How do you explain bisexuals?

[Robert2812]

To be honest, OP would only start a redundant topic thread for posts or because he's pissed.

Id like to prefix the rest of this post with a statement: "I have dated someone who has discovered themselves to be bisexual and been cheated on several times then left and told only then".

Bisexuals just dont see the field the same way, anyone is a viable date but in the same standards we expect like looks or intelligence, its still dating so whats the problem? I cant see how you can say you are respectful of lesbians and homosexuals if you do not respect bisexuals.

If i can get over a ***** you can stop acting like one OP.

 

[Buizel91]

*Bisexual Lurker jumps out of woodwork*
It's pretty much what you'd expect. Bisexuals experience attractions just like any other person. We just have the potential to be attracted to either sex...

Edit: And I got Ninja'd about seven times

Hehe...WOODwork sorry couldn't resist XD

OT: i know i have been ninja'd about 10 zillion times, but it's just sexual attractions to both Genders...not that difficult to get =\

 

[Buizel91]

I personally think bisexuality of the norm for humanity with heterosexuality (only attracted to members of the opposite gender) and homosexuality (only attracted to members of the same gender) being the rarity.

Because if you can get an honest answer, most straight people would say that there are some people of the same gender that they find attractive, and the same is true of gay people.

Oooo i like this point =D Every stright guy/girl has Man/Girl crush on a celebrity(or someone they know), Bisexual is definitely the norm of the world.

 

[Canadamus Prime]

Spoiler: snip

Personally I think it's an excuse for people with severe commitment issues, but what the fuck do I know?

On an slightly unrelated note: Sex changes. How the fuck does that work? Sure you could hack off your dick, get some ovaries installed and take a boatload of estrogen, but you'll still be carrying around a fucking Y-chromosome. ...or going the other way, I guess you'd still be lacking in said Y-chromosome.

Sex changes deal in the physical and chemical aspects of the body.

For example... male to female changers take large doses of estrogen (Among other things) to alter the chemical balances in their bodies. Typically, this is most noticeable in voice pitch, the growth of breast, smoother skin, and the smoothing of some facial features.

Next, the adams apple is shaved off. Breast implants can also be used if estrogen has not induced a large enough bosom (Or if s/he wants to be a stripper).

Finally, the penis is NOT cut off... it is reshaped. The nerve clusters of the penis are moved into the hole the doctor drilled (not sure on the specifics there), so that sex still offers feeling. These surgeries can be more convincing than I'd like to believe.

Finally, numerous other elective surgeries can be performed, such as bone shaving in the hands and feet to give a more feminine appearance.

EDIT: I realize you knew most of this, but you seemed vague. I thought a more specific approach could help you understand.

EDIT2: Also, realize that Doctors are required by law to perform EXTENSIVE mental evaluations before performing any of these steps. From my understanding, thousands of people are denied surgery a year for this reason.

Yes yes, I was aware of all that... well I was unaware of the penis reshaping thing, not that I was overly concerned. Anyway that still doesn't cover the fact that you'd still be lugging around a Y-chromosome, which would still technically make you a MAN.

Thats arguable. Most gender jumpers will throw a hissy fit about 'really being a women trapped in a mans body,' or vice versa. And really, who are we to judge (Unless they trick me into sleeping with them. Then the Jduge bust out the gavel)?

I wouldn't say such things in this forum though. Someone bound to throw a hissy fit.

Hence why I used the word "technically."

Then... what the hell were you asking? Everyone knows this genetics stuff.

No no no, my use of the word "technically" was to hopefully avoid any hissy fits.

 

[LorChan]

I'm bisexual. Well, the be fair, it's pansexual, but some people care about the difference and others don't.

I don't get the question, though. "What goes on in their mind?" Uh, human stuff, I guess. I go to school, do my work, hang out on Tumblr, geek out over my favorite shows, and would very much like to have sex with a fellow by the name of John Simm. That's normal stuff, for a girl my age. The only difference is that I'd also very much like to have sex with Brandi Carlile. Or Emily Haines. Or a 1978 version of Mary Tamm.

In regards to the other question, I don't believe you can lie to yourself about your sexuality. I do know that lots of girls make out with other girls because guys find it hot, but if they aren't really bisexual, they themselves know it.

 

[Composer]

two words bro
not picky

 

[Sion_Barzahd]

Do bisexuals need explaining?

Honestly it just means they're less picky than the rest of us.

 

[TheWeis]

Do you like Coke? Do you like Pepsi? I like both.

What the guy above me said, less picky.

 

[emeraldrafael]

I think they have the game figured out.

They're playing both fields, made the choices double, and can have two at once.

I dont know. i dont hate them. I know a bi girl thats actively dating a male and a female. Shemakes it work, and she's happy. She gets all you get from your husband and all you get from your best gal pal in one relationship.

Plus they do threesomes sometimes, which is a plus in any case for the guy.

 

[DefunctTheory]

Plus they do threesomes sometimes, which is a plus in any case for some guys.

