Homophobisms
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Very well put Darron, especially seeing as most of the guys who would would say "homophobisms" would likely treat women like garbage.darron13 said:
In defense of the straight male, I will say that
Impressive.Palademon said:
Indeed, obviously not *all* straight men are like that, I did not mean to imply it. But from my experience most homophobes tend to treat women like crap, I don't know how widespread that is, but it's a trend I notice.Zen Toombs said:
This is why I consider someone's reaction to gay people important before considering becoming friends with them. A person's outlook on the topic can say alot about their personality...
I've been hit on by gay guys. It's not a big deal to me. I let them know that I'm straight, and usually wind up having pretty good conversations with them.
A guy getting violent because another man hits on him needs to re-evaluate his security in his sexuality.
A guy getting violent because another man hits on him needs to re-evaluate his security in his sexuality.
I am gay. However the only time I've actually hit on someone I knew was straight was before I realised that (or even felt attracted to anyone, I was a late bloomer in that sense). I did it with the distinct intention of freaking someone out because they were a massive homophobe. Anybody who could seriously say that they think all gays should be killed because they are are frightened, and i quote, of being 'raped by a 6ft bisexual black man in a dress" deserves everything they get.
As for getting hit on by ... anyone. It has happened, I've been told it's happened, I'm just too socially awkward to tell. */le shrug*
As for getting hit on by ... anyone. It has happened, I've been told it's happened, I'm just too socially awkward to tell. */le shrug*
In my late twenties I was hit on quite frequently by gay men at my local pub. Fair dues though my local pub was a gay bar the odds were good that it would happen. Recently I was hit on by a guy when I was at a bar catching up with friends, it was a bit of an ego boost. I was a little disappointed when I found out he had also hit on the two friends I was catching up with...
Some hetero guys seem to think that gay women really are missing a hefty dose of man-meat, and that all they need to do is shag the gay girl without mercy and she'll suddenly be hetero (or at least bi. The guy wants to watch the girl on girl action, and then nail both of them). Why else do you think it's such a popular trope in porno flicks?Freezy_Breezy said:
Actually I believe he was referencing something more along the lines of not knowing whether the person they hit on might be gay or not.LadyRhian said:
True. But those guys who feel that way would only feel it was a bonus if the girl they were hitting on turned out to be gay, because of the above. Though it's not like people come with a sexual orientation tattooed on their forehead. You can't always tell.tobi the good boy said:
Ah, now, this is what I would think under normal circumstances, but you really have to know him to understand.Zen Toombs said:
He's usually quite blunt about this kind of thing, yet he often has the same manner when deadly serious as when taking the royal piss.
Makes it hard to tell.
EDIT: It's not really like I give a crap anyway, he's a great pal.
I have multiple gay friends, none of them have ever hit on me (of course one is a lesbian, so it'd be kinda odd if she was to hit on merhizhim said:
) Never been hit on. I don't doubt that it happens, I mean not everyone has a prefect gaydar.but as far as that gay panic defense thing goes, it's bullshit.... That makes as much sense as someone saying "I have gingerphobia and a readhead hit on me, now they are dead, but it isn't my fault they made me crazy."
Thanks for the definition Woodsey, but as illogical as it may seem , when I see the suffix "phobia" attached to the morpheme homo I think:Woodsey said:
ho·mo
   [hoh-moh] Show IPA
noun, plural ho·mos. Slang: Disparaging and Offensive .
a homosexual.
and
pho·bi·a
   [foh-bee-uh] Show IPA
noun, suffix
a persistent, irrational fear of a specific object, activity, or situation that leads to a compelling desire to avoid it.
Because of this, I conclude that the words means "a fear of homosexuals". Of course your oxford dictionary definition doesn't necessarily contest my conclusion. It states that homophobia is, "an extreme and irrational aversion to homosexuals", and we can see in our definition of "phobia" that fear would cause an "aversion" or "compelling desire to avoid thing/person/situation/place."
We can even look at the etymology of the word which is:
Coined by George Weinberg in the 1960s,[9] the term homophobia is a blend of the word homosexual, itself a mix of neo-classical morphemes, and (2) phobia from the Greek φόβος, Phóbos, meaning "fear" or "morbid fear".
The term has little scientific standing, and is for the most part a pejorative term. So, I would suggest the term "Homonegativity" or "homonegativism" in order to avoid the term "homophobia", which is regarded as being unscientific in its presumption of motivation.
You are splitting hairs. Whether or not the term is technically correct, you damn sure know what someone means when they use it.TheVioletBandit said:
I dunno how many gay people I hang around, but I wish they did hit on me. That'd be a self-esteem bonus, attractive to both sexes, Achievement unlocked.