how where you bullied

[bigwon]

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[Jedamethis]

Thank god I was too handy to be bullied...

And by handy, I mean likely to help you out and cheer you up if you were in deep shit. Nothing dirty. T.T

 

[Fraught]

Mostly emotionally. After my parents died, I became very unsure of myself and a bit out of place to most people. That typically lead to the popular girls teasing me for being sensitive, or causing problems for me whenever I was alone. It became much easier when I started hanging out with my best friends (thank god for lunch switches) though.

I feel sorry for you, one of the few nice people here -_-


But as for myself, well despite my size I am quite the softy. So I am a moving target for insults, also I am 1/2 Black 1/2 White.

This one guy called me a "half breed mother f***er"

I gave him a good shiner

One of the "few nice people" here? hey, screw you, you half-breed motherfuc

heeeey! One of the few?!

Also, I've never really been bullied. In fact, I used to be the bully years ago (something I really regret, even though I, and those I've bullied have learned to forget and forgive, and some of them are actually really good friends of mine now). The closest was maybe how the whole of my class called me Joshua in a mocking sort of way.

See? My only example of me being bullied is me being called a name that is, by any means, a normal name (and I don't even know why I was so irked by it back then; even considered changing schools (though it was only a thought) and once even left school early. I'm really quite perlexed, since if that happened now, I'd pay no mind to it).

 

[Wintermoot]

people poking fun at me and not stopping it got worse last year when the teacher said it was my fault and the douchebags where innocent (they said something about "behavioural problems" wich is a terrible excuse). I even thought of killing myself to get rid of the bullying but was too scared to seriously think about it. it ended with me running from the school crying and never returning. Luckily I started a new school last year where the teacher give a crap about their students.
I still want revenge against my bullies.

 

[IamQ]

I was bullied a bit in the 7th grade and 8th. It continued during the 9th grade, but then I was more confident and hung out alot more with my friends to care about them. Also, all of us hated the people who were bullying be back then, because it wasn't just me, they bullied alot of people, and were generally douche bags. Yet somehow they still had a whole bunch of friends.

 

[Atmos Duality]

Physically:
-Been stabbed because of this
-Beaten by a group
-Nearly killed by a severe concussion

But most of it was just the usual petulant childish bullshit. Name calling; rumors, public mockery, and a completely indifferent faculty.
I learned self-defense towards the end, and payed a few them back in blood...then I moved to another region for unrelated reasons (parents employment moves, we move with it).

As bitter as I was towards the inbred delinquents that bullied me, I'm far more incensed at the school system that let this go on because they didn't want to be known as that school that had to send problem students to juvenile detention/school.
They were more concerned with keeping their perfect record intact than disciplining violent students.

This is why I don't think children are these "Sweet innocent creatures that don't know any better.". That sort of sentimentality is so full of shit it makes me wretch. Children that harm others (physically or emotionally) know damn well what they're doing, and whether or not they would like to have it done to them.
Most kids I knew while growing up were pretty decent human beings, but don't think for one second that they're entirely ignorant as to what's going on.

 

[Wardnath]

Maybe so, but my parents didn't really care because they thought it would be better if I learned to "deal with it myself" or something along those lines. What bothers me is when I tried to defend myself, or tried to stop the bullying my younger sister was going through, they would ground me. It got to the point where I attempted suicide several times. But I'm okay now, because once I accepted my own worthlessness it because a lot easier to admit that I deserved a lot of the crap that happened to me.

No. No, you're not.

 

[Woodsey]

I've never been bullied.

Don't think we ever had that many instances in my first, middle or high school of it either. And these were fairly big schools, and my high school especially had a large variety in the kids it took in, in terms of background.

 

[scorptatious]

Middle school was absolute hell for me. For starters, a lot of kids would pick on me just because I was a twin. They would keep calling me by my brother's name. Back then, I wasn't exactly bright enough to realize that I could've just ignored them, as I kept responding to them every time they did that.

One day, after one particular kid decided to call me by my brother's name, I lost it, ran to him, grabbed him and punched him in the stomach. He than responded in kind by punching me in the face. Telling me not to do that again, as if he was the fucking victim. Needless to say, my pride was hurt pretty bad after that.

There was also this one obnoxious black girl who picked on me as well. She called me a slut one time, which was weird considering that I was a guy.

