I really need help...

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Or you could try manning up and getting your act together. That whole unfortunate business of becoming an adult <.<

I'd like to tell you it gets better, but it only gets worse.

I will say that if you're like 90% of everybody else on the planet you shall weather the storm and end up with an adequate job, with an adequate life, with an adequate level of usefulness.

 

[crazyguy668]

on the fat thing, eating healthy helps a lot. ive never eaten very much, but i still gained weight. recently ive started eating a bit healthier(not even really healthy) and its helped a lot, ive lost a bit of weight and thats without changing really much else.

 

[dragonslayer32]

If she is happy in her relationship and you truly love her, let her go. I have had to do this a couple of times myself and trust me, it hurts but it will pay off in the long run. Hang in there, don't run away or change schools because of a girl, all of us have had the load of homework, bullying and love interests but you have to think of your life as a whole. Look at where those bullys are going to be in the future, I am currently at university and the people that bullied me are working in burger king, this is VERY satisfying. If you want to lose weight, keep running (along with other cardio activities) and cut down on snacks. However, do not take it to the extreme (I noticed you said you were anorexic) your body is changing and you are bound to put on weight, everyone does. So, if you are getting into shape, I suggest taking up something like boxing, it is a great workout and you can deal with the bullying at the same time. Apart from that, just hang in there man

 

[Phoenix09215]

Although I never had that bad of a time in high school, I wasn't popular and I only had my one group of friends. But beleive me, no matter what your going through now, it WILL get better once your in college. I have only just started it yet I love it! Everyones friendly and there aren't any douchbags in sight! (probably because they have all finally grown up).

But, if you have started jogging, it shows your still care about yourself and as long as you keep it up things will get better soon

Best of luck!

 

[Uratashi]

Hey, it isn't so bad. I'm 14 too. And if I don't get a liver transplant soon I'll die! Doesn't that sound fun?

 

[Glamorgan]

If she is happy in her relationship and you truly love her, let her go. I have had to do this a couple of times myself and trust me, it hurts but it will pay off in the long run.

I have done this before too. It's what I intend to do anyway.

Hang in there, don't run away or change schools because of a girl, all of us have had the load of homework, bullying and love interests but you have to think of your life as a whole. Look at where those bullys are going to be in the future, I am currently at university and the people that bullied me are working in burger king, this is VERY satisfying.

Actually, I got to an academic school. Everyone there is extremely intelligent, and there is enormous pressure. I seriously doubt they will end up at a fast food joint, but I can always hope
If you want to lose weight, keep running (along with other cardio activities) and cut down on snacks. However, do not take it to the extreme (I noticed you said you were anorexic) your body is changing and you are bound to put on weight, everyone does. So, if you are getting into shape, I suggest taking up something like boxing, it is a great workout and you can deal with the bullying at the same time. Apart from that, just hang in there man

I have considered boxing, actually. I think that would be quite a good idea.

In short, thanks. That has helped a lot.

 

[rddj623]

The Escapist is ALWAYS better then /b/.

There is a phrase, it doesn't necessarily help take the sting away of the present but it helpful in perspective of the future. The phrase is thus: "This too shall pass." And it shall. I've lived through some really difficult times. Really. Difficult. However they have all passed, and life now is good. It's better then it has been ever I'd wager to guess. I never would have gotten here if not for perseverance however.

I encourage you to seek those few friends who really do care, who are loyal, and challenge you in genuine kindness. Dig into your hobbies as a means of working through things. Escapism can be wielded in a good way. Seek out a tutor in the subjects you need additional help with, or try to structure your time in a more directed way.

You can get through these difficult times.

 

[imnot]

*man-hug* Don't worry man, you'll be fine. Just focus on your school work, stay friends with your true ones, and come here if you ever feel down. Working hard in school means you get to be the boss of those ass hats and make 5 times their salary.

And really just keep 4-5 vids. laying around on youtube that you can watch to cheer yourself up and make you forget about stupid crap in life.

