How do you handle bullies?

[megalomania]

Just tell the teacher. You used to kick him, he's affecting you now. Either that, or hit him really, really hard. Please note, I neither endorse nor encourage the latter option. Because it's not like it would be fun or satisfying to do, nor could you apply his circle logic back on him...

Can't hit him, I'm much smaller and weaker. It would be nice to get rid of his bullying by telling the teachers. Too bad I can't get any revenge on him, cause he deserves to know what it feels like to be hurt and degraded every day. Thank God that my summer break starts soon. 10 weeks away from that hellhole.

You don't need to be bigger than him to make him hurt. You just have to be smarter than him. You said he pokes you? Next time grab his finger and snap it back as hard as you can. It will fucking hurt him but it wont leave a mark. If your lucky it will break/dislocate and he will back off.

 

[thebezzman1]

Just punch him in the face lol.

 

[electric_warrior]

violence is the answer, seriously. you kick the shit through someone and you may get suspended but, trust me, it isn't that bad and they never screw with you again. the only thing though is that i'm massive, i mean huge, when i was 11 is was 5 th 8, so what i did may not be suitable for everyone. but if your small just go for the nose with the lower part of your hand (the hard bit near the bottom of your palm, just above your wrist), but be careful you don't do it too hard or you could kill him!

 

[Erana]

The nice thing about being female is that bullies rarely actually touch their victims.
Which then gives me the opportunity to mess with their minds.

Or just let one of us talk to him...
Perhps just an IM name, sweet-talk 'em, then crush his pitiful heart!
*cackles evilly*

...Wow, I'm on a roll. I should try this "evil" thing more often.

 

[Daveman]

I know a way you can win a fight, even if he is much bigger then you. IF you are interested, pm me.

Does it involve guns or other such weaponry that is unavailable in the UK? Also, does it require any effort to learn?

If both answers are "no" then I'm officially intrigued. Unless it's just "a solid kick to the crotch"...

 

[Stig_Marshall]

It might sound a bit oulandish, but grab his nuts and yank. Hard. And don't let go even after he says he'll stop. It leaves him totally vulnerable. Then whenever you see him after that. Before he gets a chance to say anything, make the gesture in the air of squeezing your hand and twisting. It's amazing what a bit of psychological warfare can do. Honestly he'll stop since now YOU'VE turned the tables and are the bully. Only you know longer need to worry about it. Just the gesture, and if he repeat offends perform the actual deed again. Eventually he'll learn to fear the grip

 

[Drakulla]

Learn Karate

 

[zauxz]

I know a way you can win a fight, even if he is much bigger then you. IF you are interested, pm me.

Does it involve guns or other such weaponry that is unavailable in the UK? Also, does it require any effort to learn?

If both answers are "no" then I'm officially intrigued. Unless it's just "a solid kick to the crotch"...

No and a bit yes.

Its a martal arts technique, easy to learn, but can be very deadly.

 

[Cpt_Oblivious]

Tell the teachers. Or geta the biggest guy in the school to get them to stop. Or both.

 

[000Ronald]

Just tell the teacher. You used to kick him, he's affecting you now. Either that, or hit him really, really hard. Please note, I neither endorse nor encourage the latter option. Because it's not like it would be fun or satisfying to do, nor could you apply his circle logic back on him...

Can't hit him, I'm much smaller and weaker. It would be nice to get rid of his bullying by telling the teachers. Too bad I can't get any revenge on him, cause he deserves to know what it feels like to be hurt and degraded every day. Thank God that my summer break starts soon. 10 weeks away from that hellhole.

Mmm...That doesn't mean fighting him wouldn't help the situation. If he beats you into such a bloody pulp that you have to be put in the hospital because of it, the school can't ignore it.

If you walk out looking worse than him, than you'll look like the victim. Trust me, I know from experience (meaning I've beaten the crap out of someone and looked like the bad guy). It would be ugly, but it would get the job done.

Barring that, talk to your parents, talk to administrators, talk to the school board, talk to the cops, if it comes to that. If you're not willing to talk to people about the problem, then you're not willing to solve it.

 

[luthurus]

You have had many responces to violence here, I saw this thread and the real solution if ignorance didnt work is confrontation of an adult manner, tell him your sorry like a man, tell him how you feel about it, all else tell your teacher. Violence begets violence and it may ward him off but what kind of person would you be if you solved everything with pain you know? I say this because im 6'2 (have been since 13) I have had my share of bullys, violent impulses and all the rest of it. But im at peace with myself and those who would hurt, and those that do tend to have alot of problems of their own and would probably explain them if you asked.

 

[Arkhangelsk]

I have a bully at school, who keeps kicking me, poking me, annoying me, and being a generally unlikeable f*ckhead. Whenever I try to tell him to stop, he says that it's my fault cause I used to kick him, but that was cause he was already annoying me and I was stressed out. So I can't tell the teachers cause he will use his stupid circle logic. And ignoring him doesn't help. Although I'm seriously starting to consider telling the teachers, cause I don't give a shit anymore about what the teachers think, it's not like they can lower my grades for it. I'm really starting to lose it and I've seriously though about changing school just because of this guy. And I can't avoid him, cause he's friends with my friends and he has the doggy determination to make my life shitty. My favorite moment would be when he's alone and I can kick him in the nuts with a cinder block shoe.

