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Judgement101

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Haseo21 said:
child of lileth said:
Haseo21 said:
child of lileth said:
If you want to date her, and you already talk and stuff, just tell her you like her, and ask her out. Just be confident, and pretty to the point about it when you do.
Its not that simple, she's.....a really complicated person (trust me I have never had this sort of thing happen with other girls......but the other girls if they reject me Ill be like "Pfft, whatever, your loss" but thats not the case here)
Okay, so she's special to you then? Even more reason to just go for it. If you don't do it, she'll never know how you feel about her. Trust me, the worst she can do is say no. You'll still be friends just like now. If she says yes, you got a date.

The thing is, guys seem to wait too long to make their feelings clear, and then get mad when they "get put in the friend zone" or whatever. Trust me, it's alot worse when guys aren't just upfront about it. You'll feel alot better once you just talk to her about it, and get it over with. If she doesn't feel the same way about you, that's just how it is. You can't really change that, but it's better to find out for sure, than to just not even try and put it off too long.
No offense, i dont think I can risk that. I asked her to homecoming a few years back, and all i got was awkward silence and we stopped speaking for awhile until i said i was sorry, so I could only imagine what telling her I love her is gonna do
How about you just stay friends for a little while longer? It seems like you're doing the exact thing I did except then I asked them out and everything went to hell from there.
 

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No offense, i dont think I can risk that. I asked her to homecoming a few years back, and all i got was awkward silence and we stopped speaking for awhile until i said i was sorry, so I could only imagine what telling her I love her is gonna do
Don't worry, I know what you mean. I'm not offended or anything.

I see. Well, maybe she just doesn't feel the same way about you. I mean, I know it sucks to think that, but maybe she just doesn't. I still say just explain your feelings to her, and that way you can at least know for sure. I'm sure if she doesn't like you back, she'll at least be nice about letting you know. And again, either way, knowing fir sure will feel alot better than being in that purgatory of not knowing forever like right now.

Anyway, good luck, and I hope it turns out well for you.
 

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child of lileth said:
Haseo21 said:
No offense, i dont think I can risk that. I asked her to homecoming a few years back, and all i got was awkward silence and we stopped speaking for awhile until i said i was sorry, so I could only imagine what telling her I love her is gonna do
Don't worry, I know what you mean. I'm not offended or anything.

I see. Well, maybe she just doesn't feel the same way about you. I mean, I know it sucks to think that, but maybe she just doesn't. I still say just explain your feelings to her, and that way you can at least know for sure. I'm sure if she doesn't like you back, she'll at least be nice about letting you know. And again, either way, knowing fir sure will feel alot better than being in that purgatory of not knowing forever like right now.

Anyway, good luck, and I hope it turns out well for you.
......Thank you, really, thank you very much, :)
 

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Regardless. I wish you success! I love it when love blossoms. [sub]What? Leave me and my romantically obsession alone.[/sub]
 

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Vesuvius Hetlan said:
Regardless. I wish you success! I love it when love blossoms. [sub]What? Leave me and my romantically obsession alone.[/sub]
I'm actually the same way.

OT: Good luck and whaever you do just remember "IT'S A TRAP!"
 

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Judgement101 said:
Vesuvius Hetlan said:
Regardless. I wish you success! I love it when love blossoms. [sub]What? Leave me and my romantically obsession alone.[/sub]
I'm actually the same way.

OT: Good luck and whaever you do just remember "IT'S A TRAP!"
Hmm? Another guy with an absolute overpowering obsession to read about manga character's love lives?
 

Judgement101

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Vesuvius Hetlan said:
Judgement101 said:
Vesuvius Hetlan said:
Regardless. I wish you success! I love it when love blossoms. [sub]What? Leave me and my romantically obsession alone.[/sub]
I'm actually the same way.

OT: Good luck and whaever you do just remember "IT'S A TRAP!"
Hmm? Another guy with an absolute overpowering obsession to read about manga character's love lives?
It's sort of a don't ask don't tell topic to me. I wouldn't say overpowering but very powering.
 

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Judgement101 said:
Vesuvius Hetlan said:
Judgement101 said:
Vesuvius Hetlan said:
Regardless. I wish you success! I love it when love blossoms. [sub]What? Leave me and my romantically obsession alone.[/sub]
I'm actually the same way.

