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zerofan

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Stop trying to pick apart what people say. By "us" he means "people like me" just like homosexuals say "us" to refer to "people like me".

I've been told off for kissing my wife in public before (by some random old man) so it isn't a one way street.
 

JoshLalic

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I've never had any problems with gay guys, but just about every lesbian I've met has been a huge ***** and this has sort of made me dislike lesbians, even if I havent met them.
 

rockyoumonkeys

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Jonabob87 said:
Regardless, from an Abrahamic stand point the first two humans on earth were the first married couple, so to them marriage is the oldest of all earthly institutions. Who are you to tell them different?
Someone who doesn't believe in your religion and shouldn't be forced to live by its rules.

And as religion predates "reliable history", that pretty much relieves your religion of its ownership claim on marriage, doesn't it? Or do the "finders keepers" rules still apply?
 

Saltyk

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Saltyk said:
I have a problem with that first statement. I know people who have problems with homosexuality, but it's more of a "I don't get it" than "I hate it" thing. They aren't bad people. They just have trouble understanding why. My grandparents are Catholic, and I'm sure have issues with that concept, but they aren't bad people. In fact, I'd say that they would accept a gay family member, they would just have moral qualms about their lifestyle.

And what do you mean gay jokes? The one I hear the most is "That was gay." Is that such a problem? Actually saw a commercial where some teens were talking about things being "gay", then Wanda Sykes walks up and starts talking about it being insulting and how would they feel if she started saying things were so "16 year old boy." Personally, I feel its a slang term. Not meant to offend (though I can see how it would offend some). Personally when I think "X is gay", I'm not implying that gay is bad. It's a completely different word to me.

Oh, and if Wanda Sykes did that to me, I'd look at her and say: "That was really gay, lady. Really gay!"

Now, before you think I'm a terrible person, let me clarify. I have no problem with homosexuality or bi-sexuality. I think of it like this. I'm a guy and I really like girls. They are really attractive to me. I'm not making myself think that. I don't see a guy and have to force myself from thinking how cute he is. I'm attracted to women as naturally as breathing. On top of that, so many people have problems with homosexuals, why would anyone CHOOSE to be that way? Obviously, they are just as naturally attracted to the same sex as i am the opposite sex. I'd just rather not be forced to see some of it, as it does make me a little uncomfortable.
Well, if the only gay joke you hear is "thats gay" (which is hardly a joke anyway), then you haven't hear even the tip of the iceberg, but I guess being "gay" I'll notice this a lot more than you, for that exact reason that I and others like me are the target of those jokes. But lets imagine you had curly hair, or was black. Any jokes made about this I have no doubt you'd notice a lot more than now, same as if you yourself was homosexual.

Some people do indeed not understand homosexuality and so on. My grand dad won't even speak to me because of how I am. I don't think this is an excuse though, I'm sure he's not a bad person, before I came out about it I remember him as a nice guy, I still do. I just haven't seen him in years and years because he can't face me. Not understanding someones sexuality isn't really what's in question, it's accepting it, accepting people living their lives like they need to.

As I said, you cannot change certain details about you. You are who you are, unfortunately. Be it curly hair, sexuality, skin color, height or voice, your stuck with it (in some cases drastic meassures may be taken, that is true), and someone giving you crap about something you can't change makes them bad people in my opinion. Of course they can be good people, and if your grand dad could accept someone in your family being gay thats all anyone could ask for, his understanding isn't required.

Nothing hurts more than when a person close to you offends you, especially on something you cannot help. It's also really hurtful when someone you don't know does it, though not anywhere near as bad. I can't know if you've had ye olde bully in your life, but you might now it's not fun.
I'm sorry about your grandfather. Some people are like that. While most people I know don't understand it, I doubt there are many that have a problem with it. I think there are people that don't understand or accept such things, but can live with it. At least, as long as their own child or grandchild isn't one of those people, in this case gay, that they don't understand. It's sad, but there's nothing you can do about some things. Much like he can't force you to change, you can't force him to, either. I'm sorry, but maybe one day he will accept you. If not, it's not your fault.

I'll admit that I do hear the occasional gay joke, but they are rare. Like once in 3 or 4 months. If that. Honestly, I don't think that many people care about homosexuality. Really, just the loudest voices dominating the debate.

Let me be clear that I have no problem with gay people. I actually support gay marriage. If only so that two people, who are living together in a committed relationship and for all intents and purposes are married, will have the same rights and protections as straight couples.

