How Did You Find Your Significant Other?

Arnoxthe1

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Dec 25, 2010
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A little bit of a personal question here so, of course, don't answer if you don't want to!
 

Rolaoi

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I met her when she was working part-time in a coffee shop off campus at my university. She was a senior and I was a junior. I found out she was a total tomboy who liked cycling, so I picked up the hobby to give us something to talk about when I came in every day.
 

Edith The Hutt

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Oct 16, 2010
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At a meeting of Cambridge University Worshipers of Cthulhu, and then we hooked up through the Tolkien Society.
 
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I met him at a meeting for a gay pride club at college. It was pretty much love at first sight for me, and we were dating within two days.
 

BloatedGuppy

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Online dating. We dated off and on for a few months, and then things went pear shaped with my roommate and I had to move out, so we decided to move in together since her place was a shithole. We've been together approximately 10 years. 10 years by the end of March, I think.
 

EeveeElectro

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Aug 3, 2008
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Slightly long story, but I love telling people it...

After a relationship break-up in April last year my friend took me out for the day with a few of his friends, I think he was trying to set me up with one of them (that didn't turn out very well, it ended up). Anyway, we went to a bar where they have pool/snooker tables upstairs. We went to play pool and there where three guys on the table next to us playing snooker. I think it was around the time JewWario died because they were discussing it, then they started talking about games and comic books. I told my friends when they came back from getting our drinks, "pssst, they're one of us! [nerds]" and pointed to them and they laughed. We all got chatting and got on really well, they all said they go to Manchester MCM (which I always go to) and would be there that year. One of them (the one who is now my boyfriend) said he'd be cosplaying Hit-Girl and I told him about my Bioshock cosplay.

Anyway, I'd had a bit to drink so my mouth was just running away with itself and I can't even remember how we got onto the subject but I think they made a joke about me making out with one of my friends I was with. I responded:
Me: Well if you feel left out, just make out with him *nods to one of the guys*
Him: You like incest, do you?
Me: What?
Him: We're identical twin brothers, can't you tell? (I genuinely couldn't!)
Me: Identical? No you're not! *points to my now boyfriend* He's well fucking cuter than you!

We had a few more laughs then they left. I was kinda sad to see them go and I didn't get the cute twins number so I felt bummed out for a day or two but got over it, hoping I'd see him at MCM which I never did. Obviously I just forgot about it and moved on.

Fast forward to January this year and I joined OKcupid after my last relationship ended. A guy messaged me talking to me about my cosplays and how he goes to comic cons. I looked through his pictures and saw a Hit-Girl cosplay. It was him. :3

We met up again and we felt so comfortable with each other, it was unreal. It's definitely the happiest I've been with someone so far.~ :)
 

TakerFoxx

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I looked in the mirror. It was life-changing.

But then people started looking at me weird, so we keep things private now.
 

Sleepy Sol

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I meet new ones every day through the magic of porn.

The ones I did have were of the online sort. Mostly through playing the same MMO.
 

Zontar

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Feb 18, 2013
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School. We both has a few classes together in high school and she even asked me out once, though I turned her down due to my low self esteem making me think it was a joke.

We met up a few years later at a coffee shop and caught up, one thing lead to another and now she's living with me.
 
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We met online, on this very site as a matter of fact. Been seeing eachother for more than a year now, about every two week (She's Irish and I'm English). The flights are cheap enough, and actually works out cheaper than our respective internal railway systems.

Fuck yeah Ryanair!

I'm planning on moving to Dublin at some point this year, where we'll get a place together. One thing I can say about long distance relationships, you really learn to communicate your feelings, since words are all we have most of the time.

The sex being fan-fucking-tastic helps too.
 

shrekfan246

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May 26, 2011
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In bed with another man.

We're not together anymore.

But not really.

My last relationship was with someone who was a serial cheater. I only stuck with her for so long because she was wild.

But not really.

The song "Superfreak" could've been about her.

I've been single for a year or two now.