Here's a freebie:

Spoiler

You don't love those girls though, I believe that would be the hormones, that'll stop as you get older, as for now just do your best to ignore them.

WAH! what was that, I'm scared now

 

[smithy_2045]

You're 14, your life will get better. Just remember, as long as you have some intelligence and you work hard, you will be more successful in life than 80% of the morons in your school.

 

[Doclector]

I can only really provide one solution for one problem, and that's the bullies. Quite simply, fight back. It's the only language they understand. If you're worried about physically not being able to do it, don't, eventually, anger does all the hard work for you in that department. No matter how tired you are, no matter how physically inferior, you'll beat 'em up all the same. And ethically, I don't consider them even human. They're soulless cretins whose only wish in life is to cause others suffering. They deserve no mercy. Once a few come out of encounters with you worse for wear, the rest will hide from you like the cowards they are.

After that, just keep an eye out for them. They say they stop after school, but they don't, these worms are everywhere.

And about the girl, what most people have said is right, if you can get more attractive, try to do so, because as much as you may like to think people'll like you for personality, those people do not exist. If they say they do, they're liars who you'd be best avoiding.

 

[Jedoro]

Dude, I don't remember jack shit from when I was 14, so just keep that in mind: what you're going through now won't matter at all in a few years. I'd recommend picking up a copy of Fight Club and reading through that a few times. I was never really stressed out, or worried about things, but that book still did wonders for me.

Remember, you're never alone. Even if everyone around you there ends up hating you, you've still got us to talk to.

 

[Oh That Dude]

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

14 year olds think they know what love is?!?!?

LOL!!!!

You are experiencing 'LUST' if you have felt this 3 times this year alone.

Don't get carried away, everyone your age starts to feel this when puberty hits. It is normal, and not a big deal..... just make sure you don't get carried away with your thoughts of impure actions based on a girl smiling at you or 'giving you the time of day'.

You are driving yourself insane, don't try to blame an outside source, you have only yourself to blame for how you react to your initial feelings.

When you are 10 years older you will 'LOL and HAHAHA' more than I have for how silly this sounds.

Regardless, keep on fighting the good fight, and relax........ it is natural to be overwhelmed by simple attraction. Take it slow, and don't let yourself get carried away.

Way to take him seriously.

Anyway, I'm 15, now. I used to be incredibly socially anxious. I still am sometimes, but much less so. Things get better. What worked for me was working out that the people I was awkward around were, strangely, the ones least worth my worries.

 

[DSEZ]

Okay, I'm going to put it really simply. I need help, badly.

This isn't technically about a girl, but it does include one. And speaking of such...

I have fallen for a girl, who is in a serious relationship with another guy. Before you ask, I am 14, as are they, and the guy is a christian, meaning that they aren't engaging in any sexual activity. Honestly, they haven't even kissed.

Now, normally, you wouldn't think this is such a big deal, but I fall in love, way too easily. This is the 3rd girl so far this year, although I did like one already, at the beginning.

Aaaaanyway... Because of this, I have refused to let it become love. It just gets too awkward, and I'm already really good friends with her. I don't want to lose that. So, I have bottled up my emotions, and it's driving me insane.

That and everything else. I'm practically universally hated at school, I am constantly bullied, and I have so much homework, that I barely have any time for anything else. I am depressed, have chronic fatigue, I'm overweight, and anorexic, I have anxiety, I get panic attacks...

The list goes on. Sometimes, I wonder whether life is really worth living, after all of that.

So all I'm asking of you, my fellow Escapists, is whether I should just give up. I don't mean suicide, but I'm sure there are plenty of different ways. I could leave the school, run away, just ditch the people who I call my friends...

I honestly just need someone to tell me that, somehow, everything will be alright. I know that I sound really pathetic, and as you can guess, most of my friends have ditched me already.

So, here I am. Talking to the internet. Well, it's better than /b/, at any rate.

