how where you bullied

[BanthaFodder]

I was just bullied a bit in elementary school. basically just older douchebags on the bus, trying to take my hat (remember when THOSE were allowed?) and general shit like that... I pretended to use karate one day (waving my arms around and going "whoo"). it scared the shit out of the kid (he was like 7 or 8, soooo... yeah). since I'm the general nerd archetype (smart, glasses, likes video games and sci fi, suck at sports, etc etc), I get a lot of the over-exaggerated compliments during Gym and such in the event that I actually preform quite well ("man you could be a badminton PRO! FUCK YEAH! NICE HUSSLE! YEAH!"). I used to consider my options:
A. retort with minor hostility (ie. glaring, etc)
B. ignore completely
C. just smile
D. laugh along with it
I tend to just laugh along, seeing as how most of the guys who do this ARE genuinely nice people and not just sarcastic douchebags (I can tell the difference). if I smile, they win if it was a joke. if I ignore, I look like a creeper. if I glare, I look like a douche (if it was genuine). by laughing, I can look appreciative if its genuine and look like I'm in on it and dont care if its a joke.
If there's one thing I've learned and would like to share with everyone, it's this: despite the douchebags, sadists, ignorami, neglegent teachers and parents, Jersey Shore wannabees, jocks, preps, rich kids, thugs, racists, and god knows what else, THERE IS STILL GOOD IN THE WORLD. no matter how bad things get, NEVER give up on human kindness. this is something that took me a while to learn. I used to have NO tolerence for "stupid" people, if someone who was considered by me to be stupid or popular complimented me, I would respond by either ignoring them or by immediatly taking it as sarcasm. I've come out of my shell in high school and things are great; I'm not exactly popular, but no one really has a beef with me. people who were once of some strange, separate class of people are now general aquaintences. I learned that just because someone is popular, or not as smart as me, or generally of a higher social class, it does not mean that they are incapable of genuine kindness.

EDIT: sorry guys, just re-read this and realised I wrote a frigging novel XD
on a side note... well it's not really bullying per-say... but just a lot of people who act like condescending hipsters a good 30% of the time...
"Black Ops was a TERRIBLE GAME. Anyone who bought it was a consumerist idiot..."
"um, I bought Black Ops..."
"yeah?"
"and... YOU bought Black Ops..."
"... TREYARCH SUCKS. AND MODERN WARFARE 2. THE MULTIPLAYER WAS AWFUL. SO UNREALISTIC. MEDAL OF HONOR IS SO MUCH BETTER."

 

[rokema]

Well in holland when I was 7 til 12(I think) I got lots of racism from small kids because I was half-german, calling me a nazi etc.

Probably why I'm prejudice against everyone, I assume everyone is an asshole unless proven otherwise. Funny thing I'm half-asian too.

***** nazi, haha.

 

[scorptatious]

I got bullied quite a bit (the usual stuff, kicked, punched, name calling) until year 8 when I hit 6 foot.

By year eight, do you mean eight years old, or eighth grade?

Because if it's the former than:

YOU'RE HUGE!!

 

[EHKOS]

Well, for about half a year I was at a school where my entire class hated me because I was an outsider to the.

 

[Chaza]

I am at secondary school now and in it you have the cool kids and the 'retards'. The cool kids well thats kind of self explanetory. The 'retards' were anyone who was different to the cool kids.

In middle school I started many fights ,for some reason, and lost most of them. The one person who I got into the most fights is now of my only friends of sorts. (more on that in a bit)

I used to/still do hang out with the cool kids as I thought they were guenuinally my friends and now all they do is take the piss out of anything I do. And I have no Idea how to react to it. It drives me crazy but I have no ability to do anything.

I also hate anyone who is on the same level as me and will try to isolate my self from them.

Times change, I went into secondary school with 3 close firends and by the time the 5 years were up, none of us spoke to eachother. You make more friends and forget about old ones. It sounds bad but that is just life.

At the end of the year I leave to go to college and I plan to have a fresh start.

 

[Kortney]

High School, because that's "rough for everyone" except of course all the dicks in your high school with their magical perfect lives of course.

I understand the tenderness you face with this issue, and for good reason too - but just because someone isn't bullied in high school doesn't mean they have a perfect life or must be a dick.

 

[The Man With the Soap]

I never really got much physical bullying for very long.

As soon as people realised that trying to hit me was going to result in me hurting them in some way (even if I got hurt a lot more) they kinda stopped.

without fear, they didn't bother with physical abuse.

However, I found myself socially ostracised because of it. You pity the kid who gets bullied, the kid who smashes the bully's head into a wall you fear.

Fancy a bit of the ol' ultr-violence, eh? A few horrorshow tolchocks to the litso will send most upstart lewdies running and boo hoo hooing.