While I have been with a girl who was really wild, my last relationship mostly ended because we couldn't agree on what we wanted the future to look like.
 

Dalisclock

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Feb 9, 2008
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Had an OKCupid account. Saw her profile and looked at it, saved it for later but didn't message her. She messaged me(because OKCupid tells you if someone looks at your profile), we did the message thing, started dating and now we're engaged to be married in two months.
 

soren7550

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Dec 18, 2008
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I met Mr. Sorta Boyfriend (it's a bit complicated at the moment) when my younger brother decided to put the computer mouse through the monitor. I posted in a user group here about the matter, and he told me that he had a monitor lying around that he didn't need, and since we both lived in New York, we arranged a meet up so that I could get it.

Afterwords, we kept messaging each other back and forth about a mess of things, and it turned out that we shared a bunch of the same interests and hobbies, so he asked me out.

He's been my very best friend ever since, and I really hope to become a better person for him, since he's made my life so utterly wonderful and worth living.
 

Matt King

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This is going to sound emo as all hell, but bear with it.

I found my love through pain.

We met at a club in school, became friends for many years. But there was always something strange in the way she acted, but i was the only one who seemed to notice.

We went out, nothing serious, teenage couple. But after much pushing and questioning, I discovered she had been horrible abused, physically, sexually and mentally for many years until mid-late teens (about a year or so before i found out) To the point of nearly being murdered by this person on several occasions.

So then i spend the next year and a half, slowly helping her to become human again, she had fears of everything, (mostly things relating to her abuse, Cameras, snow, strangers) And had developed severe psychological issues around self worth and the trust of others.

But eventually it started to work, she would smile more and more, she expressed a desire for a future, a desire for something more.
She beat all her fears, all her issues and i would say returned to herself, but she'd been lost for so long, it was more like she discovered a new self. And it all look set for a happy ending. We were talking about getting married when we were older and had been together longer, starting a family etc etc.


But unfortunately, i was diagnosed with supposedly terminal cancer around 8 months ago. Being told that if i hadnt got into hospital i would have died within two weeks. (fluid filling my lungs). And while they said i could last 9 months to 5 years (around 1/3rd make it to 3 years) They didnt sound hopeful for my short term chances.

But she stuck with me, she was on holiday in scotland with her family when i was admitted to hospital, but she took a train down as soon as possible, before we even knew it was cancer.

(One of the worst moments of my life, is finding out i probably have cancer, while she was on the train, and i couldn't tell her by text, so i had to make pleasant small talk on the phone for 3 hours till she got back)

And she stuck by me through all of it, stayed with me through hospital in the first few weeks as they drained my lunge and tried to find out what exactly was wrong and how to help.

Even when they told us that at best the chemo would reduce the tumour by a third, she stood by me, and i wouldn't have survived without her.

When they told me it was terminal, we decided to get married. When people found out, i know most of them thought i would be barely standing by the time it happend (roughly 2-3 months after being diagnosed)

But then something amazing happened. Chemo went well, obscenely well, for whatever reason, i don't suffer side effects. I don't get sick, or suffer pain, or lose my sense of taste, apart from losing my hair, i barely even noticed it.

Then about 8 weeks after begining treatment i went in for a scan, and the cancer was gone. (before anyone says it must have been a misdiagnosis, it wasn't i was stage 4, it was everywhere, completely on my deathbed)

And i have only felt better from there, We got married in November, My brother flew back from Canada when he heard what was going on, and he was my best man. It was the best night of my life.

I just finished Chemo, and am now just on small maintenance for a year.
My hair's growing back, i'm as strong as i ever was and my body still looks cancer free.

The doctors have said it could come back, but they honestly dont know, since they've never seen anyone with a reaction like this.

We've both got places for college in September, me as an engineer, her as a teacher.

I know my odds aren't great, but they're better than the zero they were. And we're happy, for whatever time we have left, although it will hopefully be a long time.


And as i so very often comment whenever i bring up our romance. My life sounds like a steriotipical shitty Romance/Tragedy Novel