Parasondox said:
It is a small example of a larger problem.
That website is one for business networking, nothing more. This old married lawyer used it to message a much younger Lawyer and tell her she is stunning, when she slaps him on the wrist, he comes out with the shittiest excuse ever and said he was referring to the composition of the shot.
Women play a part in reducing themselves to being nothing but sex symbols. Wearing tight clothes, push up bra's, make up, spanx, cosmetic surgery, creams, powders, hair dies, shaving, beauty therapy, low tops and short skirts. Strippers, prostitutes, cam girls, porn stars, booth babes and models all reduce women to their psychical appearance. We value a beautiful looking woman over an ugly one.
Just look at cosplayers, I know you all love to or game characters in general ... boobs and butts everywhere! Characters like Bayonnetta and I know women love her and think she dresses "cute" but these are also the same people who wear leggings year round, which don't leave much to the imagination.
HOWEVER, even though that is true (and I am sure I am about to get a lot of quotes saying other wise) men are the main problem.
How often do you see/hear men complimenting each other the same way? The OP says he "I would say it to guys too" really? What do you say "hi gorgeous"? "looking ripped today!"? Ever send a message to a random guy on a social site and tell him he looks stunning? what about handsome?
Then there is "locker room talk", not all men do it but guys, the way some of us talk about women ... I mean, I often hear their gender being ripped out, it is like you're talking about literal meat. "look at the arse on that!" THAT! Not "her" but that ... like how you would describe any other OBJECT ... "look at the spoiler on THAT car", "look at the case on THAT pc", "look at the marbling on THAT meat".
Guys having competitions to see who can shag the most different girls, guys are studs but women are sluts.
Then when a woman says "nah, I don't want to be treated like this and ogled" she gets abuse and slapped down "Note to self, women who use the word sexist are bitches. kthx."
"the woman is a joke and most will view her as just that, might I suggest she gets out more and gets a life, because she obviously doesn't have one at the moment lmao"
"The woman seems to have obvious emotional issues."
"Wow. In what setting was it really appropriate to publically shame someone over something this minor? How is that justified in this case? She should have just sent the message and let it be. Now she seems like a total spaz that no one would want to work with.
That aside, this is hardly a bad compliment. I was expecting much worse. Take it easy world, you can be attractive and smart. Given the choice between two candidates with equal credentials, you take the more attractive candidate. Why? Because as with the case of hiring, you can only know so much about someone from an interview and background check. But if you can tell someone takes care of themselves, it says a lot." (perfect example of what I was saying "Given the choice between two candidates with equal credentials, you take the more attractive candidate.")
I am sure there are worse around.
I can't talk for women but if I was getting comments on my appearance day in and day out, I would get annoyed to. The men probably only see it as "well I only complimented her" but what if you're the 25th person that day to say something? "How about once just a compliment about my intelligence or work ethic or punctuality or accomplishments, no, it always has to be about how I look".
I am sure women compliment men but I don't think I have ever seen a car full of girl honk at a guy or cat call/wolf whistle or making a passing comment to a strange guy about his looks.
I know I have to say this 'cos otherwise people will try to call me out on it but (and as always) I am generalizing a lot ... I don't think I should have to be super accurate about how often it happens 'cos who is really to say.
I just think women should be treated as people, not as a sexual conquest. Do people really need to comment on others appearance that much?
EDIT: everybody is posting little paragraphs and I wade in with war and peace.
SO, TLDR:
Men should stop being on the prowl all the god damn time. Time and place to try and pick up the ladies or cheat on your wife (I know this great site for that, it's called Ashley Madison ...) and a business networking site, isn't it!
Women, try to not care so much about your looks. Be presentable by all means but don't try and look like a lady from a magazine! Maybe if you stop putting so much effort into it, men will put less effort into trying to add you to their notch collection.