Damn I wish this thing did flow charts...
There are a number of questions I want to ask.
1) Is it just kicking? Hard? Is it a "savage beating" or just irritating kicking?
2) How bad were you to him? How recently did you stop?
3) Do your friends like you more than him? Have you told them how you feel about him? Does he do it to anyone else?
4) Are your teachers fuckwits? Will they actually be able to do anything?
5) How old are you?

1) More like I'm really pissed and just kicked him kinda hard on the shins. But I'm weaker and he claims I can't kick hard, so it's his own fault in that manner, as I see it.
2) Can't recall who actually started the dispute. Was over 2 years ago when we stopped getting along.
3) I honestly don't know. I'm kind of left out guy in school. They sometimes hang around with me, but most of the time they don't. I usually hang out with my other friends.
4) No, they can tell someone to stop, I've just not come around to tell them.
5) 15 years, am starting 9th grade in fall.

 

[goatzilla8463]

If he is the one who is annoying you, kick his arse.

 

[Arkhangelsk]

I know a way you can win a fight, even if he is much bigger then you. IF you are interested, pm me.

Does it involve guns or other such weaponry that is unavailable in the UK? Also, does it require any effort to learn?

If both answers are "no" then I'm officially intrigued. Unless it's just "a solid kick to the crotch"...

No and a bit yes.

Its a martal arts technique, easy to learn, but can be very deadly.

Probably not going to use it, but do tell me for future reference.

 

[matnatz]

Having been bullied in the past the best thing that works is violence. Yeah, I said it. I'm usually a peaceful gy, but think of it like this: he will be too scared of you to torture you anymore and you'll be too much of a nice guy to ever actually hit him again, everybody is a winner . Just get your chair, and force it down his throat.

Bully: Naw naw I'm a total douchebag, my mother takes random men home and I'm the victim of society.

Bullied: *Ignore*

Bully: *stabs with pen*

Bullied: *Ignore*

Bully: Hey, I know a song that'll get on yo...

Bullied: Look at that light fixture, it looks like it's going to fall down!

Bully: Where?

Bulllied: *Punches bully in the throat*

Bully: *Cries*

 

[ace_of_something]

Incidentally OP you have the same name as my late brother.

I was actually the biggest kid in my class (until high school then I was like 3rd biggest) So I didn't get picked on a whole lot. What I did do was get in trouble all the time because I fucking hate bullies. So I was the bully's bully. If I saw someone picking on someone like that I would step in thump them than get in trouble.

Anyway my two suggestions
1) Befriend the biggest person in the class.
or the better choice

2) Tell the teacher if he/she doesn't do something about it you will go to his superiors (Principal, Head Master, whatever I'm not real sure how the Swedish school system works) Tell him you are going to let your parents know and you will go the head of the schools superiors (if such a thing exists) about how your pleas for help are being ignored. People don't like having their bosses talked to about them not doing their job.

 

[Fragged_Templar]

to quote one of my friends
"Violence is never the answer... but sometimes its a quicker alternative"

personally I got rid of all the people that tried to bully me by beating them up or or just by telling them to shove it where the sun don't sunshine and then staying away from them...

another option would be to trick the bully into getting caught by a teacher or adult

otherwise talk to a teacher or your parents...

 

[Whoolpurse]

I usually just kick him in his balls and lock his arm till' I get a sorry.

 

[Daveman]

1) More like I'm really pissed and just kicked him kinda hard on the shins. But I'm weaker and he claims I can't kick hard, so it's his own fault in that manner, as I see it.
2) Can't recall who actually started the dispute. Was over 2 years ago when we stopped getting along.
3) I honestly don't know. I'm kind of left out guy in school. They sometimes hang around with me, but most of the time they don't. I usually hang out with my other friends.
4) No, they can tell someone to stop, I've just not come around to tell them.
5) 15 years, am starting 9th grade in fall.

This doesn't sound that savage. Just tell him that if he doesn't stop you'll tell. If he carries on, then tell. Also, obviously don't talk to him again as well if he doesn't stop. If he does stop then you might grow to like him, who knows.

 

[l33tabix]

Just tell the teacher. You used to kick him, he's affecting you now. Either that, or hit him really, really hard. Please note, I neither endorse nor encourage the latter option. Because it's not like it would be fun or satisfying to do, nor could you apply his circle logic back on him...

Can't hit him, I'm much smaller and weaker. It would be nice to get rid of his bullying by telling the teachers. Too bad I can't get any revenge on him, cause he deserves to know what it feels like to be hurt and degraded every day. Thank God that my summer break starts soon. 10 weeks away from that hellhole.

You know what, I'm happy to see a 15 year old is man enough to consider these thing AND admit he is weak. I salute you. I'm 18, I've never had to deal with bullies, nor am I one myself. I used to do kickboxing though, so when I was 15 (I was in an all boys school) I would have kicked the living shit out of him.

Anyway, tell the head teacher of your school, say exactly what you've said to us, it'll be sorted out.