=18#4277529

(Still, I don't understand How you think that you will get Real advice on a Gaming website.)

Stranger things have happened...

 

[Aesir23]

Do NOT rush things. Some girls get scared if you move too quickly.

You should probably let your friend have his chance, the worst thing that can happen is that she can say yes to him.

All in all, bide your time even if she does turn him down.

 

[Phyroxis]

Kortney has it right. Thats what I've done.. Unless this guy is your best friend, screw him. My best friend did it to me, I got over it. She wasn't that great anyway.


(Take nothing below this line seriously... seriously)
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[Omikron009]

Wait until you know her better before trying anything. Starting a relationship based purely on physical attraction could lead to disaster if you actually want it to go somewhere.

 

[LethalBargi]

So, to start off, I've known this girl for a good 10 weeks, but just in the past week have I started talking to her. She is pretty and smart, and I like her. Just in the past 3 days I've had a conversation with her for the first time (over facebook.... yeah i know :\) and we don't really know each other real well. I have thought about asking her out on a whim, but here is where I need some advice.

My friend of 2 years recently started taking interest in this girl, and has been pretty open about it and talks to her a lot. If I'm not mistaken she considers him more as a friend than anything serious. He has no idea I like her, and he even told me yesterday that he was thinking of asking her out this week or next week.

I like this girl quite a bit but don't know her so well, and I'm not sure if she would be interested in me or not. I want to ask her out, but don't really want to rush things - or do I? I just don't want to give up the chance to ask her out because if my friend does then my chance is lost (granted she says yes). What should I do? Should I let this opportunity slip away and give my friend a chance? or do I go for it? (I don't think he'd be too mad if I went out with her).

Two solutions, one you can be the honorable one and let your mate ask her out while you get to know her a little better (likes dislikes), if she likes your friend as a friend only then you will get a shot soon, second is be open to your friend about the girl, tell him you like her too and work it out if he is your friend you will find a solution.

 

[captainkrunch]

a duel to the death involving those mini plastic swords that restaurants put in your sammichs?
EDIT: in all seriousness i don't know what to say to help my best friend is in a very similar situation that has completely torn apart him and another one of my friends apart leaving our group to pick sides(mostly due to the fact neither of them handled it maturly in the slightest

 

[Taxicab Samurai]

Ok ok ok.
Similar thing happened with my and my bro.

First of all, only tell your friend if he's a REALLY close friend.
Otherwise he will tell the girl and she will be creeped out, since you don't talk often.
Second, avoid talking on the internet and only talk in person.
Third, do NOT tell her you like her.
When you talk to her, make FUCKIN SURE that you don't hint any attraction or let her think you like her.
Make sure you're in good with people she knows.

And all this 'Bros before hoes' talk.
If you're REALLY friends with someone, you can both like the same girl.
Just if she doesn't like you and does end up liking your friend, be mature about it.
It will suck, but hey only the right ones say yes.

 

[Lavi]

Tell him to piss teh fuck off xD

 

[Deathkingo]

Dude, it doesn't matter who you are, or where you live, one rule still stands.

[HEADING=1]Bro's before hoes, man[/HEADING]

Talk to your friend.

[HEADING=1]The big red text cannot tell a lie![/HEADING]