Finally, there was also this one girl whom I only dealt with once, she came up to me and asked if I knew what timid meant. At the time I didn't so as a result she told me that I wasn't "a real middle schooler" or something like that.

Things became a lot better in High School, and even better now that I'm in College.

 

[Chaza]

I am at secondary school now and in it you have the cool kids and the 'retards'. The cool kids well thats kind of self explanetory. The 'retards' were anyone who was different to the cool kids.

In middle school I started many fights ,for some reason, and lost most of them. The one person who I got into the most fights is now of my only friends of sorts. (more on that in a bit)

I used to/still do hang out with the cool kids as I thought they were guenuinally my friends and now all they do is take the piss out of anything I do. And I have no Idea how to react to it. It drives me crazy but I have no ability to do anything.

I also hate anyone who is on the same level as me and will try to isolate my self from them.

 

[scorptatious]

Because of my autism, my entire elementry school hated me, kids AND teachers. The kids beat me up pretty much every day, ostracized me socially, and would do such things as smash my head down on the playground so hard my front teeth got knocked out. The teachers would pick on me and tell me that I was worthless. Admittedly I deserved some of it because of my inability to control myself, but still...

That's not bullying, but criminal harassment. You or your parents had sufficient grounds to go to the police, and even sue the school, for their neglect and their failure to protect you.

Maybe so, but my parents didn't really care because they thought it would be better if I learned to "deal with it myself" or something along those lines. What bothers me is when I tried to defend myself, or tried to stop the bullying my younger sister was going through, they would ground me. It got to the point where I attempted suicide several times. But I'm okay now, because once I accepted my own worthlessness it because a lot easier to admit that I deserved a lot of the crap that happened to me.

Dude. NO ONE deserves what you went through. Just because you're different from somebody else doesn't mean you're worthless. I should know, I too have autism, and I had my fair share of bullies.

If what you said about your parents is true, than they are just as bad as the people who hurt you at school. You have every right to defend yourself and those you care about. You should really talk with your parents about this. They should be helping you through this kind of thing.

 

[super_mumbles]

Wow...Just from looking at the first page my response seems insignificant.

I've had a bunch of friends since mid middle school and most of use played the Yu-Gi-Oh card game. However, as soon as "bullies" learned of this they took it and ran with it often screaming things such as "ahahaha you like yugioh!?", "Yuuuuuuuuugiooooooooh ahahaha" and "Do you want to trade yuuuugiiiioh cards?" to which we would respond (in order) "Yes, we do, well done", "Are you actually trying to say something or are you just going to stand there and shout?" and "Yeah, go on then".

It's amazing how quickly we learned that playing along with what they were saying took the wind out of their sails. It was great.

 

[linkvegeta]

Mine was different, I never got bullied at school but my family bullied me all the time, you know made fun of me and called me names some times worse.

 

[Hatchet90]

Well, I used to go to a Christian school (and you'd think that'd mean people were all friendly). There was never any physical violence at my school and no one ever brought weapons. That said, the shear amount of hatred and verbal abuse that some people felt towards me just because I sat in the back and was shy nearly led me to commit suicide. They just made fun of me openly, in the middle of a lecture I might add, and the teachers didn't do a damn thing. Hell, some of the teachers joined in on the "fun". It's not like I did poorly in school, I got A's and B's all through school, there was no reason that they should allow such abuse, especially considering my parents were paying for this "safe" environment.

Looking back on some of those high school days, I still tear up just thinking about it. They assumed just because I didn't talk, that meant I was some kind of angry loner who was going to show up one day with a gun. No, I would never do that, believe it or not I am a Christian, and I would never want to harm another living soul, no matter how horrible they were to me. I would sooner pull a gun on myself. I played video games to vent my frustration and was a little overweight, so guess what they made fun of me for?

A year later, I started to gain friendships, but those jerks left an emotional scar, a stressful burden on me that will never repair. I learned other ways to vent my frustrations like playing music, and I figure the one thing I gained from being bullied was learning how to play guitar. I look back on the year 2007 with disgust and hatred.

For those of you people still in High School, don't give up, neither on yourself nor your education. Trust me when I say that the minute you step onto a college campus or enter the real world, things get a lot better. You find people who have similar interests and no one gives a damn about how you look or what you enjoy doing.

