This is a particularly difficult and uncomfortable situation ^^"
I have to say, I have a friend who has a habit of dating psychotic girls. One he went out with for nearly 3 years, who did everything from cheat on him, to getting pregnant by his best friend, and making my friend help pay for everything, from her university fees, to her rent, to her dads funeral, and so on. Long story short; this girl = epic *****.
I never really got to see him after he started dating her (I'm a girl friend, therefore I was competition apparently, but we still managed to meet up every so often. I basically let him know how I felt about it as tactfully as possible. At the end of the day it was his life and although I was concerned for his wellbeing, if he was happy with that then fine.
Most of the time he would sit there and shrug and go, "yeah I know, but she just needed the help" and I could only respond with "well fair enough if you want to help her just don't let it get out of control, you earn this money for you".
3 years down the line, I was the one sat with him in a service station at 4am talking to him about how it all went wrong and why it went wrong and just being there for him. a
People are meant to make their own mistakes for a reason. My advice was only there for him because I was concerned, and I never said "leave her now" I just pointed out certain things and asked him if he was okay with that.
/end epic wall of text
TL;DR Be there for your friend, but you cannot make his mind up for him. If this turns out to be a mistake, let him make it. Show concern as a friend but don't rant at him, it'll backfire and he'll blame you for interfering.
I have to say, I have a friend who has a habit of dating psychotic girls. One he went out with for nearly 3 years, who did everything from cheat on him, to getting pregnant by his best friend, and making my friend help pay for everything, from her university fees, to her rent, to her dads funeral, and so on. Long story short; this girl = epic *****.
I never really got to see him after he started dating her (I'm a girl friend, therefore I was competition apparently, but we still managed to meet up every so often. I basically let him know how I felt about it as tactfully as possible. At the end of the day it was his life and although I was concerned for his wellbeing, if he was happy with that then fine.
Most of the time he would sit there and shrug and go, "yeah I know, but she just needed the help" and I could only respond with "well fair enough if you want to help her just don't let it get out of control, you earn this money for you".
3 years down the line, I was the one sat with him in a service station at 4am talking to him about how it all went wrong and why it went wrong and just being there for him. a
People are meant to make their own mistakes for a reason. My advice was only there for him because I was concerned, and I never said "leave her now" I just pointed out certain things and asked him if he was okay with that.
/end epic wall of text
TL;DR Be there for your friend, but you cannot make his mind up for him. If this turns out to be a mistake, let him make it. Show concern as a friend but don't rant at him, it'll backfire and he'll blame you for interfering.