Don't put words in my collective sex's mouth please.

I found threesomes to be the worst kind of sex possible.

Ick.

 

[emeraldrafael]

Plus they do threesomes sometimes, which is a plus in any case for some guys.

Don't put words in my collective sex's mouth please.

I found threesomes to be the worst kind of sex possible.

Ick.

yeah.... I'm not retracting my statement.

I wasnt saying all guys, I was refering to the specific guy she's dating. Who does enjoy Threesomes. Dont be so assumptuous.

 

[DefunctTheory]

Plus they do threesomes sometimes, which is a plus in any case for some guys.

Don't put words in my collective sex's mouth please.

I found threesomes to be the worst kind of sex possible.

Ick.

yeah.... I'm not retracting my statement.

I wasnt saying all guys, I was refering to the specific guy she's dating. Who does enjoy Threesomes. Dont be so assumptuous.

I could have swore you said every...

I must be losing it... my bad.

 

[emeraldrafael]

Plus they do threesomes sometimes, which is a plus in any case for some guys.

Don't put words in my collective sex's mouth please.

I found threesomes to be the worst kind of sex possible.

Ick.

yeah.... I'm not retracting my statement.

I wasnt saying all guys, I was refering to the specific guy she's dating. Who does enjoy Threesomes. Dont be so assumptuous.

I could have swore you said every...

I must be losing it... my bad.

No, I said in any case, which meant in any thing you can say about the relationship my friend is having. Cause thats all he's ever said when I brought up negatives that other people tell me to tell her.

 

[martin's a madman]

Eh. I don't know if I like heterosexual sex or homosexual sex in practise.
Only straight in theory I suppose.

That being said, I know almost positively that I could only ever have romantic relationships with women.

But I don't want to say I don't like something if I haven't tried it. (In reference to sex, that is)

 

[Something Amyss]

Surely if we're bound to be fixed by the idea of sexuality (as apparently we all are), which is defined, usually, by whether you are attracted to your own or the opposite gender, surely desiring both at the same time (potentially) falls outside of that, essentially breaking the mould (surely a good thing?).

Definining it by attraction to one sex or the other is an artificial constraint, though. It's really no more accurate than defining anything other than sexuality as an act of deviance or a disease.

Obviously not the SAME, mind, but It's a constraint which is demonstrably not the case.

 

[Mr.Numbers]

Jack Harkness in Doctor Who is Bi, and it just makes him more kickass to me

Also, I would like to post this video for your amusement: http://www.smbc-theater.com/?id=181

Now, in terms of gay or bi or whatever I'm gonna say: You're born that way.
You cannot change it. You are not necessarily a serial killing pedophile for it as some people say.
600 million people are bisexual and that means that bisexuality is here to stay, and that if you have a problem with it then keep it to yourself. You can't change who you are or who you're attracted to. It's something you're born as, not something you choose.

Any objections?

 

[DevilWolf47]

I actually view a lack of bias to be a good thing, so i don't have an issue with bisexuals. I don't try to explain them for the same reason i don't try to explain why i like chocolate covered pretzels and Kahlua. I JUST DO GODDAMNIT!!!! Bisexuals just are bisexual. Gays just are gays. Heteros just are heteros. Misanthropes just are misanthropes. Furries just are furries. Do i really have to go on?

 

[GotMalkAvian]

I don't really understand the point of this topic... If you've ever felt attracted to another person regardless of gender then you know how a bisexual person feels when they're attracted to someone.

As for someone being "convinced" that they could be gay, I think a lot of people go through periods of confusion and/or self-examination, but eventually will work through their feelings to realize who they're attracted to. Hell, I just turned 28 and have finally come to terms with the fact that, given the right circumstances, I could be attracted to someone who is biologically male.

 

[masterjiji]

Hmm. I've always kind of thought of bisexuality as a type of affection that just ignores the hell out of physical gender. I don't think it's so much about having SEX with either gender as it is carrying on a "meaningful relationship" with either gender; it's a kind of mentality where you want to have the same intimate type of relationship with male friends as with female friends. The trouble with that is that most bisexual people start to think of almost EVERYONE as potential sex partners, not out of insane horniness but just because they have broken down the gender barriers in their heads while us straight people haven't. It still weirds me out and makes my skin crawl, but that's just coming from the guy who's recently been hit on by his good friend's bisexual FIANCE. Yes, that has actually happened to me in the last week. Multiple times. Same person.

So I guess I might be biased. But honestly I don't mind bisexual folks, as long as they don't try to get in my pants.

 

[dietpeachsnapple]

Yes, I am a bisexual.

I have studied the problem you are discussing (literally read the literature, and I am currently in graduate school with a specialization in human sexuality.)

The most useful set of definitions to work through this problem is as such:

The person identifies themselves as:
The person desires:
and
The person behaves:

These three questions flesh out the nature of a person's sexuality relative to male and female attraction. The problem is that sexuality is rarely a dichotomous scale. The range, type, and intensity of attraction is far more varied than "male," "female," or "both."