I need advice...

[Snowalker]

Ok, I know these threads get old, but my friends really aren't helping me and I'm at my wits end.


Ok, so last year this girl I liked for almost a year said she liked me. Well, cause of my idiot friends and my cold feet, I didn't ask her out. Well, I didn't talk to her over the summer and schools startedback and I think she still likes me. I've talked to her a little bit, and I really like her, but I have two problems. I can't figure out a way to find out if she has a boyfriend, and I'm not sure how to proceed without that knowledge. See we talk some on the phone, but very little, and some in person, but again very little, so I know I'm not in the "friend zone" but I also don't know if she still likes me that way anymore. So I do the stupid move and ask a bunch of random people on the internet for advice.


Thanks ahead of time

 

[Avaholic03]

What's so hard about telling her how you feel? Worst thing that can happen is she tells you she's already got a boyfriend, or that she's not interested. Either way, you know where you stand. If you really want to be with her, you'll grow the balls necessary to make a move.

 

[grimsprice]

Basically, your best bet would be to get a party or something going and invite her over, or you could just grow some balls and ask her if she wants to go somewhere sometime.

 

[the protaginist]

See if she wants to do something sometime, judge her reaction. If she gets weirded out, let on that more people will be coming along.

Best advice i can offer.

 

[Pandalisk]

You dont know how to find out if she has a boyfriend? dude thats like one of those playful things you do to pick up a girl, isnt that scratched into the males DNA?..

just ask her if she has a boyfriend, its simple "Hey you gotta boyfriend?" with a smile to boot, then if she says no, then take it from there, become close to her ectera ecetera, if she says yes, then alls fair in love and war, go for it anyway,

 

[Vanguard_Ex]

Ok, I know these threads get old, but my friends really aren't helping me and I'm at my wits end.


Ok, so last year this girl I liked for almost a year said she liked me. Well, cause of my idiot friends and my cold feet, I didn't ask her out. Well, I didn't talk to her over the summer and schools startedback and I think she still likes me. I've talked to her a little bit, and I really like her, but I have two problems. I can't figure out a way to find out if she has a boyfriend, and I'm not sure how to proceed without that knowledge. See we talk some on the phone, but very little, and some in person, but again very little, so I know I'm not in the "friend zone" but I also don't know if she still likes me that way anymore. So I do the stupid move and ask a bunch of random people on the internet for advice.


Thanks ahead of time

Man, all I can say is: Just go for it. Charge right in. Not recklessly, of course. If it doesn't go your way, the knowledge that you went down swinging softens the blow so much you barely feel it. And if it goes your way, congratulations, you've got yourself a girlfriend. Go go go.

 

[Hammered]

well guessing by the little or minimal conversations you have, and that you dont know if she has a boyfriend or not, guessing its mainly a physical atraction or a "crush" as its called, confidence is key in these situations, just go in and ask her out somewhere or just tell her that you like her, whatever, you have a 50/50 chance as its gonna be a yes or a no, either way you will find out what you need to know, and if it turns out to be a no then its not ment to be and you will get over it..

 

[Insanum]

Ok, I know these threads get old, but my friends really aren't helping me and I'm at my wits end.


Ok, so last year this girl I liked for almost a year said she liked me. Well, cause of my idiot friends and my cold feet, I didn't ask her out. Well, I didn't talk to her over the summer and schools startedback and I think she still likes me. I've talked to her a little bit, and I really like her, but I have two problems. I can't figure out a way to find out if she has a boyfriend, and I'm not sure how to proceed without that knowledge. See we talk some on the phone, but very little, and some in person, but again very little, so I know I'm not in the "friend zone" but I also don't know if she still likes me that way anymore. So I do the stupid move and ask a bunch of random people on the internet for advice.


Thanks ahead of time

OK, Remember FB can be your best friend for "covert" checking of someones relationship status. If she starts talking about some other guy a lot then your either in the "friend zone" or she probably does have a bf.

Failing that, Just hold your head up high & ask her out (although that can be easier said then done)

 

[Hammered]

oh and just thought, try to facebook/myspace/bebo (whatever social networking site) her, surely she will have it stated there if she has a boyfriend..

 

[shootthebandit]

if you like her then go for it

 

[Snowalker]

oh and just thought, try to facebook/myspace/bebo (whatever social networking site) her, surely she will have it stated there if she has a boyfriend..

she doesn't have one... I know, crazy right?...

 

[Pimppeter2]

Ask a friend of hers that your close with, At least if they end up telling her it won't be that awkward.

 

[Snowalker]

Ask a friend of hers that your close with, At least if they end up telling her it won't be that awkward.

Problem with this is, the only friend I have that is that close is also a guy, and he can get just about any girl he wants, and I really don't want her thinking he like her, maybe she won't though he has agirl friend now.

 

[JanatUrlich]

Just go for it and if she says she's got a boyfriend, back off. Or you could you know, just ask her if she has a boyfriend? Because that makes your attentions clear and spares you the embarassment of confessing your undying love for her

 

[El Poncho]

I suggest you say that you like her and she will probably mention if she has a boyfriend or not.

 

[Snowalker]

I suggest you say that you like her and she will probably mention if she has a boyfriend or not.

Ok, well, I tried something similar to this, but it came out more like "you know, I really like talking to you..." and she just asked "why?" and I got nervous again.

 

[Pimppeter2]

Ask a friend of hers that your close with, At least if they end up telling her it won't be that awkward.

Problem with this is, the only friend I have that is that close is also a guy, and he can get just about any girl he wants, and I really don't want her thinking he like her, maybe she won't though he has agirl friend now.

What are you, 16 or something? Im 15, and trust me, just go for it. It might be embarrasing but you really have nothing to lose, even if she rejects you no one will care after a while. Its better than not knowing

 

[antipunt]

I recommend most of the approaches given in this thread by others. The bottom line (that overlaps in many of them) for sure is to eventually ask her out in one way or another, if you like her (this includes direct and indirect approaches)

 

[blank0000]

laddie, the best solutions to these things come from those who are actually their " I.E YOU" internet folks are prone to sway one way or the other on these things, and can channel their own personal experiences , which may not be as relevant to yours as they might assume. That being said, if you ever have a matter similar to this use THIS WEBSITE:

teenhelp.org . They kinda specialize in these things, i'm all for the escapist forums branching out, but it's probably for the best that you go somewhere a little more specialized.

NOW as far as advice on the actual matter.

Just ask her "so...do you dig me or what?" if no then you know, if so then that's great for you. Sitting on it is what got you here in the first place, the sooner you address the problem with HER the sooner you can both work toward a solution "wink wink nudge nudge"

 

[Merteg]

Ask her.

The worst that could happen is social ridicule.