I submitted two FMLs today...
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Who says you need social interaction? I spent all my free time at college in the library writing poems and screenplays or drawing and listening to music, I had no friends whatsoever throughout college, I realised all of my friends were pricks within the first week of being there, and now we're more or less strangers to each other, not even nodding at each other despite having 7 years worth of memories. All of my actual friends were in different colleges, I barely saw them.Palademon said:
Take up an instrument (if you're musical), or do something creative. You'll find someone eventually, wouldn't you rather find someone naturally than rush around trying to find a vagina for a year, only to break up with her within a month like most people? Not to mention you've then gotta through that Q_Q phase which is a chore.
Also, you're assuming you're life is gonna die after University, it doesn't have to if you don't want it to. I'm not working in an office for 50 years until retirement. I was raised with the mentality that the best job is the one that pays the most. Fuck that, seriously. I'd rather work part time in Burger King as a struggling musician than sit it an office for half of my life buying things I couldn't possibly need. The only exception to this rule being if I need a job to support someone else, because then it isn't a decision for me alone to make.
Well if its any help, I didn't even properly kiss a girl until 17. And now I get to quite regularly. The secret I found was from one of my best friends who appears to be one of the most extroverted people in existance. Here is what he said to me...
"Always be confident, doesn't matter if its fake just appear like you are. Just wing it."
At first you (probably like I thought at the time) are like "that's terrible advice!!" But after he said this I kept a very close eye on him. Now this guy is loved by everyone, has a lot of girls after him, an insanely huge ego which makes being around him hilarious, reasonably good looking and seems to ooze confidence. However after he told me this advice I noticed that in his best moments where he attracted the most people he was actually faking (very well I might add) confidence. He admitted that half the time he had no idea what he was acually doing just making it up as he went along. After watching him do it, I tried and boy did it work. As long as you appear confident people will take notice. I'm not confident by any means but if it can work for me it can work for you. There is nothing that physically can stop you from being it. If you can overcome the mental barrier, it will be repaid tenfold.
So yeah thats my thoughts. It sounds like this girl you are refering to is a dead end. So i'd leave it personally and try someone else. Just don't appear doubtfull and keep trying. You'll get there eventually
"Always be confident, doesn't matter if its fake just appear like you are. Just wing it."
At first you (probably like I thought at the time) are like "that's terrible advice!!" But after he said this I kept a very close eye on him. Now this guy is loved by everyone, has a lot of girls after him, an insanely huge ego which makes being around him hilarious, reasonably good looking and seems to ooze confidence. However after he told me this advice I noticed that in his best moments where he attracted the most people he was actually faking (very well I might add) confidence. He admitted that half the time he had no idea what he was acually doing just making it up as he went along. After watching him do it, I tried and boy did it work. As long as you appear confident people will take notice. I'm not confident by any means but if it can work for me it can work for you. There is nothing that physically can stop you from being it. If you can overcome the mental barrier, it will be repaid tenfold.
So yeah thats my thoughts. It sounds like this girl you are refering to is a dead end. So i'd leave it personally and try someone else. Just don't appear doubtfull and keep trying. You'll get there eventually
I'm incredibly surprised the Escapist isn't ripping you a new one for whining.
Seriously, surprised.
Anyway, not having a girlfriend at 16 is not an "FML", you don't have a disease, your family love you, you're not dying and if that's your biggest problem you have it pretty well off.
Also, don't make threads just asking for sympathy, as much as 20 something internet randoms can cheer you up, I can think of better ways to fill up your day when you're depressed than posting it on the internet.
Seriously, surprised.
Anyway, not having a girlfriend at 16 is not an "FML", you don't have a disease, your family love you, you're not dying and if that's your biggest problem you have it pretty well off.
Also, don't make threads just asking for sympathy, as much as 20 something internet randoms can cheer you up, I can think of better ways to fill up your day when you're depressed than posting it on the internet.
it's just one day dude. You're only 16, there's going to be plenty of time and opportunities to get what you want. It seems like you're entire world now, but trust me, high school and the drama (or lack thereof) will all go away soon. Have fun, learn to enjoy the company of the friends you have and don't worry about the girl. You'll get one soon enough. It's all in due time friend.
Woah wait.....I was directing tht at the person who didnt know what it ment. I AM VERY...HAPPY!!! lolSacman said: