How do you explain bisexuals?

[DarthFennec]

I'm bi, and I don't really understand your question. My thought process is exactly the same as yours or anyone else's, it's just that what sex they are doesn't matter to me.

And I guess people could be taught that they were gay, but later they would probably figure out otherwise, kind of like how most gay people are taught that they're straight only to realize later that they're not, but that really doesn't have anything to do with bisexuals ...

 

[rokkolpo]

Bi-sexual - Someone who is SEXUALLY attracted to both sexes.

And you can't be fooled into BEING gay, only into gay acts.

I have slain this thread.

At dusk we shall feast upon it!
HUZZAH!

(Yeah that's me saying ''what he said'')

 

[Valkyrie101]

I have slain this thread.

You have indeed. To be fair, though, I don't imagine it required too much effort.

Not really, but it made me feel like I had a huge ePenis for a minute.

Just occurred to me: why do we have different words for male homosexuals and female... lesbians?

Gay refers to both men and women. Lesbian refers to women..

So the REAL question is... why are GAY women so special.

Wait... a... minute...

Just found a porn site that told me why.

/claps

Post of the day.

 

[kingofclubs]

I've been bi for 3 years, and this is probably the question I get asked the most. For the most part, I ignore gender, find someone attractive and then make it work for me. That being said I like women for different reasons than I like men and vice-versa. But really all that matters is that I've evaluated EVERY SINGLE ONE of my friends for sexual attractiveness. I have sexy friends all around me.

 

[dagens24]

Some people like apples but don't like oranges. Some people like oranges but don't like apples. Some people like apples AND oranges. Simple.

 

[Nimcha]

Just occurred to me: why do we have different words for male homosexuals and female... lesbians?

Because of our secret island in the Mediterranean sea...

 

[The Rogue Wolf]

Okay.

You know how heterosexuals are attracted to people of the opposite sex?

And how homosexuals are attracted to people of the same sex?

You take a little from column A, and a little from column B....

Just occurred to me: why do we have different words for male homosexuals and female... lesbians?

The term "lesbian" has an actual historical root: The Greek island Lesbos, the birthplace of Sappho (from which comes the term sapphic, another descriptive term for things involving female homosexuality), a female poet who wrote several romantic works directed at other women (and others involving men as well, which would more likely make her bisexual rather than lesbian... go figure). Male homosexualty never developed this sort of "mascot".

[small]Fun fact: The island of Lesbos has a large traditional Greek Orthodox population, which has sued Greek homosexual activist groups to prevent them from using the word "Lesbian" in their titles. The islanders lost.[/small]

 

[Jack and Calumon]

Spoiler: I dunno, what say you Billy O'Reilly?

In all seriousness, Bisexuals just don't have a preference for Gender. It's the same as some people like men only, some people like women only and some just don't like anyone in that way.

Calumon: I can't explain much. I can't even explain what that word is! :S

 

[Nova Helix]

Bi-sexual - Someone who is SEXUALLY attracted to both sexes.

And you can't be fooled into BEING gay, only into gay acts.

I have slain this thread.

This.

Seriously your question doesn't make sense. How do you explain any other sexual attraction? Its the same explanation for bisexual.

 

[phantasmalWordsmith]

To me, trying to explain one's sexuality is like trying to explain your political or religious or whatever alignment; all comes down to you and most of the time, the only people who understand why are the people of the same mind

 

[TheDoctor455]

Its just another set of preferences.
No different, no better, and no worse than any other.

 

[Timberwolf0924]

So what would you call straight guy who can look at another guy (gay or not) and think "he's sexy"? I do that, (I have a kid, so not gay) But I can honestly say that, even if I was being 'tricked into a gay act' I would neve follow through with it. Maybe a kiss *wink*

 

[Nurb]

You guys don't need to sound all surprised OP might not fully "get" bisexuals or talk down to him like some seem to be doing...

I'm bi myself, and just to get into a little more detail, there's this whoooole grey area between gay and straight:
-some like both sexes eaqually
-some "lean" more towards one sex or the other
-some take different traditional roles in a relationship depending on the gender they're with. I had a friend who was the traditional "boyfriend" when he was with women and the traditional "girlfriend" with men.
-some have their preferences shift back and forth between sexes, which is what happens to me, and it can be rather frustrating, but I've learned to just go with the flow.