And I agree that there are some things that you can't change (and why should you?) and it is really sad when people can't accept you for those "faults" and make fun of and insult you for them. I'm pretty sure most people on this site can understand that pain. Bigoted people are not necessarily bad, just ignorant. People fear what they don't understand. It's sad and pathetic, but you shouldn't hate them for this. If anything, you should pity them and disassociate yourself with such people.

Anyway, I wish you well. May your future be a happy and fortunate one filled with good times, good friends, and good memories.
 

Jonabob87

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Mookie_Magnus said:
Jonabob87 said:
Surely when we're talking about a religious ceremony such as marriage, a religious leg is more than enough to stand on? How can you talk about your right to freedom of expression but the church can't express theirs?
I'm not talking about Marriage as a religious institution. I'm talking about civil, government sanctioned marriage. What reason can you cite for not allowing us to be legally binded by the government? A supposedly non-religious entity.

Name one good reason that does not relate back to religion or morality.
There's no reason to stop government sanctioned same sex marriage other than the likelihood of that moving on to further same-sex religious marriage bullying. Legalistic marriage = I don't care.

A while ago a gay rights group in California put forward an attempt to abolish marriage in the state of California, almost as a sort of childish "Well if we cant have it neither should you." I actually thought it was quite a good idea, as people could still be married by the church, as for religious people the important bit as that it's done in the sight of God. It would also stop people being married for financial benefits...
 

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Zeithri said:
Oh hi, I'd just like to point out that you are wrong.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homophobia
Sure let's trust wikipedia, a site that you could edit over the original Greek. Also, I pointed out that the definition supported by wikipedia is the one I said that society uses. I said it was a wrong translation therefore the wrong definition. You assume that everything must be as society dictates. I assume that words have inherent meanings that should not be ignored.
 

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rockyoumonkeys said:
Jonabob87 said:
Regardless, from an Abrahamic stand point the first two humans on earth were the first married couple, so to them marriage is the oldest of all earthly institutions. Who are you to tell them different?
Someone who doesn't believe in your religion and shouldn't be forced to live by its rules.

And as religion predates "reliable history", that pretty much relieves your religion of its ownership claim on marriage, doesn't it? Or do the "finders keepers" rules still apply?
Which particular rules are you being forced to follow?

How does that relieve a claim on marriage? What the hell are you talking about...
 

Eden the Fox

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Merf... I tried not to let myself get sucked into this... But oh well! First off, I'm a ******, so yeah. Bein' gay and stuff is -totally- okay with me. =P

I want to make a comment about all the marriage argument stuff going on here. I have a feeling most of those against it are in the States, so I'm going to argue for the States. There's this thing we have. You know, the whole 'separation of church and state' thing. Like it or not, but marriage is no longer -just- a religious thing. It's a federal thing as well. And -that's- why we want it. Most gay people don't give a care about the religious aspect, as most aren't religious. Which isn't shocking considering the treatment most receive... But, like I was saying; we want marriage because of the benefits it grants couples, and there's no reason, other than religious bigotry, to deny someone that.

Personally, I'm fine with the idea of civil unions instead of marriage, if only because I figure it'll work as a way to -eventually- get to marriage; when folks see that it won't end the world.

But yeah, just wanted to mention that, since I didn't see anyone else point it out... Granted, I may have missed it, but eh.
 

rockyoumonkeys

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Jonabob87 said:
A while ago a gay rights group in California put forward an attempt to abolish marriage in the state of California, almost as a sort of childish "Well if we cant have it neither should you." I actually thought it was quite a good idea, as people could still be married by the church, as for religious people the important bit as that it's done in the sight of God. It would also stop people being married for financial benefits...
There's another big push to outlaw divorce. After all, if the "sanctity of marriage" is so important, then divorce should be illegal! I'm tickled by this, though of course it could never happen.
 

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I just dont like the idea of MSM, I would personally never do it and dont feel comfortable with people who do, guess it makes me homophobic. However, I am not the sort to opress people because of what they do. You can be gay if you want, just as iam allowed to dislike it.
 

rockyoumonkeys

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Jonabob87 said:
Which particular rules are you being forced to follow?

How does that relieve a claim on marriage? What the hell are you talking about...
1. Gay marriage is still largely illegal and at best endlessly see-sawing in the US because of YOUR religion.
2. You can't prove ownership of marriage. Therefore technically it isn't yours.
 

Flamezdudes

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It doesn't really bother me, i'm all for equality. It sickens me when people are so homophobic though, they're just being really silly. I know a lot of people at my school who are like that.

