How did you pull?

[The Unworthy Gentleman]

How did you manage to get your girlfriend? Was it a quick one liner that developed into more? Or, was it a life long friendship that hid the chemsitry between you till you were ready? Please, do tell.

Incidentally, my epic total of two girlfriends, were both procured by the two methods I stated above, in fact one of them was both. The first was a friendship that became more, which then became nothing, which then became more again. I attribute that to the way I do things, relying on emotional dependence that makes them come back. The second came about from a one liner; a simple 'you look really pretty' to a girl I had never spoken to before. This then followed the same pattern as the first with only coming close to a becoming more again.

Spoiler: Feel like giving a guy advice?

Well, do you? There's a girl that is amazingly good looking in the year below. Much like the second, I've never spoken to her before... while she's sober (however this should be disregarded, it was too long ago for anyone to remember sober). How would you suggest I go about talking to her? I'd be able to do this myself but I have no friend ties, nor do I want to use a method too much in the same area so I'm between a rock and a hard place.

Suggestions?

So, Escapists, do tell of your experiences.

 

[masterkeaton]

Well my first (and so far only) girlfriend came about through a friend of hers who I was talking to on MSN, she added me and we got talking and from there it went.

IRL, I don't know, I'm not terribly good when it comes to talking with girls, but I guess the first thing to do is start a conversation, perhaps see if you share a common interest? Then work it out from there

 

[Blemontea]

Well im single right now but im working my "mojo" (if any) i have on this girl in my English class. The way ive been going about it is just going up and talking with her about whats shes been writing, so far its been going sweet. I even managed to ask her to join me and the club im in for sushi later this month. If i ever grow a pair big enough I'll probably ask to the movies.

 

[Amethyst Wind]

Every time has been pretty random tbh, but I guess for the first time I invited her to chill on the grass with me and watch clouds. At the time I in no way had any intention of being anything but friends with her, just kinda happened later.

 

[Imp Poster]

My previous GF, I met in a college class. There were like 15 of us in class so we all got pretty much know each other. Just that one, we started to date that lasted four years. My current GF is from my friends setting me up. I always have trouble "breaking the ice", but once it is broken though, I can do the rest, sort of speak. And they were right, I would like her and do.

 

[Lilani]

As a girl, I would prefer a relationship that isn't founded on one-liners and creepy offers to go places. I'd prefer to meet a friend, and then have it blossom from there.

 

[TimbukTurnip]

My 2 failed ex girlfriends both went to clubs that I went to, so I knew them and was friends with them for a while before they asked me out.

 

[PatrickXD]

I've had one girlfriend. We were together for about half ayear, and it was great. She was one of my best friends before I left primary school (so about 10 years old) and headed to secondary. Skip 4 years and I have lost touch with most everybody from my old school, when I see her walking down the street. I call her name, we exchange phone numbers and start going to the movies etcetera. After two months I asked her, although in all fairness not a whole lot changed. When we broke up I INTJ'd her ass with a simple "are you sure?" and "Ok then, I'll see you when I see you"

 

[Serenegoose]

I got into a relationship with all my present girlfriends by doing this weird thing where I talked to them, right? And then over the weeks a friendship bloomed. Our subjects of conversation tailed around wildly as we found out more about each other - at which point it was clear whether I was into them or not. So I said as much, and it transpired that some of them reciprocated. Those that reciprocated with I got together with. Those that didn't, I didn't.

 

[esperandote]

My first girlfriend asked me to be his boyfriend.
I asked my second girlfriend after we made out on my birthday party.
And my third girlfriend told me that she liked me before i asked her.

I'm not a Don Juan pretty much every other girl that i asked to be my GF turned me down.

 

[CarpathianMuffin]

My current girlfriend I met through a forum, same as two of my exes. I went out with two of the three because we got along very well and had similar interests. Second one was more an eventual sick attachment that she felt towards me, but I'm going to stop it right there since it's a long, complex, and ultimately embarrassing story.

Anyway, my current girlfriend and I got along really well for about a year before we started going out. She was dropping hints for awhile before I finally made my move, something that I'm not entirely proud of. But it eventually happened, and that's the important thing.

