Help plz...

[hondommond]

Well I've become desperate... I really like this girl and I have been eyeing her for awhile now and finally worked up the nads to talk to her and ask her for her phone number..etc

and well he reaction was werid and I havent quite seen it before...

Heres how it went...

I asked her about her day and how she was doing blah blah and she was good whatever

I asked her for her phone number so I could call her about making plans for a dance I wanted to take her to...

she said "I'm not much of a phone person" then the bell rang(i r in school) and she was outta there

im not sure if I was about to be rejected or she was attempting to play hard-to-get and ran outta time...

If the inhabitants of the escapist fourms would be so kinda to lead me into a good direction and possibly tell me what she was doing that would be wonderful.

right now both of us talking is pretty werid and not very in depth but we are still getting to no each other

also kinda looking for what kinda things I should say as an opening when asking her whatever since all I could really get out of the "Im not a phone person" thing was she didnt quite wanna use the phone

how should I approach this further...

 

[Tyler_Durden]

how did you word it?

did you say you wanted her phone number because you want to go to the dance with her

just make it obvious

but not too obnoxiously. think what would robert downey junior say?

then you will remember tropic thunder and forget about the girl.

problem solved

 

[sheic99]

Ask for AIM, IM or Myspace perhaps? It could also be rejection, so you should see how she acts when you talk to her tomorrow.

 

[Flying-Emu]

Don't we have a thread for relationships? Cause this is the second one today.

Anyway. Standard response:

WHY DO YOU ASK THE INTARWEBZ

Second response:

Man up and just ask her. Don't use the phone. And if you're not talking 'in depth' and you're still getting to 'know' her, why do you even want to ask her out?

It's always better to err on the side of caution and make sure they're not psycho hose-beasts (+1 for the reference) before asking them anything. Take your time and get to know her before considering anything, otherwise you're just being hasty.

Patience, young Padawan.

 

[EeveeElectro]

Get to know her, then go in for the kill!

I hate it when guys ask for my number after knowing me a short while.

 

[hondommond]

Second response:

Man up and just ask her. Don't use the phone. And if you're not talking 'in depth' and you're still getting to 'know' her, why do you even want to ask her out?

It's always better to err on the side of caution and make sure they're not psycho hose-beasts (+1 for the reference) before asking them anything. Take your time and get to know her before considering anything, otherwise you're just being hasty.

Patience, young Padawan.

Well I already know her fairly well shes stable,funny,she is teh hotzor,shes really into music, plays the guitar,and even though my humor is...well different she still thinks im pretty funny(which is always a plus in my eyes..if i cant make them laugh then she might be alittle to uptight)

 

[Ken Korda]

Don't we have a thread for relationships? Cause this is the second one today.

Anyway. Standard response:

WHY DO YOU ASK THE INTARWEBZ

Second response:

Man up and just ask her. Don't use the phone. And if you're not talking 'in depth' and you're still getting to 'know' her, why do you even want to ask her out?

It's always better to err on the side of caution and make sure they're not psycho hose-beasts (+1 for the reference) before asking them anything. Take your time and get to know her before considering anything, otherwise you're just being hasty.

Patience, young Padawan.

That reference was 'Wayne's World'

Also, don't get all bent out of shape and stressed, she's just some girl. I realise that she may seem like the most prefect,goregeous etc. but trust me, she isn't. You're still at shcool right? You've got plenty of time to make mistakes

 

[hondommond]

Get to know her, then go in for the kill!

I hate it when guys ask for my number after knowing me a short while.

should i ask her to the dance (which might be this friday) or ask her to hang out in some manner so I could get to no her outside the boundrys of school or should I confine it to there until we get some more down time..(which im not sure when it will be because I dont have any classes with her ) but i am good friends with a girl shes been like best friends with for like 7 years so i that that would be an advantage.

 

[arcainia]

Er, well...I'm no relationship expert, but if she was trying to come up with an excuse, she sure picked a weird one.
Normally if someone asks me for my phone number, and I don't want to give it to that person, I just say I don't own a cellphone. Of course it could be that she's aware that you already know she has a cell phone and therefor came up with that excuse...but I dunno. I don't think a normal girl would usually use that. It may very well be that she's just not a phone person?
I could be wrong. Other girls who get asked out more often should comment on this. Personally I have an excuse for almost any request an unwanted guy may ask of me. I'd like to think that most other girls do too.
You should just try to talk to her some more about it. Maybe suggest other means of communication like E-mail or MSN or text messaging and see what her reaction is.

 

[Flying-Emu]

Well I already know her fairly well shes stable,funny,she is teh hotzor,shes really into music, plays the guitar,and even though my humor is...well different she still thinks im pretty funny(which is always a plus in my eyes..if i cant make them laugh then she might be alittle to uptight)

Surface level stuff much?

I made it a rule to not ask women on anything but casual outings for at least three months. By then you start to get a handle on their pros and cons.