EDIT: Just so you know, I have recently started jogging, in an attempt to lose some weight.

well my advice to you is just relax and just talk to your friends

congrats on taking up jogging not many people wanna do something bout there weight

i just started running again too

just pray a bit and look around maybe youll find someone with the same problems as you

 

[skywalkerlion]

I dunno what to tell you, except when I was being fucked with in 7th grade I just told them "Fuck you" and mocked them openly. Turns out they were all a bunch of dipshit trolls that were too much a pussy to do anything about it.

And you're saying you don't have any friends? What did you do to make you "universally hated"?

EDIT: Oh, and the best self defense move is to punch someone as hard as you can in the throat.

I never tried it, but it's what my dad told me, and I could only imagine that's a ***** to have go down.

 

[Wandering hobo]

Okay, I'm going to put it really simply. I need help, badly.

This isn't technically about a girl, but it does include one. And speaking of such...

I have fallen for a girl, who is in a serious relationship with another guy. Before you ask, I am 14, as are they, and the guy is a christian, meaning that they aren't engaging in any sexual activity. Honestly, they haven't even kissed.

Now, normally, you wouldn't think this is such a big deal, but I fall in love, way too easily. This is the 3rd girl so far this year, although I did like one already, at the beginning.

Aaaaanyway... Because of this, I have refused to let it become love. It just gets too awkward, and I'm already really good friends with her. I don't want to lose that. So, I have bottled up my emotions, and it's driving me insane.

That and everything else. I'm practically universally hated at school, I am constantly bullied, and I have so much homework, that I barely have any time for anything else. I am depressed, have chronic fatigue, I'm overweight, and anorexic, I have anxiety, I get panic attacks...

The list goes on. Sometimes, I wonder whether life is really worth living, after all of that.

So all I'm asking of you, my fellow Escapists, is whether I should just give up. I don't mean suicide, but I'm sure there are plenty of different ways. I could leave the school, run away, just ditch the people who I call my friends...

I honestly just need someone to tell me that, somehow, everything will be alright. I know that I sound really pathetic, and as you can guess, most of my friends have ditched me already.

So, here I am. Talking to the internet. Well, it's better than /b/, at any rate.

EDIT: Just so you know, I have recently started jogging, in an attempt to lose some weight.

dude i wanted to post something like this too.almost word for the word i have the same situation.

 

[Dxz5roxg]

You just have to relax. Don't run away or do something stupid that you'll regret later on. In times like these you just have to stick it out and know that things will get better eventually.

When you say you're in love with a girl you don't mean it. It's just lust or a crush. Nobody falls in love three times in a year.

The bullies might be more of a problem but if everyone dislikes you as much as you say you might want to give some thought to changing schools.

Just remember life always gets better. You can't do something crazy every time you get knocked down.

 

[IkeGreil29]

Okay, I'm going to put it really simply. I need help, badly.

This isn't technically about a girl, but it does include one. And speaking of such...

I have fallen for a girl, who is in a serious relationship with another guy. Before you ask, I am 14, as are they, and the guy is a christian, meaning that they aren't engaging in any sexual activity. Honestly, they haven't even kissed.

Now, normally, you wouldn't think this is such a big deal, but I fall in love, way too easily. This is the 3rd girl so far this year, although I did like one already, at the beginning.

Aaaaanyway... Because of this, I have refused to let it become love. It just gets too awkward, and I'm already really good friends with her. I don't want to lose that. So, I have bottled up my emotions, and it's driving me insane.

That and everything else. I'm practically universally hated at school, I am constantly bullied, and I have so much homework, that I barely have any time for anything else. I am depressed, have chronic fatigue, I'm overweight, and anorexic, I have anxiety, I get panic attacks...

The list goes on. Sometimes, I wonder whether life is really worth living, after all of that.

So all I'm asking of you, my fellow Escapists, is whether I should just give up. I don't mean suicide, but I'm sure there are plenty of different ways. I could leave the school, run away, just ditch the people who I call my friends...

I honestly just need someone to tell me that, somehow, everything will be alright. I know that I sound really pathetic, and as you can guess, most of my friends have ditched me already.

So, here I am. Talking to the internet. Well, it's better than /b/, at any rate.