In all seriousness, though, I'm right there with you. I've always been a bit of a loner, and most people don't like a loner. But, I've always been a fairly large and physically intimidating sort of person, so I haven't had much of the physical violence taken out on me. That's probably due largely to the fact that I really enjoy a good fight. Most of my bullying comes verbally and over the internet, but no one ever really has the guts to say anything to my face. They prefer to start the nasty sort of rumors. One of my friends told me that most of the kids at school think I'm going to shoot up the place. So, all in all, I guess I can't be complaining. As you said, the key not being physically bullied is to hit harder than the bullies.

Mostly emotionally. After my parents died, I became very unsure of myself and a bit out of place to most people. That typically lead to the popular girls teasing me for being sensitive, or causing problems for me whenever I was alone. It became much easier when I started hanging out with my best friends (thank god for lunch switches) though.

If I may, I offer my condolences for the passings of your parents (however small they must seem). I take it that you did not go around the school trumpetting the news of your parents' deaths, so not many people probably knew the emotional trauma you were suffering. They probably only knew you as "that weird girl," making you an easy target for their abuse. Another example of how people will always think that they can tell everything about you without ever talking to you. Those kinds of bullies are the lowest to me, because they never confront you directly unless they are backed up by a group of friends. Girls aren't the only ones that do this, but they certainly do it a lot. This is what goes on in school. This is why I can't see any point in going through four more years of college after high school.

I was never bullied at school, but my Dad seriously abused me for about five years straight. I guess that counts?

I guess you're lucky you've never been bullied, but I would have to say that parental abuse is much worse. All I can say is, "That sucks, and I hope you're alright now."

 

[Knusper]

I never really got properly bullied, some people used to jokingly speculate that I was gay, but they do that for about half the year group.

I guess I am too charismatic, confident and big to be bullied.

 

[OniaPL]

I was called names and etc. since the first grade, usually for most amusing things. The thing was, ever since I was a kid I have been taller and stronger than most, and never got bullied physically. Occasionally some people attacked me but I just struck them down. But to be honest, if it weren't for my father, I would have seriously injured my bullies. But he forbid me from ever attacking anyone, and I had no choice but to comply. Anyways, for the first couple of years all the name calling and shunning really wore me out and it really hurted. But I grew used to it and started to laugh at everyone who called me names from afar, but didn't have the guts to come close.

Of course, I have couple of bad memories from being handled by the older kids. For example, my pants were taken from me one day.

But more than all those people who bullied me, it was my "friends" who hurted me the most. One day at school I got impaled by a wooden fence (I fell on it while standing on it), and it made a really bad injury. Blood was coming out of my stomach and I remember just laying on the fence. And every single ************ laughed at me, went to class and left me there, wishing me good luck.

I was at 8th grade almost misanthropic, but it then turned to some kind of apathy (I'm not sure if that's the right word).

But the thing I was shunned for was that I didn't do what others did and I didn't wear the same clothes as others did. Even today, this continues in a lesser form.

 

[dragonslayer32]

I am at secondary school now and in it you have the cool kids and the 'retards'. The cool kids well thats kind of self explanetory. The 'retards' were anyone who was different to the cool kids.

In middle school I started many fights ,for some reason, and lost most of them. The one person who I got into the most fights is now of my only friends of sorts. (more on that in a bit)

I used to/still do hang out with the cool kids as I thought they were guenuinally my friends and now all they do is take the piss out of anything I do. And I have no Idea how to react to it. It drives me crazy but I have no ability to do anything.

I also hate anyone who is on the same level as me and will try to isolate my self from them.

Times change, I went into secondary school with 3 close firends and by the time the 5 years were up, none of us spoke to eachother. You make more friends and forget about old ones. It sounds bad but that is just life.

At the end of the year I leave to go to college and I plan to have a fresh start.

Good for you. That is what I done and I have made friends there that I would trust with my life. Good luck.

 

[dragonslayer32]

I got bullied quite a bit (the usual stuff, kicked, punched, name calling) until year 8 when I hit 6 foot.

By year eight, do you mean eight years old, or eighth grade?

Because if it's the former than:

YOU'RE HUGE!!

Year 8 in secondary school (England). I was about 14.

 

[TheNewDemoman]

Mostly emotionally. After my parents died, I became very unsure of myself and a bit out of place to most people. That typically lead to the popular girls teasing me for being sensitive, or causing problems for me whenever I was alone. It became much easier when I started hanging out with my best friends (thank god for lunch switches) though.

I feel sorry for you, one of the few nice people here -_-


But as for myself, well despite my size I am quite the softy. So I am a moving target for insults, also I am 1/2 Black 1/2 White.

This one guy called me a "half breed mother f***er"

I gave him a good shiner

One of the "few nice people" here? hey, screw you, you half-breed motherfuc

heeeey! One of the few?!