With your problem... well, just try talking to her. Find some excuse to do so. There should be plenty of opportunities to do so in the future. Just keep an eye out for them.

 

[binvjoh]

It's all friendships developing into more on my part.

 

[credop]

Well, this is awkward. But no truths shall be hidden i suppose. Uhhm, well my current/ex (it's confusing at the moment) girlfriend was my friend for a long time, but in our group of friends there are alot of people who are more like acquintances. Anyway, long story short, i didn't really know her, but she knew alot about me. I noticed her commenting on a few of my Bebo (ahh simpler days) pictures and i got interested but nothing happened.

A few weeks passed and we were left alone together on a number of occasions, which we presume to have been set up by friends. One thing led to another and we were together, and i can only say it's the best relationship i've been in.

I'm a beleiver in the friends first policy, but never friends first for too long. If you find someone you want to go out with, make flirty comments, nothing too bolschy but not too subtle either. Maybe mention it to a few of your friends who you know can't keep their mouth shut and hope a few lips come unsealed.

However, my first few girlfriends were all the sort of one liner, cheeky wink sort of girlfriends and they weren't healthy or generally nice relationships. So this is why i prefer friends first.

Hope this helps

$EDIT: In truth, my friends all know me as the guy whos been with a lot of girls, but i'm not proud of it, my friends actually rip into me for it! If i could go back, i'd rather not be known that way. I prefer the committed, long lasting relationship. The sort that has a million personal jokes and the comfort of someone being there.

You're a dick, from Danyel.

 

[Dectomax]

Ah, the classic Girlfriend stuff...

Mine was the one liner...

Spinning on a chair at college, I fall off, look up and she's laughing, turn to my mate, point at her and simply say, "She loves me!". There ya go...there was other stuff, but thats what started it.


As for talking to her? There is nothing more scary, for a man, than asking a girl out, to the cinema, to dinner or anything else. It comes down too, you'll either look completely silly and be mega embarrassed OR You'll both click, she'll be impressed because you plucked up the courage to ask her and you'll be fine.

Confidence my man, all in the confidence!

 

[credop]

Ah, the classic Girlfriend stuff...

Mine was the one liner...

Spinning on a chair at college, I fall off, look up and she's laughing, turn to my mate, point at her and simply say, "She loves me!". Confidence my man, all in the confidence!

Smooth, you managed to pull the "Fall off". Not many people can do that

 

[El Poncho]

I talk to them for a while then I work up the courage to ask them out somewhere if I think I have a chance.

 

[darth gditch]

Well, first girlfriend was the latter.......and second girlfriend was also the latter point. Although it was she who asked me out. So........um, I have no advice. XD

Beyond be yourself and have confidence, I have nothing more specific to offer on such a broad topic.

 

[Dectomax]

Ah, the classic Girlfriend stuff...

Mine was the one liner...

Spinning on a chair at college, I fall off, look up and she's laughing, turn to my mate, point at her and simply say, "She loves me!".

Smooth, you managed to pull the "Fall off". Not many people can do that

I must say, I was pretty impressed with myself afterwards. Never thought falling off something would be particularly helpful.

 

[Berethond]

I attribute that to the way I do things, relying on emotional dependence that makes them come back.

Yeah, uh, that's really really bad.

 

[The Unworthy Gentleman]

I attribute that to the way I do things, relying on emotional dependence that makes them come back.

Yeah, uh, that's really really bad.

Not really. I could be one of those guys who's a right dick. I could be the guy who cheats on them. I could be the guy who fucks them and leaves them out in the shit to pick up all the pieces. I don't though, that's not who I've chosen to be. I've chosen to be the guy that they turn to for help, the guy that helps them solve their problems and tries to pick them up when they're sad. The dependency is a bi-product of my nice guy-ness that I use to my advantage.

Ah, the classic Girlfriend stuff...

Mine was the one liner...

Spinning on a chair at college, I fall off, look up and she's laughing, turn to my mate, point at her and simply say, "She loves me!".

Now that is what I like to hear. You, good sir, have the pulling power.

I gotta say I'm surprised this thread is alive, I thought it was dead.