EDIT: Just so you know, I have recently started jogging, in an attempt to lose some weight.

Damn, mate. Sounds just like me, only I'm 16 years old. What can I say? You're 14, there's so much more that there's gonna be in your life. Try finding someone to talk to this about. Me and my friend talk daily about shit like this so we make sure that we get all the shit out of our system. But you've got to realize that you're in the same boat as possibly millions of other over-weight super duper in love guys who can't make friends easily. Just wait. Highschool is right now SO much better than middleschool, even if it is when the whole love issue started with me. If you can't find anyone, feel free to contact me.

 

[Sgt. Dante]

Okay, you really didn't read this properly, did you?
I said, this is the 3rd girl I have fallen for this year. I am the kind of guy who hangs out on an internet forum. I am single, and have always been so. I was actually referring to the girls boyfriend. He is christian, and hasn't kissed her. I am not religious.
And I said I wasn't going to kill myself. Just so that's clear.

Dude, i know from experience almost exactly where you're coming from.

Hell i only had 3 friends in high school, didn't even kiss a girl till i was 16, was the but of most school bullies (for a while, seriously, tough it out and ignore them and they'll get bored. common advice but it does work.)

however things get so much better soon, at 16 all the jerks leave school, you find more people with similar interests, you get accepted into university find a girl who loves you and get on with your life.

Being 22 now i know what it was like, and i know its hard, but one day you'll make your mark on the world and those jerks from highschool will seem like a distant memory, hell im not even bitter about all that now, life goes on and so will you.

things only get better.

 

[Gilhelmi]

Okay, I'm going to put it really simply. I need help, badly.

This isn't technically about a girl, but it does include one. And speaking of such...

I have fallen for a girl, who is in a serious relationship with another guy. Before you ask, I am 14, as are they, and the guy is a christian, meaning that they aren't engaging in any sexual activity. Honestly, they haven't even kissed.

Now, normally, you wouldn't think this is such a big deal, but I fall in love, way too easily. This is the 3rd girl so far this year, although I did like one already, at the beginning.

Aaaaanyway... Because of this, I have refused to let it become love. It just gets too awkward, and I'm already really good friends with her. I don't want to lose that. So, I have bottled up my emotions, and it's driving me insane.

That and everything else. I'm practically universally hated at school, I am constantly bullied, and I have so much homework, that I barely have any time for anything else. I am depressed, have chronic fatigue, I'm overweight, and anorexic, I have anxiety, I get panic attacks...

The list goes on. Sometimes, I wonder whether life is really worth living, after all of that.

So all I'm asking of you, my fellow Escapists, is whether I should just give up. I don't mean suicide, but I'm sure there are plenty of different ways. I could leave the school, run away, just ditch the people who I call my friends...

I honestly just need someone to tell me that, somehow, everything will be alright. I know that I sound really pathetic, and as you can guess, most of my friends have ditched me already.

So, here I am. Talking to the internet. Well, it's better than /b/, at any rate.

EDIT: Just so you know, I have recently started jogging, in an attempt to lose some weight.

My recommendation is this. Life gets better for our kind after high school. Join a couple of clubs and volunteer for stuff to do, this is how I survived HS (also I got absurdly lucky that the star athlete was a nerd also), and made some friends. Life gets better in college as it is a fresh start, just put yourself out there as you are. If you can not afford college (or if you can but would like extra money for school and expenses), Join the US Military Reserve or National Guard, or even an ROTC (Officer) school at your college. I have been yelled at in the Army but never disrespected in the Army (except for war protesters but they respect no one).

 

[Jazoni89]

congratulations you just hit puberty!

Advice to you is to wait until youre older to have any kind of relationship with a girl
seriously it's too much hassle for a young teenager such as yourself.

Any relationship that happens with people under 21 is considered a noverty and many people your age just want a girlfriend for the sake of just having one or making yourself feel "older".

It's worth the wait trust me.

and sorry no... 14 year olds can't be depressed that just your horemones playing up.