wolfister said:
Guys and girls of the escapist have you ever gotten this line from someone you really wanted to date or get together with? If so I would like to hear your experience mainly because I am trying to understand why this line seems to be so bloody common.
My personal experience happened about a year ago all through high school I had known this girl she was kind of nerdy but really awesome. We did everything together we loved the same kinds of games, music, movies etc. and well during the friendship I had really started to develop feelings for her but she was with a guy who in all definitions was a total douche. So I back off stay the close friend until finally she wakes up and dumps the asshole. Well I console her like a good friend and about 2 months pass and I finally get up the nerve to ask her out, this is where one of the biggest mind fucks that i can remember happens to me, she says to me and i quote "Oh you are so nice and I would totally date a guy like you but I consider you a really good friend".
Now I quietly backed off and went to think about that one because it just does not make sense to me. I mean if she would date a guy like me then um why not just date me? Please Escapist do your thing and post your experience and thoughts on this I would love to hear them.
edit: You know I would have been happy to keep the friendship, but when I told her how I felt well things just started to fall apart and the friendship slowly dissolved. Now I talk to her maybe once every two months if that and I know she is again dating a guy that uses her. it well really breaks my heart that even though she didn't want me she could have at least found a guy that wouldn't treat her like shit she doesn't deserve that really no one does.
Holy shit, quote of the day right here. Been going through something pretty damn identical for ...way too long now. A nice, cute girl who makes me happier than anyone else ever has, admits a liking for me, but just won't go through with it. We had a brief thing about 7 years ago, from everything we did and how much time we spent together, I assumed we were already dating. Fell madly in love with her. Then one day, she drops the bomb that someone asked her out, and she said yes. That hit hard. Spent most of the rest of the summer chasing her to no avail, and when we split to go to different colleges (45 minutes apart) we met up a couple of times and fairly dropped out of contact.
She called me a couple of times and we talked occasionally over the years, but I never called her. It took a long time, a lot of other women, but I was fairly sure I'd finally buried my feelings for her.
That was, until I ended up moving back to the town where we met, and she happened to be living back here too. We started to talk again, and occasionally hang out, and lo and behold everything I felt for her has started to bubble back up. She says she always really liked me, and we talked about how we never really stopped caring for each other all these years. However, despite hanging out occasionally and going out for a few drinks and some dancing last night, she keeps her distance for the most part when we're together, and flirts endlessly with other guys. Which, of course, is driving me crazy again. That brings up to now, and I almost feel like I've fallen back into a trap I convinced myself I wouldn't.
I know she's aloof yet flirtatious in nature, but even that knowledge doesn't lessen the blow any. I...love that damn girl.
It's freakin' amazing, that after so many other women that I've spent so much more time with and done...far more interesting things with, yet they're barely a blip on my emotional radar, yet this person who gave the best three weeks of my life at the time oh so long ago can still have this effect on me. Nobody else ever has made me so happy, yet so angry, yet so sad all at the same time.
It's maddening!