 

[hondommond]

[quote="Ken Korda" post="18.96328.1496510"

That reference was 'Wayne's World'

Also, don't get all bent out of shape and stressed, she's just some girl. I realise that she may seem like the most prefect,goregeous etc. but trust me, she isn't. You're still at shcool right? You've got plenty of time to make mistakes[/quote]


ooo ive made plenty of relationship mistakes...I just got outta a relationship with a cutter/insane chick

so I decided to go out with someone I feel for instead of listening to my stupid ass friends and going for the really good looking ones...not like this one isnt good looking but ive known her for 2 weeks now and shes really nice and I have only heard good things about her

 

[ygetoff]

Well I've become desperate... I really like this girl and I have been eyeing her for awhile now and finally worked up the nads to talk to her and ask her for her phone number..etc

and well he reaction was werid and I havent quite seen it before...

Heres how it went...

I asked her about her day and how she was doing blah blah and she was good whatever

I asked her for her phone number so I could call her about making plans for a dance I wanted to take her to...

she said "I'm not much of a phone person" then the bell rang(i r in school) and she was outta there

im not sure if I was about to be rejected or she was attempting to play hard-to-get and ran outta time...

If the inhabitants of the escapist fourms would be so kinda to lead me into a good direction and possibly tell me what she was doing that would be wonderful.

right now both of us talking is pretty werid and not very in depth but we are still getting to no each other

also kinda looking for what kinda things I should say as an opening when asking her whatever since all I could really get out of the "Im not a phone person" thing was she didnt quite wanna use the phone

how should I approach this further...

"I'm not a phone person"?
Sounds like rejection to me.
Ease off and ask for AIM, or something.

 

[hondommond]

Well I already know her fairly well shes stable,funny,she is teh hotzor,shes really into music, plays the guitar,and even though my humor is...well different she still thinks im pretty funny(which is always a plus in my eyes..if i cant make them laugh then she might be alittle to uptight)

Surface level stuff much?

I made it a rule to not ask women on anything but casual outings for at least three months. By then you start to get a handle on their pros and cons.

well this girl is good looking and in my school they dont last very long so as soon as I found out she wasnt taken I started moving (please note im in high school and in 3 months she could go through 3 relationships)

and that was another question i had should i ask her to the dance so soon because right now its almost last minute and i no shes not going atm

 

[hondommond]

[quote/]
"I'm not a phone person"?
Sounds like rejection to me.
Ease off and ask for AIM, or something.[/quote]

well its more like the way she said it that got me confused

it really didnt sound like a rejection but more like interest but that way its worded has me concerned

 

[Flying-Emu]

well this girl is good looking and in my school they dont last very long so as soon as I found out she wasnt taken I started moving (please note im in high school and in 3 months she could go through 3 relationships)

and that was another question i had should i ask her to the dance so soon because right now its almost last minute and i no shes not going atm

._.

Let's see.

So... just because she's in high school means she dates a new guy every month? If she does, you're better off as it is.

School dances are lame. Ask her to go skating or something. Dances just turn into dick-waving competitions.

 

[hondommond]

well this girl is good looking and in my school they dont last very long so as soon as I found out she wasnt taken I started moving (please note im in high school and in 3 months she could go through 3 relationships)

and that was another question i had should i ask her to the dance so soon because right now its almost last minute and i no shes not going atm

._.

Let's see.

So... just because she's in high school means she dates a new guy every month? If she does, you're better off as it is.

School dances are lame. Ask her to go skating or something. Dances just turn into dick-waving competitions.

i didnt really say she did... and well thats mostly how most relationships go in high school if ur not to attached

Id hope to stay with her for awhile if I ever got together with her

But right now I dont know what it is but this girl just makes me shut down and go all hay-wire (which isnt normal I tend to be one of the more impuslive out going people and have a great amount of self confidence )

Ive never felt like before and I want it to work but im nervous

(oh and another "Sign" worthy of mentioning i saw when I talked to her today she was blushing alittle bit)

 

[jimduckie]

sry doesn't seem interested in you , but hey there's plenty more girls out there so keep looking

 

[hondommond]

sry doesn't seem interested in you , but hey there's plenty more girls out there so keep looking

well that may be true that may be un true but I think im gonna keep beating on until I get a clear rejection

 

[EeveeElectro]

Get to know her, then go in for the kill!

I hate it when guys ask for my number after knowing me a short while.

should i ask her to the dance (which might be this friday) or ask her to hang out in some manner so I could get to no her outside the boundrys of school or should I confine it to there until we get some more down time..(which im not sure when it will be because I dont have any classes with her ) but i am good friends with a girl shes been like best friends with for like 7 years so i that that would be an advantage.

Get to know her outside of school first, definitely.
Go grab a coffee or something, as friends.

 

[hondommond]

Get to know her, then go in for the kill!

I hate it when guys ask for my number after knowing me a short while.

should i ask her to the dance (which might be this friday) or ask her to hang out in some manner so I could get to no her outside the boundrys of school or should I confine it to there until we get some more down time..(which im not sure when it will be because I dont have any classes with her ) but i am good friends with a girl shes been like best friends with for like 7 years so i that that would be an advantage.

Get to know her outside of school first, definitely.
Go grab a coffee or something, as friends.

thanks I think I'll try that...

should I take her to go see a movie?(or would that be pushing i like you to much)

I havent really relyed on going places first before I normally get to know them in school first then hang out at their place or mine with some friends and just kinda roll with going anywhere

coffee would be normal for some alittle older maybe...

we are both 16 if that helps this conversation any bit(would also like some ideas on where i could take her in general)