I hate you Dr. Freud...

[Wintermoot]

just keep the relation ship I dont think this means anything and is just coinincednce also wasnt Freud debunked?

 

[solidstatemind]

As somebody who actually has degrees in the field, I can tell you that Freud's theories are often grossly misunderstood. In re: Oedipus Complex, for example, it really isn't about wanting to fuck your mom. It's about being fixated on her in an unhealthy manner as your primary role model for sexual roles. An antagonistic attitude towards your dad or father figure usually goes along with this.

The bottom line is that- as many have noted above- you are going to favor women with traits similar to your mom because that's what you know and are thus comfortable with in women. You should only become worried if you ONLY find women like that attractive, and even then, it's not like it's crippling. The world is full of momma's boys.

TLR - don't worry about it. It's not nearly as big a deal as you think.

 

[Darktau]

That's.. Kinda creepy, but it's not reason to break up the relationship if you really like the girl. It seems like petty reasoning, if you ask me..

What mcDoggy said.

Although I can't seen myself data a replica of my mother... My list of criteria for my girlfriend means the total count of girls that fit them is less than 1.

 

[Riobux]

Escapist, I realized not too long ago, that I'm dating my mother. Not literally of course, but the girl that I have fallen for is so much like my mother it scares me. They both have brown/reddish hair, both are scorpios, both have the same interests and hobbies. Hell, my girlfriend even gets the illnesses as my mother. So what should I do? Should I try and find a girl who's different; or just accept this relationship as it is?

Let me go down saying this: Freud didn't exactly talk much sense when it came to things like this and theories like the oedipus complex have become almost laughable among the psychology community.

That being said, I think you're over-analysing the similarities between your girlfriend and your mother. Even if they are very similar, is it really a bad thing? I don't see how it's good or bad to be fair.

Edit: Wanted to come off as less mean towards Dr Freud. He did do some fantastic things, just some of his theories are laughable...

 

[Erana]

Dislike Freud now? Try being a woman!

Really, though, its not a problem as long as its a healthy relationship.

 

[antipunt]

Dun hate the playa. Hate the game

 

[Booze Zombie]

It's just how things go, if you liked your mother, you'll look for traits you've grown to appreciate in other people.
This doesn't mean you want to sleep with your mother, it just means you learnt what you liked in a personality when you were young.

 

[More Fun To Compute]

You only think that you hate Freud because he reminds you of your father.

 

[The_Echo]

This is easy. Do you like her? If yes, proceed.

Does her similarity to your mother pose any kind of problem? If no, proceed.

Keep it the way it is, there's nothing wrong with it.

 

[oktalist]

both are scorpios

That's not a similarity.

 

[Woodsey]

Escapist, I realized not too long ago, that I'm dating my mother. Not literally of course, but the girl that I have fallen for is so much like my mother it scares me. They both have brown/reddish hair, both are scorpios, both have the same interests and hobbies. Hell, my girlfriend even gets the illnesses as my mother. So what should I do? Should I try and find a girl who's different; or just accept this relationship as it is?

*Shudder*

Don't tell me you believe in astrology.

Anyway, that's a little weird but perhaps you're overreacting. As long as you don't kill your father so you can fuck your mother I don't think there's anything to worry about particularly.

 

[William Dickbringer]

Escapist, I realized not too long ago, that I'm dating my mother. Not literally of course, but the girl that I have fallen for is so much like my mother it scares me. They both have brown/reddish hair, both are scorpios, both have the same interests and hobbies. Hell, my girlfriend even gets the illnesses as my mother. So what should I do? Should I try and find a girl who's different; or just accept this relationship as it is?

hey I suggest you stay with her who knows maybe there will be some differences between the two
just outta curiosity how long have you two been going out

 

[shogunblade]

I never thought about it, but my first fell into something of the same boat: Her birthday and my mom's Birthday were about a week apart from each others, but they were close enough they followed the same astrological sign.

Stupidly, I almost broke up with her because she reminded me of my sister.

Got over that, she wasn't my sister, and I certainly loved her more than my sister.

Don't read too much into that last sentence, I love my sister, but not in THAT way.