 

[dragonslayer32]

I got bullied quite a bit (the usual stuff, kicked, punched, name calling) until year 8 when I hit 6 foot.

 

[superbatranger]

I'm not sure how that could be true. Also, sometimes they'd take my stuff, mainly assignments and things like paper and pencils. Would leave me unprepared for class and I'd have to ask people for paper or a pencil. Most of the time when I'd try to tell a teacher there would be not enough proof to make anything stick. My graphing calculator was stolen, for example, and I never found out who did it. There was also that damn, pesky verbal bullying, but not a whole lot of anything really physical.

My point is that they make you feel like you don't belong because unlike them you are not another Jersey Shore douchebag. You're an interesting person. I'm not defending them, i'm defending you. Being different can make you an outcast but being different makes you interesting.

Oh! I get you now! I see what you mean.

 

[Terminate421]

Harsh words.
Use of the word '******' started in 4th grade, being told I was garbage until 8th grade, critisized over what I wear in 8th grade.

It stopped when I beat the crap out of someone I hated.

 

[standokan]

Not physically, mostly verbally and even that was done by "friends".

 

[dragonslayer32]

I am at secondary school now and in it you have the cool kids and the 'retards'. The cool kids well thats kind of self explanetory. The 'retards' were anyone who was different to the cool kids.

In middle school I started many fights ,for some reason, and lost most of them. The one person who I got into the most fights is now of my only friends of sorts. (more on that in a bit)

I used to/still do hang out with the cool kids as I thought they were guenuinally my friends and now all they do is take the piss out of anything I do. And I have no Idea how to react to it. It drives me crazy but I have no ability to do anything.

I also hate anyone who is on the same level as me and will try to isolate my self from them.

Times change, I went into secondary school with 3 close firends and by the time the 5 years were up, none of us spoke to eachother. You make more friends and forget about old ones. It sounds bad but that is just life.

 

[Epic_Mushroom]

Physically, emotionally, pretty much everything. Things I'm glad I missed out on: Swirlies.
In high school, most of them grew up, and I grew up enough to not give a shit. Honestly, in the grand scheme of things I think that bullying made me a better person. It made me grow up and really think about a lot of things. It made me a stronger person.

This is what i keep talking about. I was bullied in year 5 & 6, and it was all verbal, but it made me feel like shit. But by year 7 i learned to grow up and deal with it, and that made me stronger and better as a person. Most people keep saying that people shouldn't have to be bullied at all, and we should protect them, but no. Let them learn how to handle judgement, and abuse, because that's what the real world is like.

Thank you, god I hate that the world is turning bullying into the source of all evil. People, especially children, aren't as fragile as our society likes to believe. Don't believe me? Look up rights of passage and see what other cultures encourage or even force "children" to do, children who are fundamentally the same as our children.

The main difference would be that those children were actually celebrated and given acknowledgement for passing these tests. Though I can see the positive side-effects of bullying, having been bullied for nine lovely years in a row, I'd say that it's not really worth it. Bullying exists and we must all learn how to cope with it, but actually hailing it as a means to advance growth in our young... No, I don't see that.

Personally, I don't remember much from that time, much of it's probably suppressed. I do remember ignoring them most of the time, and when they inconvenienced me I'd simply tell the teacher. I guess I should be glad to grow up in a country where one's ability at sports isn't valued over the way we treat our fellow human beings. That being said, I also remember being a bully to my younger brother. We're allright now, but there are so many thing that I regret. I see the damage in him, and I can't help wonder how much of that I did. Becoming an emotional amputee is hardly what I'd call a positive trait in anyone, but you're entitled to your own opinions, I guess. I just miss my brother.

I'm not an emotional amputee, I learned how to deal with my issues, not how to bury and ignore them. Never said that bullying should be supported, only that it's not as harmful as most people tend to think because children are more resilient than people believe, and that you can learn from being bullied, just like any other experience, good or bad.

My apologies, I did not mean to insinuate that you were an emotional amputee, I was still talking about my younger brother. What was done to him, by others as well as myself, has damaged him deeply. Whilst I will agree with you that bullying might help in that area, I'd say that there's a tipping point when bullying becomes much more destructive than anything else, and from what I read here in nearly every case that point is passed simply for the bullies' perverted satisfaction.