facaldo said:
What goes around in their mind? are you bisexual? what is the thought process when you get attracted to someone?
I'm settled with a man, however in the past I have occasionally been attracted to girls. One could say I was forced. The girls were often older then me, coming onto me when I had no idea what I wanted. In the end I chose to stick with trying to get a boyfriend because I knew if i was to go "lesbian" then I'd be ridiculed and hated (not that i wasnt anyway due to people thinking i was already even when I hadnt even considered it at that time).
When I see a girl, yes if she's pretty, or has a good personality, I will get attracted. I never hit on them or even think of them afterwards, its usually just a fleet passing thought about them, how they look etc.
When I see guys, I look more for the personality then looks because I've realised the "hotter" they are, the more of a git they are. Yes I still find men more attractive then women, but I can imagine them both if I want. Obviously I've now made up my mind and chosen to stay "straight".
do u think a vulnerable person could be manipulated at a sensitive stage into believing he/she is gay?
Yes, when I was about 7 I was abused by an older girl. She was a cousin by marriage, and we were sleeping over at her auntie's house. Anyway, for years I wondered if something was wrong with me. I liked lads, yet seemed to be able to enjoy thinking about women also. A few years after that incident, another girl came along, a close friend at that time. We were carrying on in my room and she did stuff. Again I wondered why the hell I could be that way. I was worried about whether I was attracted to women.
It was hard to get a boyfriend in highschool due to various stupid teenagers spreading rubbish about me being a lesbian (amusingly, totally unrelated to the incidents mentioned above). The guys found me unattractive due to my short hair (which had been badly cut for year 9). It wasnt until 6th form that I got a boyfriend but even then I learnt that he was after 1 thing and I didnt feel comfortable with him even to allow him to touch.
In college, I finally got a boyfriend whom I loved and trusted. Began to realise I was more attracted to guys then girls. When we broke up, I got with the lad im with now.
We've never been happier.
To me, a "Bi" is most likely someone who hasnt worked out who they are yet. Often (like me) they're more attracted to one or the other, but still like the remaining sex enough to consider sleeping with them still (unless their in a happy relationship with current partner). My mate seemed to be strongly straight up until a year or so back when she cut her hair and started looking for a girlfriend. Now she's happy with the girl she has even though she claims to be "Bi".