Also, I've never really been bullied. In fact, I used to be the bully years ago (something I really regret, even though I, and those I've bullied have learned to forget and forgive, and some of them are actually really good friends of mine now). The closest was maybe how the whole of my class called me Joshua in a mocking sort of way.

See? My only example of me being bullied is me being called a name that is, by any means, a normal name (and I don't even know why I was so irked by it back then; even considered changing schools (though it was only a thought) and once even left school early. I'm really quite perlexed, since if that happened now, I'd pay no mind to it).

You best be trollin my brother.

 

[Whateveralot]

I was bullied both physically and emotionally. I was called a loser for a part of my life (10-15 years old), a really bad time. I was really small, never had a girlfriend and I was pushed around by classmates. Eventually, my only mate was a loser I was just stuck with.

I tried to get out, make friends. I did make some friends, had a great time until they moved out of town. Then sat still socially for about 2 years, making the best of my time. I met a few girls, made some friends but never went out a lot. Eventually things grew on me, I learnt a lot, I conquered the fear of myself I apparently had. It wasn't the world that was holding me back, it was ME that was holding me back. I am 21 now. My social life is blooming right before my eyes. I meet new people every week, don't have trouble finding girls and chat up with them, chances seem to be right there, waiting for me. It's all about living.

A funny example that happened today was that I dropped something on the floor when talking to two pretty girls. My usual reaction 2 years ago? Blushing, looking away, picking it up quickly and becoming silent until someone mentions how stupid I am. Even if they don't, I'd still feel like they're thinking it. Right now I just went..."ah shit, now I'll have to pick it up", and picked it up. Careless. No one said a thing about it, they didn't even care.


To everyone that was ever bullied out there:
Forgive yourself. It is not your fault, you just didn't know what to do. Learn from the things that happened as they can make you a stronger person. Most importantly: live. Radiate energy. Be enthousiastic about other people's life as they are interesting. Don't worry about giving little parts of you away. You are amazing.

 

[Zachary Unkle]

Insulted because of: Weight,superior intellect,height,glasses,being a member of the band,not playing sports,being a gamer and supposedly having no friends and no life.

 

[Jack Macaque]

My dad explained to me that I had to stick up for myself, since no one else would.

He was the black sheep in his family and had a terrible childhood. Now he has an entire empire in the palm of his hand, that he made from the ground up.

He told me that if someone made fun of me, or hit me, or bullied me, to hit them right in the face.

Now this was told to me after months of teasing and bullying(I got hit by a car 2 days into summer vacation, cast from hip to toe on left leg for 6 months, so I got pretty fat even though I was 7 or 8), so it was a relief for me.

I started standing up for myself, and my friends, I became an anti-bully in my eyes, people looked up to me as some sort of, well, hero.

So began my reign of anti-terror, which last for quite a few years, many fights, suspensions, charges, expulsions, and most importantly, doing the right thing.

I stuck up for myself and people who had no one to stand up for them and was praised for it, not that I got drunk with power, it just felt good, karma I suppose.

That's what kids really need, someone to stick up for them, not more sessions with some doctor or some other fool, they need someone to look up to, someone to help.

IMO of course.

 

[TheMetalGuy]

I grew up in a ghetto and got picked on by many of the black kids. (They were racist barstards)
It all stopped when i started beating them up, and I was never picked on again.
(I got a scary reputation though) =X

 

[FamoFunk]

Well, I was shown a picture of me being tied to a tree, with a shotgun shoved against my back.

Then, teachers began emotionally abusing me. Screaming at me, insulting me, locking me in an isolated room for hours on end, denying me lunch and not letting me go home when everyone else did.

What the fuck?! Are you serious man?!?!?!

I've never been bullied, never physically and the only verbal was in jest between me and people I got along with (you know, they friendly banter of insulting eachother)

My school was pretty amazing tbh.

 

[dashiz94]

Mostly emotionally. After my parents died, I became very unsure of myself and a bit out of place to most people. That typically lead to the popular girls teasing me for being sensitive, or causing problems for me whenever I was alone. It became much easier when I started hanging out with my best friends (thank god for lunch switches) though.

Wow, that's terrible. I remember the kid's making fun of my grandfather after he died because they thought "Well he's dead now, so we can insult him all we want!"

I think I bruised one kid's arm badly and almost broke the other's nose before we were all suspended.

If you don't mind me asking, how did your parent's die?

 

[Wilko316]

I'm glad I've never truly been bullied, I just managed to stay away from those kind of people. Tbh I made most of the tough guys laugh so if anything I had them on my side somewhat.
I can empathise with what's being said though, I got beaten up once by some kid from another school I didn't even know and that was damn awful.

 

[snowman6251]

I'm always shocked by the things I read in these threads. The bullying at my school was so close to non-existent that I have a hard time actually believing all this stuff goes on. My school had some bullying in Middle School but once we got to high school everyone just kind of laid off everyone else. There was very little shit given to the "weird" kids. People just found their group and stuck with it.