It doesn't surprise me people are barely aware of bisexuality, which includes western European nations as well. People in western nations have just relatively recently accepted homosexuals (some more than others) so I'm not upset or angry when people have questions or don't understand bisexuality. A lot believe a lot of it's myths: http://www.alternet.org/sex/149710/9_stupid_myths_about_bisexuals_that_will_make_you_laugh/

I've found that homosexuals are just as bigoted and judgmental towards things they don't understand as much as heterosexuals; I've had a gay man that was initially interested in me tell me once he found out I was bisexual, "I don't buy that crap, maybe with women, but not with men", telling me that I basicly didn't exist.

It's weird since a lot of people on both sides have trouble accepting it. To a lot of straight people "Bi" is just another word for "Gay" and to a lot of homosexuals I'm not "Gay Enough" to be fully accepted by them. Which is ironic because I had to struggle with liking guys as well in a religious school and they said bisexuality didn't exist either, only gay or straight, so I was horrified at 13 that I was "turning gay" despite liking girls too and in there it ment I was becoming a "bad person". I brought up that point with him and he said "Well I dunno, I just never met one"

Luckily I've found a bisexual girlfriend who can see both sides of a relationship as much as I can, like I know how much of an asshole guys can be, and she knows how bitchy and manipulative women can be. It's a rare experience to have a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship where both actually "get/understand" each other.

 

[Nurb]

To me, trying to explain one's sexuality is like trying to explain your political or religious or whatever alignment; all comes down to you and most of the time, the only people who understand why are the people of the same mind

Wellll, sometimes it really is black and white for some people, some are completely gay or straight and have nothing to explain at all.

 

[Mikeyfell]

Bi-Sexual thought process: One orgasm is as good as another.

 

[astrav1]

Bi-sexual - Someone who is SEXUALLY attracted to both sexes.

And you can't be fooled into BEING gay, only into gay acts.

I have slain this thread.

Nay AccursedTheory be reasonable. Thou mustn't act without mercy on such a young naive thread!

But, yeah pretty much this.

 

[AceAngel]

Ace: No idea mate.

Angel: I guess...they simply want to feel connected with someone on a genderless level? They're more committed to the idea of an emotion that will gratify them, even sexually, regardless of gender.

Luigi: I guess to like to keep their options open...and if you did not make a dirty joke out of this statement, you're a better person them me.

 

[MassiveGeek]

It's all to certain degrees. I consider myself bisexual, because I have no issues with and feel sexually attracted to both genders. I have different preferences for both genders, I think female asses are hot, I think male asses are usually not what I look at. I think male backs are very attactive, but female backs are usually not what I look at.

It varies. Just like it varies within homosexuality and heterosexuality - the only difference is that a bisexual doesn't really think of gender a dealbreaker/maker.

I suck at explaining. XD

 

[Julianking93]

Well, it's been answered basically already, but it's the same things that go through your mind when looking at the opposite sex. Bisexuals just can be sexually attracted to both sexes. That's not to say more people by any means either. Everyone has a type they like and will normally go for and that doesn't go out the window for bisexuals. There's no difference with bi/gay/straight when it comes to choosing a partner. Just when it comes to gender. Everyone's got their preferences and their dislikes in partners. No different with any other sex.

As for someone being 'manipulated' (fucking horrible choice of words by the way) I think society is still more inclined to dissuade people from being completely open about their sexuality. Don't get me wrong, leaps and bounds have been made even in the last forty years, but society's views still lie somewhere around 'tolerance' rather than 'acceptance'. If you could elaborate on that point as a whole I'll try and give you a cleaner answer?

Oddly enough, I had this discussion a while ago with someone. It's all about tolerance rather than actually being accepted in society and it seems to be worse sometimes for those in the middle as a lot feel inclined to state they're only either gay or straight with no middle ground. Even with that though, as you said, unless you're just entirely straight, it's discouraged to ever even mention ones own sexuality. Probably won't ever get to the point in society when one can just speak openly about that though.

 

[Chairman Miaow]

To quote Kiss Kiss Bang Bang :
'But you see a naked guy... your brain says, "I want that." I don't make that leap. It's like, "Look, there's an elephant, quick let's drain its blood to paint my boathouse."'

In all seriousness though, I can't imagine it's much different to what us straight folk think, just occasionally replace 'girl' with 'guy'.