It's the ones who are really camp who get on my nerves sometimes though, however that can be for heterosexuals too i guess.
 

zerofan

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As far as I was concerned homophobia is a sense of fear... which often leads to hate... which leads to anger... which leads to suffering....
 

Jonabob87

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rockyoumonkeys said:
Jonabob87 said:
A while ago a gay rights group in California put forward an attempt to abolish marriage in the state of California, almost as a sort of childish "Well if we cant have it neither should you." I actually thought it was quite a good idea, as people could still be married by the church, as for religious people the important bit as that it's done in the sight of God. It would also stop people being married for financial benefits...
There's another big push to outlaw divorce. After all, if the "sanctity of marriage" is so important, then divorce should be illegal! I'm tickled by this, though of course it could never happen.
It'd be nice if that were the case, would make people use their brains more before deciding to get married.

Jonabob87 said:
Which particular rules are you being forced to follow?

How does that relieve a claim on marriage? What the hell are you talking about...
1. Gay marriage is still largely illegal and at best endlessly see-sawing in the US because of YOUR religion.
2. You can't prove ownership of marriage. Therefore technically it isn't yours.
Well actually it's because the second something becomes "legal" proprieters, let's say Priests or Ministers suddenly HAVE to do it, or they can lose their jobs. There's already cases in the UK of Christian registrars being fired/disciplined because they refuse to personally conduct a same sex marriage.

No one can claim "ownership" of it, but marriage ceremonies are mostly religious ones, am I wrong?
 

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in my personal opinion i don't think we are born with a sexual orientation, i think our lives and our decisions are what guide us, i know this wont be completely approved of by everyone as an opinion but i really don't mean it in an offensive way, i was bought up to be prejudice and as soon as i was able to make my own decisions i tested the conviction of passed on beliefs, turned out some things are more fun than u might assume, pleasure is pleasure, why rule anything out u haven't tried assuming it causes no one any harm bar potentially yourself.


ot- there isnt a gay in the world that bothers me except the lesbian who stole my job but thats coz she is a prick rather than because she is a lesbian.
people have been getting gay for as long as human history has been recorded, seems a foolish things to posses prejudice over, besides i dont know why straight people dislike gays, every male should sponsor a gay man, if all straight men did this there would be a lot less competition when looking for a female, the only gay a straight man should have an issue with is lesbians who are also potentially a threat.

i think where little boys often grow up associating all the weaknesses of male. like crying and being emotional with gayness via helpful emotional abuse al la our dads there is sometimes a breaking point where rather than suppressing emotions as a proof of strength that "campness" is the embodiment of the end of repression and i think it can sometimes be so strong that a new disproportionate self is formed, i have known macho gays also who hate feminine men and see it as a betrayal of gender which is the very thing that works for them.

this maybe a bot ott in terms of a response but ive been awake for the best part of 3 days so enjoy my roving attempted explanation. : P
 

Phaerim

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caselj01 said:
I am a homophobe. By which I mean that I have an irrational fear of homosexuals. I try to be all "Everyone has the right to be who they are" etc but to be honest the thought of 2 guys actually doing it freaks me out.
It's totally okay to feel that way. I am gay, and I do not mind that people don't want to hear what I do in bed. Also, a lot of people I know don't like it when a straight couple are eating eachother out in the streets.

Just as long as you don't go spew around that what I do in bed makes me a "lesser" person, I respect peoples boundries.
 

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Dana22 said:
I support the civil partnership and marriage of homosexuals but Im against children adoption.
Why? What's wrong with homosexuals adopting kids? :S

as for me, my brother is gay and his boyfriend is the son of a youth pastor (gotta love that X3)

i'm trans with a bi-gendered boyfriend, so I think my views on it are fairly clear :p
 
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I am in the escapist gay-mers so I think my view is obvious.
Myself, I'm not entirely sure. I don't really feel love in that way for anyone anymore.
 

Lt. Dragunov

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Well I'm gay myself, but it's very hard for people to notice it because it don't act like it. It's my own business who i like and I rather keep it that way, not saying I'm ashamed of it or anything but it's just on a need to know bases. Also I have been to the pro gay rallies before and they are fun to hang out and meet people, but there is this thing, like most of you know, that it's the "Hey I'm gay in your face" thing that I just really hate they do sometimes. If you want people to accept you as a group sure let them know your proud of who you are, but don't jump in thier faces about it every five seconds. People need time to adjust to different people and they can't do that when the community is in everyone's face about it, just annoys people and make them not wanna accept anything.