How do you: Ask people out?

[Ham_authority95]

Like this yes?

This, right here, is the worst thing that could happen when you ask someone out.

And damn is it funny.

 

[TheYellowCellPhone]

The title says it all. Do you charge in there with your cholorform rag or do you sit back and observe until its the right time. I can't give an answer because the only relationship I've been in started with her asking me out...

So...ya. How do you ask someone to a date?

On a date? Or to start a relationship?

Here, I will right a simple program for you. Execute this and you will get many women.
}
If(on a date){
human.speech("Do you want to " + + " on " + + "?");
}

else if(starting relationship){
human.speech("Do you want to go out with me?");
}
}

There is absolutely no way how to explain how cool this post is.

OT: "Hey, you wanna go out?"

 

[hortez the champion of the frozen wastes]

I just said this in another thread but who cares I will say it again.

The problem with upfront is that unless you have been obviously flirting with her it will be a surprise, and when surprised with offers people reject them out of habit.

So I ease into it.

Hey whats up?

so I heard about this cool concert going on at Nathan Philips square...

Hey we should go to that concert.


Girls aren't stupid. Unless I'm in the friends zone she knows what I just did. But if it is a big thing (i.e. will you go out with me) she WILL get nervous and will probably say no.


EDIT: Avoid the movie date. 2 hours of sitting next to each and saying nothing isn't the best idea.

 

[Macgyvercas]

The title says it all. Do you charge in there with your cholorform rag or do you sit back and observe until its the right time. I can't give an answer because the only relationship I've been in started with her asking me out...

So...ya. How do you ask someone to a date?

Hi, my name is Aylaine! Will you go out with me?

As I've said before, I soooooooo wish I was brave enough to do that. And I'm kinda ashamed that I can't. One of the points of the Scout Law is Brave.

OT: It usually takes me a while and it's always along the lines of "Uhhh, hey, I was wondering if, ummmm, you'd like to...get together for a movie sometime."

Yes, I am very shy around women I like. Well, that's not 100% true. I can talk to them about anything...except the fact that I like them.

 

[UncertaintyPrinciple]

I usually go with:
"Hi, can I have a hug?"
Nearly everytime they'll hug me, we talk for about half-an-hour to an hour and then if I feel like it I'll ask for a number.

 

[JayDub147]

Spoiler: I've always gone with this method. It's worked about as well as you'd expect

 

[spartan1077]

Spoiler: I've always gone with this method. It's worked about as well as you'd expect

damn Now I have to memorize that

 

[likalaruku]

I used to say "Hey, wanna see a movie?" But going to the theaters these days is just torture for two. I don't want to pay money to sit through hell & eat bad food in a place where I can't talk.

Now adays I'd say something like "Tonight you & me are gonna get drunk & go golfing." & yes, being drunk at a miniature golf corse is awesome, especially if there are a lot of you & the soberest one has a video camera.

 

[MostlyHarmless]

Well, there are two main ways.

1. Just be upfront.
2. Does this rag smell like chloroform to you? Then proceed to do whatever you wish.

Good luck.

 

[SwagLordYoloson]

"Hey there sailor, looking for a real good time?"
Then i walk away with my hand behind my back with my index finger luring them towards me........

 

[Sleekgiant]

Tied to a chair. They can't escape that way.

Speaking of escapes.....how did you get out of my basement again?

 

[cheese_wizington]

I used a note.

And then she was a crazy ***** and I cancelled.

And now shes an even crazier *****..

And I'm scared.

 

[Sleekgiant]

Speaking of escapes.....how did you get out of my basement again?

You left the door unlocked.

Yeah, I was surprised too.

This does not please me

 

[Shock and Awe]

Me: Hey *Girl Name Here*!
Girl: Hey!
Me: Hey, you wanna go out sometime?
Girl: You mean like a date?
Me: Do you want it to be?

After that it can go anywhere, but that right there is always a good set up. Just invite her to a movie, or a carnival, something along those lines. Something informal that is fun regardless if you have any romance going. From my experience a school dance is not the place to start out, but that may be because I don't dance.

 

[Redlin5_v1legacy]

I used a note.

And then she was a crazy ***** and I cancelled.

And now shes an even crazier *****..

And I'm scared.

Spoiler: Sounds like you have a problem

OT: I talk to the girl and just talk about what she does, explaining what I do, what my favorite hobbies are, etc. Not invasive just curious. If there is interest, I ask if she wants to hang out. If there is none at all, I just continue the conversation until I have an reason to leave. (Unless she's being really judgmental. If that happens I just turn away or leave.)

Being a student and a huge commuter my only time to flirt is on the bus.

This does not please me

Don't worry, I locked the door behind me. Your other victims are still down there.

Welcome to the land of the free!

 

[Sleekgiant]

This does not please me

Don't worry, I locked the door behind me. Your other victims are still down there.

Oh goodie, but I don't say "victims", doesn't do good for morale.

 

[SideSlyGuy]

Well, I saw this in a movie once but I'm thinking about trying it out...
Turns out that the embedding was disabled, so watch it here:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w1XOfHax6Q8

In all seriousness, never actually asked a girl out, I'm pretty hopeless. When I find that right moment, I'd probably be straight forward and just ask if she wanted to see a movie or something.

 

[DiMono]

My pickup line is "Hi." Best one ever. As for the actual question, I don't say "do you want to ..." I say "we should ..." Keep it casual.

 

[bassdrum]

I still haven't really worked out a specific strategy that I stick with, but it often revolves around asking a girl what she's up to over the next few days, before asking if I could occupy any of her free time in some manner or another. Pretty standard.

 

[Sacman]

Hell, if I know... I've only ever legitimately asked out one girl before... I got turned down, of course...<.<