OT: Good luck and whaever you do just remember "IT'S A TRAP!"
Hmm? Another guy with an absolute overpowering obsession to read about manga character's love lives?
It's sort of a don't ask don't tell topic to me. I wouldn't say overpowering but very powering.
Ah. Don't worry! I'm very good at keeping secrets!
 

Judgement101

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Swollen Goat said:
Yeah, seeing your situation I'm pretty sure you're friend-zoned. So you have two choices: Let her know how you feel anyway so you don't have the regret of not at least trying, or accept that you're only friends and move on. Who knows? Maybe she'll be impressed with your confidence and think of you in a different light.
I'm sorry but I can't take you seriously because your avatar is so hilarious.
 

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Haseo21 said:
child of lileth said:
Haseo21 said:
child of lileth said:
If you want to date her, and you already talk and stuff, just tell her you like her, and ask her out. Just be confident, and pretty to the point about it when you do.
Its not that simple, she's.....a really complicated person (trust me I have never had this sort of thing happen with other girls......but the other girls if they reject me Ill be like "Pfft, whatever, your loss" but thats not the case here)
Okay, so she's special to you then? Even more reason to just go for it. If you don't do it, she'll never know how you feel about her. Trust me, the worst she can do is say no. You'll still be friends just like now. If she says yes, you got a date.

The thing is, guys seem to wait too long to make their feelings clear, and then get mad when they "get put in the friend zone" or whatever. Trust me, it's alot worse when guys aren't just upfront about it. You'll feel alot better once you just talk to her about it, and get it over with. If she doesn't feel the same way about you, that's just how it is. You can't really change that, but it's better to find out for sure, than to just not even try and put it off too long.
No offense, i dont think I can risk that. I asked her to homecoming a few years back, and all i got was awkward silence and we stopped speaking for awhile until i said i was sorry, so I could only imagine what telling her I love her is gonna do
I have to tell you something my fellow escapist.
2 years ago I once had a crush on a girl myself, and i really though she might have been the one. (well not sure abut being the one but she was special to me)
I knew her for a year and during the summer i thought about asking her out after some weird dreams i had about her. So i thought that on the first day of school i will confront her,
but it was to late and she moved to a new school. If you really feel that she is special to you then tell her and hope she'll understand (she just might). If she does like you then she might just be shy and its up to one of you to tell the other.
I hope it will work out with you two if it does happen. (tell me if you do try)
 

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Clearly you should go to the gym more (probably employing a montage) and undergo an intense physical transformation before saving the world as a mysterious secret agent.

She won't be able to resist you then.
 

Macgyvercas

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Fun. More work for BonsaiK. Where is he anyway? He's the one to ask about these things.

My advice? Honesty is the best policy (Benjamin Franklin). However, it can go one of two ways: the way you want it to (she likes you back) or the way you don't want it to (she likes you as a friend). It's up to you to tell her or not, but be prepared to face either situation. However, if you don't tell her, she'll never know how you feel (unless she's excellent at reading people) and you'll be left wondering what could have happened.

Christ, I seem to be channeling Aylaine and BonsaiK at the same time. HOW COOL IS THAT!?!
 

Judgement101

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Macgyvercas said:
Christ, I seem to be channeling Aylaine and BonsaiK at the same time. HOW COOL IS THAT!?!
Really cool, both of them give great advice so congrats! You win for today.
 

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Swollen Goat said:
Judgement101 said:
Swollen Goat said:
Yeah, seeing your situation I'm pretty sure you're friend-zoned. So you have two choices: Let her know how you feel anyway so you don't have the regret of not at least trying, or accept that you're only friends and move on. Who knows? Maybe she'll be impressed with your confidence and think of you in a different light.
I'm sorry but I can't take you seriously because your avatar is so hilarious.
Oh, so I amuse you? What am I, some sort of clown? Do I make you laugh?

That made me laugh also. :3
 

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Judgement101 said:
Macgyvercas said:
Christ, I seem to be channeling Aylaine and BonsaiK at the same time. HOW COOL IS THAT!?!
Really cool, both of them give great advice so congrats! You win for today.
Awesomeness. Though I hope BonsaiK won't mind that I intruded on his territory a little.
 

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Asking that kind of question here is more inappropriate than going to Sudan wearing a suit made entierly out of food.